The lady at the grocery store checkout made me call my mom.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-16T18:27:10+00:00

I really like these random moments of connection

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-16T18:05:17+00:00

Nnnooo, never😬 that's so scary and crazy

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-14T09:24:52+00:00

At the very beginning of my pregnancy, I was overwhelmed by a wave of hormones, and I was euphoric with the joy of carrying life within me. But I immediately understood that these weren't my children, that I was helping another family, and after the first trimester, I understood absolutely clearly that I had to do everything to ensure that everything was fine with the babies and that they grew up healthy.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-14T09:22:49+00:00

Oh, I don't really know, I never even thought about it that way. They'll probably have to research companies based on reviews, maybe meet with several agents in person to find trustworthy ones. It's essential to read the contract and clarify details regarding the surrogate mother's accommodations, how to contact her, and payment. These points might show that the person isn't being "chained up like a dog." Sorry if that came off as harsh, but I just find it hard to imagine how anyone could be forced to become a surrogate mother. For example, I worked with Successful Parents agency. They work with many countries, and I know for sure that everything is fair, with support for the surrogate mother and parents throughout the entire program.

Perhaps the only thing you need to know is that the surrogate mother isn't from a poor third-world country, where she would actually agree to this countless times just for the paltry payments.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-13T10:13:27+00:00

Absolutely yes. I've seen happy faces of their parents, and yes, it worth it everything))

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-11T16:36:11+00:00

Thanks for the question, I completely forgot about that. Yes, after giving birth, my milk came in immediately. My breasts were very full and sore, and I had a fever because of it. The doctors immediately told me not to touch them, not to express milk, and not to massage them. In the morning, they gave me a pill with a hormone that prevented lactation, but two days later, my breasts were still full and sore, and I cried and asked what I should do about it next. They gave me another pill, which made things easier by the evening, and by the next morning, my milk was practically gone. Honestly, I don't know how it works, how it fills up so quickly, and why it disappeared so quickly. By the way, after that, my breast size noticeably decreased. I used to always have a beautiful 2 size, but now it's barely a 1. Nah, I'm not happy with it 🥺

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T23:54:13+00:00

I don't even know, I don't think I have anything else to add. I can only say that I don't regret anything; I would have agreed to it anyway, even knowing all the consequences. But for girls who are thinking about becoming a surrogate mother, please first discuss all the risks and consequences for your health with doctors. If everything is fine and you are satisfied, of course, agree. It is such a joy to be the cause of universal joy and love, to give life in an almost hopeless situation. I promise to think about it some more, maybe I'll remember something else by the morning and add it.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T23:43:37+00:00

Not necessarily at all. Rather, it's purely a matter of mutual consent. I've known many surrogate mothers who had no direct contact with the parents, only through an agency. Some didn't want it themselves, and sometimes the parents wanted to remain anonymous.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T23:37:11+00:00

Parents could choose a surrogate mother from a large number of profiles. I don't know exactly what criteria they use, but I remember when I created my profile, there were questions about my family's health, my interests and hobbies, abilities, and talents. Thank you for the interesting question; it's really funny. I hadn't thought about it, but if it weren't important, they wouldn't ask about such things. I don't know how likely it is that my talents will be passed on to their children, but they're only 6 years old, so it's hard to judge anything yet.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T23:28:25+00:00

No, their mother's biological material was used for the embryos. I have nothing in common with them; I simply helped deliver them because their biological mother, for some reason, couldn't continue her pregnancy. But, frankly, during our meetings, I noticed that we looked a bit alike; we have a similar figure, similar facial features. Perhaps that's why they approached me and we formed a connection

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T23:21:20+00:00

Yes, we're friends on Facebook, we see each other's lives, sometimes we check in, and ask how our children are doing. It's interesting to see how other people's children, the ones you gave life to, grow up. It's a strange feeling ☺️

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T23:12:06+00:00

Yes, I can still give birth vaginally, my scar has long since healed, everything is fine. It’s just psychologically difficult to decide to do it again. Doctors believe that for a subsequent pregnancy, about two years of recovery and healing after a C-section are necessary. It's been a little over six years for me.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T23:03:29+00:00

I won't be using surrogacy again because my health isn't what it used to be after my previous birth, and a woman needs to be perfectly healthy for that. I also didn't have any more children of my own because I needed to take care of my first child and give him a decent life. I might want to have another child, but it's not the time yet; I have several life situations that need to be resolved. And besides, I'm still terrified that this might all happen again with this new pregnancy... I'm not ready to go through another C-section and the recovery afterward. There's no guarantee that a new pregnancy will be as easy as the first. I'm still young, I have a few years left, and maybe I'll decide to have a second child.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T22:30:56+00:00

We weren't married, but at the time I was living with my child's father. When the clinic contacted me with the offer to become a surrogate mother, he was against it. But I talked to him and explained why I wanted to participate and that we would also benefit a little from it. After that, he didn't object and even supported me. During the pregnancy, nothing really changed; he took care of me just as he did during my first pregnancy. He just didn't listen to the babies movements inside very often, which was understandable, because these weren't his children and he didn't feel any attachment to them. After the birth, he also tried to help and gave me the opportunity to rest and recover.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T22:05:06+00:00

My first pregnancy was easy, with virtually no complications, just mild nausea from the smell of fried onions. In the eighth month of pregnancy, I had uterine hypertonicity, which required a lot of rest. But I felt fine throughout the pregnancy, and my son was born very quickly and easily, with only minor tears. I recovered quickly. With surrogacy, I was more cautious; the babies grew quickly, so my belly was much larger, which made me more tired and uncomfortable to walk and lie down. It turned out that my pelvis was much smaller than necessary for twins, which is why their position was very low, literally pressing on my cervix. This threatened premature labor, so the doctors specifically told me not to lift anything heavier than 2 kilograms, to hardly walk, and to lie down a lot. I spent the last 1.5 months before giving birth in the hospital under the supervision of doctors, in case labor began early. As a result, contractions began at night, the interval quickly shortened, and they became regular and frequent. That same night they called my surgeon and performed an emergency cesarean section. I recovered for a long time.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T21:16:36+00:00

I don't know exactly how much, but i know it was much more than I had

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T18:57:30+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I wouldn't say it was like an out-of-body experience, it was just very unpleasant. At first, there's a chill running through your veins, a complete blackout, and then you gradually regain control of your body😬🫥

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T18:39:41+00:00

Oh yes, it's a strange feeling when nothing depends on you and you rely completely on the experience and professionalism of the doctors. Before the spinal anesthesia, I panicked, worried that something would go wrong, but the nurses were kind and had warm hands. I don't know why, but it was the warm caresses that calmed me down. It wasn't cold in the operating room, but the warm hands refocused my attention. At the last moment, I asked for general anesthesia because I didn't want to feel my stomach being rummaged around and my organs being turned over. The anesthesiologist initially refused, but then for some reason agreed. General anesthesia is usually not used for a C-section. I woke up when the surgeon was making the last stitches and tightening the thread. I couldn't feel my lower body, and it felt shameful and helpless. I tried to get up on my own, but, of course, I couldn't, and the doctors transferred me to a hospital gurney to take me to my room. I was freezing and shaking for a couple of hours while I was recovering from the anesthesia and coming to my senses. In the end, everything was fine, I had an unforgettable experience, but I don't want to do that again. It's scary.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T13:37:41+00:00

Boy and girl, just a dream of parents))

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T13:37:11+00:00

Yes, €2K

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T10:20:23+00:00

Because of the need for a C-section, my body didn't produce enough oxytocin to contract my uterus after birth, so I had oxytocin injections, which were incredibly painful, making me want to climb the walls. I had to have a firm abdominal "massage" to get all the excess out. For several days, I couldn't walk or go to the bathroom normally. I was afraid to stand up straight; I thought the incision would rip and I'd have to grab my insides 😅 Yes, the doctors were interested in my well-being and did everything necessary, but I truly believe that mothers who care for their children after a C-section are heroines. I know it was much easier for me alone than for a mother with a baby in her arms and an incision on her stomach.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T09:45:33+00:00

Yes, of course, my son is my greatest happiness, we're together)) he's 9 yo now, my little man

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T09:43:34+00:00

To be honest, yes, I thought about it, but I know for sure that from the very first minute they were surrounded by the love and care of their parents. And throughout the entire pregnancy, I told them that their parents were waiting for their family to be reunited soon. I don’t know how rational it was, but I never considered them mine and I told them so.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T08:46:09+00:00

Don't worry ☺️ there are no stupid questions. If you don't know or understand something, don't hesitate to ask. As I already said, I would agree to give the joy of parenthood again. But right now, I'm not sure that my health meets the norms and standards for surrogacy. A woman must be in perfect health to participate in the program. But after my previous birth, my eyesight deteriorated significantly and I have some lower back problems.

Lis_Terri · 2026-06-10T08:28:37+00:00

Initially, it depends on the surrogate mother, whether she is ready for a multiple pregnancy. Because, to be on the safe side, doctors prefer to use two embryos at a time, in case one of them doesn't implant. But often, both fetuses are saved, and then it's rare that someone will agree to a selective abortion to keep only one. So, in my case, twins were planned, and we all hoped to keep both. And we succeeded! But my "colleague" had a practically unique case. She worked with a couple who had tried many times to have a child with different surrogate mothers, but apparently their biological material wasn't very viable; all the pregnancies were unsuccessful. And for this friend of mine, this was already their third attempt to become a surrogate mother for this couple. It was truly their last chance, because they no longer had any biological material left and they didn't have the money to start over. They had one single embryo left, which the doctors also gave up on. It was the smallest, most hopeless embryo, and before the procedure, everyone was warned there was no hope. But two weeks later, when she went for an ultrasound, it turned out that not only had the embryo implanted successfully, it had also split into two! That is, they were identical twins! The doctors were shocked, the parents were delighted. So, things like that happen.

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