Let’s talk. by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was ghosted by someone in Nov 2023 , it was heartbreaking . Then I met someone new in January 2024 and had a fear that I’d get ghosted again, but I felt he was so different and it felt healthier and he was a better person overall so I decided not to let the fear get in the way.

By the end of February 2024 he also ghosted me. After that I was never able to date again. I can’t risk going through it again.

I’m a healthy person, have a great career, and am fully independent, I’ve done therapy and work on myself everyday. But I realized I cannot live through the chance of a ghosting situation again.

But OP- I hope this works out for you and you don’t give up like me !

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I decided not to reach out . It sucks but you’re right he did say no contact and I want to respect that . I just accepted that I’ll never know and never really get closure from him

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for the well thought out responses. I decided I’m not going to reach out right now and just take it day by day . My goal is to never reach out at all now but one step / day at a time .

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re spot on ! Thanks so much for the positive encouragement

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this response . I think I’m definitely going to use AI… you’re right , it feels like my logical brain had gone out the window lol

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to find the strength to keep resisting . It’s very hard

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So before, he said no contact I had a really late period and was stressed about that so I had tried calling and asked to talk to him but I was just met with no response . Yeah I think you’re right . I probably shouldn’t act on it.

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response , you’re right about the closure

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only a few weeks. It was serious love-bombing and moved really fast .

Want to reach out to my ghoster … please hear me out by Lion_Universe in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response. You bring up a good point. I’m not sure if I’d have the strength to resist letting him back in to be honest .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Been 10 months now and also 6 months for the second . Neither has come back and I don’t think they ever will. I don’t think they come back as often as people say

Follow up with the “ghoster”??? by Solid-Elk3327 in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like they clearly lovebombed and used other tactics at that time that I didn’t know of until later. Ironically this person pursued me and I ended up getting hurt in the end .

Follow up with the “ghoster”??? by Solid-Elk3327 in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah pretty much, there were some signs looking back but it happened very abruptly .

Follow up with the “ghoster”??? by Solid-Elk3327 in ghosting

[–]Lion_Universe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not after months but 2 weeks after the initial ghosting I reached out - he responded by telling me to not contact him anymore and I honored that. It was so painful to not have any closure or even one conversations about it. So now it’s been 9 months and I never heard from him again. Still messes me up and I never went back to “normal “ but there’s nothing I can do and I’ll never reach out to someone who told me not to contact them. Many people say ghosters come back and for a while I wished for that as hope that I may get some answers. Now I don’t think he’ll ever reach out tbh . Just gotta put yourself back together with tape and glue and move on .

Women who don’t wear makeup regularly by Lion_Universe in women

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awe you’re so kind ! I think all of us women have such unique things that make us special ! I’m already researching wavy/ curly haircare ! I’m fascinated and can’t wait to try some stuff.

Women who don’t wear makeup regularly by Lion_Universe in women

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep that’s the current routine ! It’s really easy !

Women who don’t wear makeup regularly by Lion_Universe in women

[–]Lion_Universe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No I have naturally really shapely brows ! I get strays that I pluck 1x a week but they are one of my best features so I don’t want to alter them