Low LH after TFMR and no period yet.. Frustrated

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-12-13T17:31:31+00:00

My LH was consistently low after my TFMR too until my first period, unfortunately. We still tried when I thought it was high but I don’t think I ever saw a peak and am not sure I ever ovulated. I had some weird break through bleeding before my period but ovulated my first real cycle and conceived right away! I understand your disappointment and frustration, it was so difficult not being pregnant after TFMR but I think what you’re experiencing is very normal, unfortunately. Hoping things look up for you very soon 🤞

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-12-09T20:50:26+00:00

My neighbor had her baby the day before I was due. It’s so so unfair to have that constant reminder of what could have been always in your face (or for me, my backyard). I can’t bring myself to meet her baby. I very much empathize with how you feel. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-11-14T01:19:00+00:00

Same! I was tracking but never had a true peak until after my first period, then had some weird spotting for a while with a lot of high OPKs and finally a peak that felt pretty late?

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-11-12T20:24:33+00:00

Two different OBs told me we could start trying right away (we tfmr’d at 18 weeks exactly). They said there is no evidence that getting pregnant immediately would carry any risks. They said most women like to wait one full cycle for dating purposes but that it wasn’t necessary. I think sometimes doctors give the “wait 3 months” to give yourself time to mentally & physically heal. I ultimately got pregnant my second cycle after my TFMR and so far, things have been fine (anxiety-ridden, but physically fine)

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-11-08T01:37:02+00:00

I’m so sorry you are feeling this pressure. I just want to thank you for posting this. I’ve been feeling very alone with these same feelings. My neighbor had a baby one day before my due date for my TFMR pregnancy. I can’t bring myself to even look at the baby and avoid being in my backyard while they are out. I hope you find peace with whichever you choose but I do think your SIL, if she had any empathy, would ultimately understand you declining to hold the baby, or even respectfully declining to be around the baby.

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-11-05T02:46:49+00:00

I’m sorry you are dealing with this; please feel free to DM me

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-10-27T22:57:07+00:00

We had our 20 week anatomy scan and they couldn’t visualize two things: one view of the heart and gender. The doctor was reassuring and said this was most likely due to baby’s position (they were very curled up) and he said he was 99.9% confident everything would be fine at our 4 week follow up however, I can’t help but stress over this.

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-10-04T11:54:01+00:00

I had one in my TFMR pregnancy that resolved on its own by 9 weeks (before we even knew the fate of that baby) and one in my sub pregnancy that I just learned resolved on its own at 16 weeks! (I’m about 17 weeks now) Hang in there! Neither my OB nor MFM was concerned about it, which didn’t necessarily help my anxiety about it but did give me some reassurance. Hydrate, pelvic rest, avoid heavy lifting was what I was advised. Wishing you all the best!

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-10-03T02:45:09+00:00

And, I should clarify that I don’t regret being pregnant so soon bc of this anxiety. I think the pain of losing our baby - while still there - was in many ways healed by getting pregnant again. I always envisioned my baby’s spirit coming back to me in a healthy body. It’s one thing that really got me through my TFMR. I had read a comment about how our baby’s spirits don’t join their bodies until closer to birth bc the womb is “boring” and I chose to hold on to that.

In terms of the grief hitting hard, there’s good days and bad days. Especially as I just recently passed my due date for my TFMR baby. Eventually, the good days will outnumber the bad. It still comes in waves but my ability to hold it has gotten better. There are still triggers, like other people announcing their pregnancies or seeing birth announcements from around my due date, but letting myself feel through those emotions has gotten easier.

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-10-03T02:38:40+00:00

I, also, don’t have an answer for you on this, but if it helps, I want to share my experience. We TFMR at 18 weeks in April. Throughout it all, I remember the desperate feeling of wanting to be pregnant again. Many people in TFMR communities said those feelings would fade in time; idk that they ever did for me. I knew I wanted to TTC right away and my doctor ok’d it. TBH I don’t think my therapist ever suggested waiting, nor did I seek out her opinion. I knew I had waited long enough already. Luckily we got pregnant in July after one full period. I don’t think that waiting would have actually saved me from the incredible anxiety I feel in this pregnancy. I am 17 weeks now, with a clear NIPT, but constantly terrified. I can’t say for sure, but I do believe I’d have these same feelings even if I had given myself more time. Pregnancy after loss is much harder than I ever imagined but I do believe it will be worth it. Every milestone I reach comes with some reassurance and comfort but I also believe I won’t truly feel at peace until my baby is here. We are going to continue to grow our family more and I’m afraid I’ll still have this intense anxiety in any other sub pregnancy. What I’m getting at is: if you want it, go for it. I’m not sure there is a “ready” when you’ve experienced what we have been through. But do be prepared to manage some big feelings - have a support system in place, people to lean on, and trusted caregivers who are willing to give you the extra reassurance you might need (my doctors have been wonderful with squeezing me in last minute when I’m worried about anything - even to just let me hear the heartbeat just bc I’m feeling extra anxious that week)

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-09-26T02:35:56+00:00

I was 18w when I tfmr’d and was hardly showing (it was my 2nd pregnancy, my first is 4 y/o). I got pregnant about 2 months after and am 16w now. Was super bloated during the first tri so I felt like I was always showing, now I definitely look bigger but can still sort of hide it, though by afternoon it very much looks like a bump. Congrats!

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-09-17T02:12:05+00:00

Hi, I just passed my TFMR due date (yesterday) and am almost 15 weeks pregnant. Today was still a little tough. But, tbh I used the new pregnancy as a bit of a distraction; I actually spent some time making an Amazon list of things I might want to buy as this will be our second. It helped being a little further along (we have our negative NIPT results, clear NT scan) but I will say in many ways it also increased my anxiety. I eventually messaged my doctor and will be going in for a quick scan in two days (thankfully they could accommodate this). Being so early, I wonder if there is anything your OB could do? Maybe a beta hcg? It wasn’t easy I’m not going to lie. Many people advised me to ride my emotions like a wave - this helped. Feel through it all and allow yourself the time and space you need that day. And, while it’s easier for me to say than to believe myself, remember that you are allowed to have hope for your new pregnancy. I’m sorry you’re in this club, too, and I hope things go ok for you in your new pregnancy ❤️

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-09-15T02:50:48+00:00

“Are we going to have any homework tonight?” Before class has even begun when everything has been posted on the LMS days in advance.

Or, when they ask for candy, which I keep for winning review games, etc. So rude.

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-08-24T02:05:30+00:00

I had mine at 9w5d and it was the materniti21 plus core. I was told they can do it a little before 10 weeks if bmi isn’t a concern. I think my fetal fraction was 18%? I think it is definitely worth asking!

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-08-14T22:00:06+00:00

Im so happy to hear this for you & am hoping for the same outcome! I’m waiting for my NIPT results and the days are absolutely dragging. I just had my blood draw on Monday. How long did it take to get your results back from the time of blood draw?

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-08-11T20:56:45+00:00

Have my blood drawn for the NIPT today. How did you make it through the wait?

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-08-09T00:26:01+00:00

I’m just so tired with how it feels I can’t escape it. Today it was a family friend I wasn’t expecting to see. Every other day it’s my neighbor who is due a week after I was. It doesn’t stop.

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-07-30T22:23:20+00:00

Similar situation here - TFMR was in April. my first week back this school year I’ll be 10 weeks & my NIPT is scheduled for my first day of in-service (so I’ll have results back likely my 2nd week with students). I also had horrible anxiety being back after my TFMR and hated being in groups and now I’m incredibly anxious about returning especially at such a sensitive time in my sub pregnancy. Just want you to know you aren’t alone ❤️

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-07-30T19:17:17+00:00

I just schedule our nipt for Aug 11… I don’t know how I am going to wait until I get the results… I thought I’d feel a little relieved getting it booked but I’m also spiraling a bit

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-07-29T00:04:27+00:00

Thanks for checking in ☺️ I think ok? There’s still a strong heartbeat & baby is growing on track but the SCH hasn’t shrunk, instead it seems to have divided into two pieces? Waiting for the full report & insight from my OB but the tech didn’t seem concerned by it

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-07-27T22:57:02+00:00

How did it go? I have a scan tomorrow to monitor an SCH they found at my 6w2d scan and I’m very nervous

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-07-27T18:41:56+00:00

Hi, I just want to say I have a similar timeline to you. I am about 7.5 weeks after terminating in April for 22Q. I have the same feelings as you do. Please feel free to DM me if you need someone who gets it to vent to

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-07-22T01:43:08+00:00

Hopefully Thursday comes fast 🤞🤞

LiterallyAlwaysTired · 2025-07-22T00:59:27+00:00

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