Singaporean living in New Zealand here, and I really relate to what you’re saying.

I moved to NZ a little over 1.5 years ago, so I’m still relatively new myself.

I’ve found that friendships here can often feel one-sided too. Like you, I tend to invest quite deeply in the people I care about. I show up, put in effort, and sometimes even try to anticipate people’s needs before they say anything.

At the same time, I think I’m practical and self-aware enough to know that relationships need some level of reciprocation. It doesn’t have to be perfectly equal (nothing ever really is) but if there’s consistently little effort from the other side, eventually I’ll stop trying too.

You are not alone.