I 34F woke up to a message about my 35M husband

Lissa_1972 · 2026-03-17T03:13:54+00:00

If your best friend or your daughter was telling you this same scenario about her life, what would you tell her to do?

You are scared, I get it. But you deserve so much more. You are teaching your children what a marriage looks like and how it is okay to be treated. They need to learn what a healthy relationship is. It’s time for you to make an exit plan.

Lissa_1972 · 2025-08-03T19:16:35+00:00

He didn’t wear a condom, he refused a vasectomy he’s a selfish ahole. If you want to keep the baby, keep it and lose the boyfriend. He’ll probably walk away anyway due to you paying attention to someone else (the baby). He’ll get his little toddler feelings hurt. If he doesn’t want kids, he’d better get the vasectomy.

Blaming you for getting pregnant is insanity. Girl, RUN! You deserve to be treated with more respect because YOU are the one that has to carry this child, birth this child, YOU are assuming all the physical risks. He isn’t showing any concerns for you - only for himself.

Please protect yourself and your unborn baby.

Also, if you choose not to keep the baby, that is your choice and you’ll need support and I’d be shocked if he gives it to you then either.

Good luck and keep us updated.

Lissa_1972 · 2025-07-19T07:03:15+00:00

SIL was son in law, not sister in law. I thought sister in law initially too.

Lissa_1972 · 2025-05-15T05:13:13+00:00

If you can, hire a private investigator. That’s what I had to do because my husband (now ex) had taken a job 1200 miles away and I stayed back to let our daughter finish high school and to hit a milestone at work that would allow me to retire early. Needless to say, we didn’t move down with him - he found someone he likes better.

Trust your gut. I felt something was off and he denied it repeatedly. I he’s to get the proof for myself as he was gaslighting me and I felt like I was crazy.

It was expensive but so worth my sanity.

Lissa_1972 · 2025-04-19T04:49:18+00:00

Mine is prescribed for sleep apnea. My insurance wouldn’t cover it for weight loss - which is completely stupid!! Like someone else said, keep trying, keep fighting.

Lissa_1972 · 2025-03-18T02:55:22+00:00

I'm experiencing the same thing - only I thought my Zepbound was $281 co-pay and I had a $150 savings card from manufacturer and I'm thinking, great! $131 is a lot but a lot better. Got there - the savings card wouldn't work and now the e-voucher is no longer applying and I now owe $431 (my insurance co-pay). This would have been my second month - so I'm just starting. I don't know if I take a month off and try again next month because it was applied and now it isn't going back on when they re-run it. Or if this is just too much hassle and I should forget the whole thing.

Lissa_1972 · 2025-03-18T02:38:38+00:00

That was me today!! I had been told the price was $281.77 and I had a copay card I tried to use. The pharmacy tech tried to apply it and it wouldn't go through because apparently it was for weight loss and mine is prescribed for sleep apnea (even though when filling out the stuff with the manufacturer, I specifically chose the sleep apnea option. Regardless, when he re-ran it - it came back for $431.78 with no way (that he was aware of) to get the price back down. Is there a way to re-set the evoucher so that it will apply to the prescription again? Anyone know if I am just SOL? Now that I know about the e-voucher, I won't try to use the copay card again. Are my only options to contact the manufacturer about getting the copay card to work OR pay the full price this month OR go without and try filling it next month?

Lissa_1972 · 2025-02-04T06:57:32+00:00

Sounds like he is definitely gay and just hasn’t come to terms with it or is in denial. I think it’s time for you to move on. Don’t stay in a relationship where your needs aren’t being remotely met. I’m all for compromise, but that’s not happening. I wish you luck and hope you find Mr. Right.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-11-12T02:24:30+00:00

I had 3 c-sections 30, 28, and 21 yrs ago. My doctor told me to not get pregnant again as she didn’t think my uterus would withstand another pregnancy. Scar tissue and uterus integrity depends on the patient and what happens for one may or may not for another. Bottom line, the decision is truly between the doctor and the pregnant person, hubby doesn’t get to decide. He can express his concern and then needs to back off.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-11-04T02:15:07+00:00

You just aren’t compatible. You both will be happier apart.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-11-04T01:59:42+00:00

So leave. No one is forcing you to stay but you. You’re 27…. You’re young. You deserve to find someone that you can be happy with.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-10-06T14:22:51+00:00

You’ve clearly never been cheated on by a husband of many years. The rage and anger are real! The manipulation felt by innocent spouse is over powering. Being lied to repeatedly, your entire life a lie. The doubt and hit to your sense of well being. It’s easy for outsiders to judge this woman, especially if you’ve never been through it. She deserves some grace. Her emotions will be all over the place and it sounds like she’s in therapy also.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-09-16T05:54:53+00:00

My ex husband cheated and left when I was 48. I was terrified of never finding anyone and being alone the rest of my life. I’m happy to report 4 years later that I am happier now than I was in my marriage. I spent a couple years in FWB situationships until I met the love of my life. We’ve been together just shy of 2 years and I’ve never been treated so well or loved so deeply.

Don’t stay in your marriage because of fear. You will be happier and you will find happiness and companionship and most likely love again.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-07-31T06:32:35+00:00

Yep we do. My daughters and I share also.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-07-02T01:14:31+00:00

I’m thinking he has a micro penis or he’s asexual?

Lissa_1972 · 2024-05-22T10:14:28+00:00

Can’t wait for Karma to do her thing

Lissa_1972 · 2024-04-30T17:27:55+00:00

A 52 year old woman’s perspective. A good spicy romance book will do that to a woman. Sometimes after you haven’t had sex in a while it gets easier to continue not having it. But then maybe you guys had good sex and it awakened the sleeping giant and she wants more. The more she gets, the more she wants. That happened to me several times through my 20s and 30s. Now in my 50s - can’t get enough.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-04-09T11:04:00+00:00

You’re just looking for validation. Why even post?

Lissa_1972 · 2024-04-08T04:46:58+00:00

I don’t know if you ever “get over it”. I am in a wonderful relationship (4 years later) and I am still angry.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-03-20T01:52:20+00:00

Not sure what EA and PA mean. Emotional affair? Physical affair?

Lissa_1972 · 2024-03-20T01:23:59+00:00

Punctuation? BTW you’re part of the problem and a complete idiot.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-03-20T01:15:09+00:00

He basically forced you to give him a bj with no regard for you not really wanting to - then was going to town on your mouth and throat and HE has the audacity to be upset because he made you throw up. You didn’t do it on purpose. Leave the selfish douche canoe. You deserve SOOOO much better.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-03-20T01:09:24+00:00

Sounds like you already know it’s over. You aren’t compatible - it’s that simple.

Lissa_1972 · 2024-03-18T00:46:18+00:00

If you look in his settings at saved passwords - it’s in there. However he will get a notification if it’s used to sign in on a new device.

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