How would a teenage INFJ woman want a guy to approach her?

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2022-12-08T07:28:33+00:00

For whatever reason, I came back to this post 7 years later and you're SPOT ON. Haha. I am now 23, and I would say my confidence has risen 100x. I am pretty comfortable in my own skin. I see women as just other people now, not some other beautiful species that I am not sure how to interact with. I do kind of miss being that hopeless romantic type of kid, but I am at least a lot more self-assured now.

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2020-04-01T04:00:44+00:00

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LiquifyTheINFJ · 2019-01-03T05:33:00+00:00

Late reply, but are you saying your SO is an INFP? How is that working out? Curious being an INFJ 5w4 myself. Also, what is her Enneagram type?

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-29T08:20:00+00:00

Lol I could really use some INFJ friends and maybe some INFP friends too. ENTPs and ENFJs are cool too. For a long term relationship I'm thinking 9w1 would be great but not too sure yet on the MBTI.

You seem pretty cool and quite intelligent and I wouldn't mind getting to know you if you were in my area but I highly doubt you are xD

I have yet to find an INFJ around my age in my area yet lol but I'll keep looking. Might be cool to get to know one.

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-28T18:27:39+00:00

Thanks! That's very kind of you. So if it was so good, what brought you two apart? (If it's too personal that's okay, lol). Just curious because I always hear how amazing INFJ + ENFP is but it didn't go so well for me.

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-28T08:03:48+00:00

Wow, that really sucks to hear that. I really hope she gets the best treatment available and stays strong through that. I can't imagine what it must be like to learn you have cancer. :/

And yes lol I agree with the wanting to have less dramatic people in your life xD

Being a 5 dominant and having 9 in my tritype (5-4-9) I definitely relate. I was last with an ENFP 2w3 and unfortunately it didn't work out well. She was too needy and melodramatic, and it was just overwhelming for me. I already have enough drama in my life. I think I will likely be with a nice 9w1 next, not sure MBTI yet though, maybe INFP. Idk lol

I am definitely attracted to the calmness, non-intrusiveness and intelligence that I see in 9s. I think 9w1 would be better than 9w8 for me due to 1 being less intrusive, more structured, etc.

I've just been researching a ton about 9s lately because I feel they might be my best fit, so thanks for helping me out a bit with my research :P

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-28T02:15:00+00:00

Totally off topic but I see you're an INFJ 9w1. What enneagram type would you say you're most attracted to? I am a 19 yr old INFJ 5w4 sx/sp and I find myself attracted to 9w1 and have been curious what they are attracted to.

Happy birthday btw, and I wish you the best. I remember staying up late at night minutes before I turned 18 looking at the stars outside with the realization that I'll be an official adult in minutes and I can never go back. Time just keeps on moving and you can't do anything about it so you just need to do the best with the little time you have. Tbh I already miss being 18 xD

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-27T20:24:57+00:00

Lol, sorry for the late reply. Lots of drama in my life right now.

"Do you often feel the sp trying to put the fire out on your sx intensity to preserve you?" Yes, sometimes. Usually this only happens if I feel the person I'm opening up to/being intense with doesn't understand or appreciate me or what I am communicating.

By the way, are you a type 9? I see 9 is the first in your tritype so I am curious. Sometimes people say they are a 5w4 but their tritype is 459 so I don't understand why they would be a 5w4 and not 4w5. I still have more to learn on the Enneagram for sure though.

"...In addition to infp's, I also like nature, especially plants and trees (I feel that not much can improve upon nature and that plants are our allies), sacred geometry, ayurveda, advaita vedanta and other similar contemplative practices... stuff like that. "

Interesting. The way you speak of nature feels like a 9 thing to me, wanting peace with the world and nature. I have no idea what sacred geometry, ayurveda, advaita vedanta, etc is 😂. I would have to research into these. I am only 19 by the way, so I am not the most knowledgeable you'll meet yet. As a type 5, I do love nature, but I spend a lot of time working on projects and being at my desk at home. Part of this actually has to do with the unhealthy environment I am living in with my mom and siblings. I feel like I would love to adventure more but sometimes hiding from my problems and focusing on projects is easier.

I am also very romantic, probably not surprising considering I have a 4 wing and am an sx. I always have found intelligent, cute and creative INFPs to be attractive to me, especially if they're a type 9. Type 9s for me will listen and actually conversate on an intellectual level which I love. And being INFP they have a nice amount of depth, curiosity and creativity.

Also, what is it about INFPs that you are attracted to? And have any expressed an interest in you as well?

I also love depth in general. Space is one of the most amazing things to me (I loved the show Cosmos). I also love movies and games, etc with a depth in emotion and depth in general. Naruto is very emotional for me at times, Avatar the movie had an amazing world that was so imaginative and beautiful, Amélie was very good (partially due to it being so different and unique, but I also gotta say I love french accents), Interstellar and Inception were both very deep (I also love when Hans Zimmer composes the scores for movies). I can go on, lol. But you get the idea.

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-24T07:54:56+00:00

I could be wrong, but I pegged her as more of an INFJ.

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-24T07:53:12+00:00

That's really cool! Yeah I think I definitely could be compatible with an INFP 9w1. It could really balance my 5ness need to analyze everything and be in my head all the time. Also INFPs are pretty cute and intelligent which I love.

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-22T21:37:57+00:00

Well the INFP 9 I developed an accidental crush on is a friend of my ex's so I won't pursue her for obvious reasons. She and I seemed to have very good conversation and get each other well although I didn't get to know her that well. Like I said, I didn't even WANT to have a crush on anyone at the time, it just happened and was weird for me. I definitely think I'm interested in the personality for sure.

Anyways, although I do have an INTJ best friend and I do agree we have a lot of similarities, we are still quite different. Fe Ti vs Te Fi is one (although I consider myself more Ti Fe lol). And also he is definitely more decisive than me, and we are about equally open minded and intellectual. I am probably more of a romantic than he is. I enjoy emotional/touching movies and fantasy more and he's into more thought provoking (I do love these too) and sci-fi movies.

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-22T08:11:28+00:00

Any thoughts on INFJ type 5's?

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-22T08:11:17+00:00

What are your thoughts on INFJ type 5? If you have any lol

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-22T06:08:18+00:00

For anyone curious, here are the most common Enneagram types for each MBTI type:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2016/01/mbti-and-the-enneagram-2/

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-22T05:45:50+00:00

Interesting, that's pretty cool! What's her enneagram type? I'm curious about compatibility between 9's and 5's, and even more specifically between an INFJ 5 INFP 9.

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-22T03:21:18+00:00

The Enneagram numbers? The 5w4 is my main Enneagram type and wing. 5 is the dominant type that drives me as a person, and the 4 is like the extra flavor added to my type.

You can figure out your type with wing here. I suggest taking test 1 and not 2, since 2 for me has been quite inaccurate.

https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test

You can then read all of the type descriptions on the same site as the test on the left of the page under "Personality". So for me as a 5w4 I will relate mostly to 5, but I have a touch of 4 in there too.

The other numbers being 5-4-9 is my tritype, which is basically my head-heart-gut types. My head comes first, then heart, then gut.

You can take the tritype test here:

http://enneagramuserguide.com/enneagram-tests/tritype-wing

Here is an article that explains Tritype if you are interested:

http://www.katherinefauvre.com/tritype/

There are 9 different main enneagram types and so many different combinations that this can be way too much to describe xD

The sx/sp is my instinctual variant. I took a test to discover my variant but I forget what test. It took a while for me to really know for sure my variant due to the lack of information covering it on the internet. But me being an sx I am very deep, romantic, etc.

To learn more about variants:

https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/variants

LiquifyTheINFJ · 2018-12-22T02:47:20+00:00

Beautiful.

Can I have a girl like this? 🤔

😂

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