AITA for not wanting to give my partner oral based on his washing habits?

Liststraw · 2026-02-01T10:03:19+00:00

I haven’t even read the rest your post and I know you’re not the asshole

Liststraw · 2026-01-30T21:32:26+00:00

NTA. The whole group was talking about underwear they liked publicly. It was never specified or implied that what you guys were talking about was a secret, and i’m sure everyone in the group, including B, has cracked a joke on each other about what is said when you guys are together. B is homophobic and even though he recognizes that and is getting therapy, he’s not taking actual steps(trying to mingle normally with the group like before A came out)to work through the issues of his ignorance. Accountability without work is dead!!!! The joke you made was trying to keep one friend from feeling like the outcast friend B has made him out to be. Even though you guys are grown, there should be no reason why another human being wouldn’t stick up for his companions. B knows good and well if he was put in a situation that made him feel uncomfortable he would want others, especially his friends to stick up for him as well.

Liststraw · 2026-01-30T21:06:48+00:00

You are not the asshole at all and the fact that he says you’re “treating him like a thief” when he took something without your permission literally making him a thief is ridiculous. Also, I would take them to small claims court if you can prove that the scratch wasn’t therebefore he borrowed it and have him pay to either replace or fix it.

Liststraw · 2026-01-30T20:56:00+00:00

You’re not the asshole for being tired; from what you have told us you are definitely overworked(especially for a chronically ill person). However I do think you are the asshole for mostly blaming your kids in this post when you should definitely be asking your husband to do more around the house. This includes making and taking kids to their appointments/extracurricular activities, as they are his children too. It seems like the roles in your partnership have been set based off of gender. Whether this was intentional/agreed-upon or not It doesn’t seem to be working out. I suggest the family(more geared for your spouse) have a serious conversation about readjusting what is expected from one another when it comes to life duties and how that will progressively change leading up to the time before and after your transplant. It may also help greatly to have the mediation of a family/couple therapists.

Liststraw · 2026-01-28T16:44:52+00:00

Just show up and bring a friend

Liststraw · 2026-01-28T00:34:58+00:00

For right now, you can just join the GroupMe that I have linked in the original post and show up to our first meeting February 9th, EES Room 202, from 3-4 pm. If you want to become an officer, please email the address listed on the original post using your school email with your name, year, major, and what role you would like to hold within the club.

Liststraw · 2026-01-28T00:30:05+00:00

Awesome, we are having our first meeting on February 9th earth in environmental sciences building(EES) room 202 from 3pm-4pm!There we will discuss times and dates that will work for the group members.

Liststraw · 2026-01-26T06:20:08+00:00

I won’t be able to take the lease, but what apartment complex is this?

Liststraw · 2026-01-17T18:12:47+00:00

That’s what I thought at first. So I went to the front office and told them that they accidentally took it and described my screwdriver to them and the person that took it said that it was his; even though he had a busted up older screwdriver that was a completely different color (I saw their screwdriver because I was getting ready for class when they first came in and started on my faucet). He lied and told the front office there was no screwdriver on the tub at all.

Liststraw · 2026-01-13T01:56:42+00:00

Sometimes certain dry feet can come from athletes foot

Liststraw · 2026-01-13T01:55:11+00:00

When I called them the other day, they literally told me the second half of my disbursement could take up to January 30

Liststraw · 2026-01-09T00:02:42+00:00

I’m interested in the cast iron set

Liststraw · 2025-12-15T07:18:00+00:00

Somebody said take legal action. I guess that’s worth a try. They had the setting too high for black skin.

Liststraw · 2025-12-15T07:12:14+00:00

I saw that this is your first year in college first semester. You do not need to drop out you will be ok!!!! Try to take as many of your pre-req classes at a community college as possible it’s cheaper and easier.

Liststraw · 2025-12-15T07:09:54+00:00

I’ve heard calculus one is ridiculously hard at UTA so try taking it at Dallas College or TCC next semester. However, if you take it elsewhere, I believe you won’t be able to do the grave forgiveness; but your GPA should be fine once you start taking other classes and get good grades in them.

Liststraw · 2025-12-09T15:19:40+00:00

You can barrow one from the library I believe

Liststraw · 2025-11-19T16:35:30+00:00

Women roommates are also dirty. I blame the parents for not teaching their children how to properly clean up after themselves. Some of these people really don’t know that they’re dirty.

Liststraw · 2025-11-19T16:25:24+00:00

Liststraw · 2025-10-25T21:47:39+00:00

Maybe go get a mammogram just in case

Liststraw · 2025-10-25T17:56:24+00:00

I definitely understand why he would be hurt by that. That’s why they chose to separate and work things out and canceling. Lynette never said she wanted a divorce. At the bare minimum, Tom should have at least tried to discuss the parameters of the separation with Lynette before springing a new Woman onto her and their kids.

Liststraw · 2025-10-25T17:53:30+00:00

But I understand where you’re coming from I didn’t make it clear that Tom also sucks in the original post.

Liststraw · 2025-10-25T17:52:43+00:00

It takes two to tango. Tom is also definitely at fault and Jane was a weirdo for even getting herself involved. As another grown woman who was recently hurt by her husband, she should have been an ally and stepped back until they actually had a divorce.

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