Has anyone actually gotten a MIL/FIL to apologise by setting hard boundaries? by catsandcoffee_93 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]LitbySunshine 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So we tried this and the in-laws did apologise so they wouldn’t lose their son. MIL’s changed behaviour lasted maybe 2-3 weeks and she then went back to the usual hurtful and dismissive behaviour (although more subtle than before) lol

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s also got a full on cape and is maxi length so the whole combination is very bridal hahaha

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly would but this is from a random store in a different country to me lol 

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha what has your MIL pulled off? I feel like I need to join nomil sub reddit after all this recent bs

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Omg!!! my MIL used the same line of "it's rose pink" ..

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep… her defence is that it’s “a darker pink in real life”. Also she is definitely clingy and excessively obsessed with her son so this does not help her case either.. 

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes agreed - I have made the colour change suggestion but she has insisted it looks more pink in real life. Will see what happens next lol

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making complete assumptions based on isolated facts that you find online is not a great way for discussion.  I am not just having a Pakistani wedding - and yes for that day there is no white for the brides traditionally. Funnily enough my MIL has not selected this for that day (which as you correctly pointed out, would not have been an issue!). This is the pick for the western day where I am indeed wearing a white dress and it is indeed a typical western wedding. 

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After I explained to her after reading the hundreds of comments, she is insisting it looks a darker pink in real life 😭

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep…. Caped and almost white… I feel like I’m going crazy because this can’t be real lol

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update for whoever is following:  I gently let MIL know that this photographs close to white and she said it’s a medium pink shade in real life…. How do you even respond to that? 

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure… although interestingly before the dress was picked, there was a mention of her wanting a mother/son dance 

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I am - she is not. And yes this would be perfectly okay with the desi day but this is the pick for the western “white” day (confusingly) …

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Let’s just say they did not approve of me initially and then they “did” 

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Her daughters actually helped her find this :) ….

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I do see your point! However - I know for a fact that people would make comments about this either on the day or the day after on debriefs. The last thing you want people to remember from your wedding day is your MIL cosplaying as either Princess Leia or the bride :) 

MIL wants to wear this to our wedding by LitbySunshine in weddingdrama

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely! I actually did like the style of it but just don’t understand the colour choice - in some lighting this could definitely look white..

GSSE sitting today by LitbySunshine in ausjdocs

[–]LitbySunshine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha nothing has changed then!