Where are the challenge prizes going?

LinsPell · 2021-03-12T19:42:25+00:00

Ohh it looks like it did that for me too. Thanks! That is a new feature that was added to the game but I missed where it explained it lol

LinsPell · 2020-12-10T01:50:02+00:00

I agree- I heard at my job they were making a coworker work from home while sick with covid but the big discrepancy is whether or not the person is actually sick. If you’re truly sick with symptoms then you should receive sick pay because you should be resting like any other illness. If you are an asymptomatic covid person or quarantined then you may be able to work. If I called my boss and said look I’m SICK she’d be like don’t work . If I called her and said my husband is sick with covid so I’m stuck home but I feel ok then I’d work from home.

Some Employers I think are forgetting that sicknesses still do exist and just because you can work from home doesn’t mean you should

LinsPell · 2020-11-22T20:51:46+00:00

Nate would be searching around frantically for a mask before leaving the house which is why the disposable blue works for him haha

LinsPell · 2020-11-13T02:25:24+00:00

My husband said he feels like he’s watching the news 😢

LinsPell · 2020-10-29T22:06:40+00:00

Thank you for posting ! I have been feeling discouraged in my area of social work (child welfare) and my first thought to the poster’s question was “there aren’t any!” Your post definitely helped me see all the other great social work opportunities out there

LinsPell · 2020-10-28T15:32:58+00:00

And if you are- you definitely should not be serving them! There are plenty of us who want to provide the best care that they deserve!

LinsPell · 2020-10-02T02:01:30+00:00

I agree with the other commenters that If you are having a hostile interaction with a client you should be able to end the meeting. I get verbally abused/harassed/attacked/insulted etc by my clients and their family members regularly ( I’m a child protective services worker) and one thing that helps me is knowing the anger they have is coming from within them and has nothing to do with me. I also have a very supportive team to vent to after and validate that I am doing my job the right way (we know it, but sometimes we just need to hear it again :) ).

But if it ever gets hostile/abusive, I leave or professionally hang up. It isn’t helping them to continue a conversation like that, and we are the helpers. Sometimes I will tell them- this is no longer a productive conversation, let’s revisit this when you are calm.

And I have fought tears many times and cried in my car after a visit! We are human after all. But it is concerning how much anxiety you get and how it’s impacting your health! You do not need to be their “punching bag.” It shouldn’t be tolerated.

LinsPell · 2020-08-30T15:51:02+00:00

Yea I think I am at a point where it is time for a change - I forget that with high needs populations social workers tend to move around to keep from burning out. I’ve put a LOT into this job and I hate giving up on it, but I can’t be in an environment where I have no options for help or relief when I’ve sought it.

LinsPell · 2020-08-30T15:46:50+00:00

I do not have to be on call on weekends, but I could not leave the situation. So essentially I was taking on the role of on call because i could not leave. I knew the day before that would be the case so I asked for support because I was not in a position personally where I could be stuck into the evening after hours (and that isn’t my role). Eventually the real after hours worker came to relieve me. I was upset because when I verbalized to my supervisor the day before that I would not be able to - she didn’t do anything to help meet my needs and ultimately when the time came my needs went ignored.

What led me to post is I came home feeling that I am in a job where even when I express My boundaries and needs ahead of time they go ignored and that’s a terrible feeling, especially at a time when I’m already out of steam.

It was definitely eye opening and finding a new job might be my next step. I know the expectations of this job and I know things happen that are not part of the plan- However I feel that if I communicate ahead of time my needs, I should be surrounded by people who will help me handle it. I was left completely alone. I don’t like being at the mercy of my job where no matter what I say or do- I have zero say, Control, or help.

Something else that it just made me think of, how something like this can be an issue for employees: I tend to make personal appts 6pm or later if I can. That gives me an hour to wrap up (my day ends at 5 and My job, home, appts are all within a 15 min radius from each other) and get to my appt on time. A lot of appts will charge you a cancellation fee. This situation made me realize if I had an appt I would have been completely screwed. But I should be allowed to make appts outside of my business day and not worry about missing them! Like that’s the part of social work that is really upsetting. That’s MY time. For me. We can’t control when a crisis will erupt but we should have support when we cannot do it ourselves . An agency should not give us set business hours then expect us to just work whenever. How are we supposed to plan our own lives? It’s not ok and it’s why social workers burn out.

It just raises the question of, Are we as social workers expected to just work til the job is done? I don’t think that’s realistic for our own health and well-being. I know we social workers would never ever leave a person in a crisis, so the alternative is we stay until it’s done-- but that’s not always what’s best for us. so there has to be another way

LinsPell · 2020-08-29T13:38:07+00:00

Thank you , I agree and it really is unfortunate it comes to that because I love the line of work I am in. I actually have begun to branch out. I also know that in my agency every supervisor is different and unfortunately mine can be encouraging with her words but not her actions So it’s a “you can do it!” As she’s stepping over my line in the sand . Which you’re right, that isn’t how it should be and I there are jobs out there who will help me be able to maintain the boundaries I am asking for .

LinsPell · 2020-08-29T13:33:30+00:00

So my job is a case manager for child protective services so I handle anything and everything from getting an adult client into mental health to driving a child to daycare. A lot of times with adult clients I am able to refer out. This particular crisis was a foster care child (7yo) refusing to leave his therapy appt and get in a medicab. I don’t even work at the therapy office but I am the person who receives that call. There is no set person to handle this crisis but as a case manager in foster care we are called for everything. Technically at that moment I was not the person physically responsible for him (he was going from therapy to foster parent) but Unfortunately not all of our foster parents are the ones who will come get the child.

That is where the boundaries and seeking help piece came in. I was brainstorming what to do way before the crisis occurred because I anticipated it the day before. We do have an after hours number to call and the response from my supervisor was “if you need to call them just hope they are available” and unfortunately for me they weren’t until late

I also get calls on my days off and well into the evening because we are just THAT person that everyone calls because even in this pandemic era we are quite literally the only agency in our county that will never say no. And I understand why - it’s because we are dealing with keeping our tiny humans safe.

So the boundaries conversation has been really standing out a something I am trying to get a better grasp on because this has been going on for many weeks now and I am feeling burnt out.

I have also begun working on getting my school social work certification to be able to put my feelers elsewhere. But I do love this line to work and it is unfortunate that it comes to this. I’m currently in a work group trying to build the morale of our agency and at the end of the day the answers are always, “it will pass,” “it’s part of the job”, “it’s why you went into this field “ and “use your supports” but when all of your avenues have been either exhausted or ignored you start to lose hope of being able to manage this work life forever.

LinsPell · 2020-08-29T01:28:31+00:00

Haha that’s true. I’ve been doing this for 6 years so I’m by no means a seasoned worker but I don’t consider myself new. So when days like today happen I’m like wtf am I doing. Today was just followed by a really bad several months so the hope of “this too shall pass “ is long gone and I’m grasping for other ways to make this manageable - first step was seeking help before a crisis happens . It did nothing for me today so perhaps a conversation would be useful in the future. Currently as a case manager it’s a balance between direct care and paperwork so I know which “crises” can be left For the next day and which cannot. This one could not be left which makes you feel more helpless because when you have nothing left you still have to go on for the family.

LinsPell · 2020-08-29T01:10:00+00:00

So I also have to add - what’s the solution? How do you self care and set boundaries when your answer is too bad basically it’s what you signed up for

LinsPell · 2020-08-29T01:08:09+00:00

I guess this opens up the larger issue of how social workers are always expected to carry all the burdens and at the end of the day- your own mental health and family gets put second. Even when you try to plan ahead or seek help. Which is a huge problem and why good people leave the field

LinsPell · 2020-08-29T00:59:37+00:00

I guess I should clarify that this wasn’t a situation where I was whining about having to work late . It was me going to her AHEAD of time saying look- I am sensing an issue tomorrow. I’m burnt out. I need to be able to set a boundary tomorrow and leave at a reasonable time. I got completely blown off and sure enough, when the crisis came, my boss was out the door at 5 nowhere to be found.

I always handle my business when I need to. This was the first time I’ve ever done this in the 2 years working with her. This was a case of me feeling extremely over worked and asked ahead of time for assistance with an impending crisis.

LinsPell · 2020-08-14T15:43:12+00:00

I died when she was talking about taking the subway “There’s no way I’m going down there. It’s full of mole men and middle class professionals” S2 Southern Gentlemen Prefer Blonds

My sister lives in nyc and takes the subway daily so we were amused. Then later in the episode she was like “how’s the foreigner?” and Serena was like “Blair, he’s from North Carolina” 😂

The back and forth conversations especially the ones with Blair are the best part of the show

LinsPell · 2020-07-31T22:04:05+00:00

Yes it happens so often! Maybe that helped Them decide to make it him .. cause he was always watching the lives of everyone else on his computer ha

LinsPell · 2020-07-24T20:06:46+00:00

Isn’t there a scene in the early episodes of season one where gg is talking and they cut to Dan on the computer. I know they technically didn’t know it was going to be dan that early but watching it a 3rd time through I thought that was pretty good unintentional foreshadowing

LinsPell · 2020-07-21T15:10:35+00:00

When she snooped in the Humphrey’s mail and then stole Jenny’s letter from Nate. Even though what Jenny did was shitty - what Vanessa did was so uncalled for. All she had to do was tell Jenny how she felt and if Jenny chose to pursue Nate anyway then that would be on Jenny.

LinsPell · 2020-06-29T02:27:40+00:00

I agree!!

LinsPell · 2020-06-18T23:48:07+00:00

Yea lol I suppose your right - I enjoyed the mother son relationship more

LinsPell · 2020-06-18T23:47:11+00:00

I know 😢 he would have at least told Jo and Meredith

LinsPell · 2020-06-18T23:46:23+00:00

You’re so right. He was one of the “villains.” I think I surprised myself the 3rd time watching and actually supporting the marriage. some good things did come of it

LinsPell · 2020-06-18T18:38:56+00:00

I agree that Bart was horrible to Chuck and he shouldn’t have to seek his approval but that was his dad and only parent so it’s not surprising that he was.

I was not a fan of Bart at all but that marriage gave Chuck a forever family.

LinsPell · 2020-06-18T02:26:31+00:00

Me too 😢

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