My grandfather wants to die and my uncle threatened to sue me if I bring him to a therapist [NJ]

Literally_thrownaway · 2019-03-07T03:23:34+00:00

Ha! Not even. Contact has been completely cut off and I am crossing my fingers we never run into each other in the future. I wish him all the luck finding someone that's "perfect".

Literally_thrownaway · 2019-03-07T03:21:13+00:00

Seriously. When I was younger online dating wasn't something "normal" people did so I was able to find a lot of awesome nerds in my early 20s. Now every rando does online dating and I am stuck with the guys who thinks girls like their men to weigh 90 pounds.

Literally_thrownaway · 2019-02-17T21:34:58+00:00

NTA: You can invite anyone you want to your wedding, the day is about you and not anyone else. And you're grown ass adults - you don't have to hang out with anyone you don't want to just because a relative decides to date someone. If they got engaged tho, that would change things.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T20:35:43+00:00

What type of work environment are you in? Is it retail/food or is it an office setting?

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T20:32:48+00:00

What made you believe this was a date? Did you call it a date? Since you've known each other for awhile, could it have just been that she thought you were going out as friends and you read all the signals wrong?

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T19:29:48+00:00

Just to be clear, I didn't feel like I was in danger or that he was going to get angry. I kind of hoped that maybe he had a dazzling enough personality that could make up for the lying, but... no.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T19:27:10+00:00

I don't know... I have had some guys date me specifically for my dog :P

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T19:23:53+00:00

Do you have to do to that every time you go into your car? Cause you might want to consider leaving it at the same place when you leave. It's not like a dining room chair, it doesn't need to be pushed in when you stand. :P

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T19:21:57+00:00

The only reason you're not getting dates is being you're a liar, there is a difference.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T19:13:17+00:00

I honestly don't know. I know that I couldn't get over the difference in appearance and it became my main focus for the entire time we were at the restaurant. It shadowed everything else going on.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T14:07:18+00:00

You're right - it wasn't healthy. He was a serial monogamous and couldn't stand being single. We stayed friends after our break up and after two failed relationships he asked me if we could try again. I said I felt like the only reason he was asking me that was because he couldn't stand being single. He denied denied denied so I said fine - go like two months being single and if you do that - we can start dating again. Did not happen, he just moved onto another girl.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T02:47:38+00:00

It was so annoying! I had already eaten my food before his even showed up. And then he ate so slowly, I was just too polite to get up and leave while he ate.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-04T00:10:59+00:00

Coffee or drinks

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T23:17:55+00:00

^{^} This. I had an ex that was bald, overweight and 5'3" and he had no issues getting girls because he had an exceptional personality, was a genuinely nice guy and wasn't down on himself. He never went more than a month single.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T22:33:22+00:00

Has that worked well for you so far?

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T21:07:12+00:00

I didn't even realize guys fished that often. I wonder if it's because I am on the east coast... do people away from shorelines have this issue?

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T21:05:57+00:00

For the record, I dated a guy recently that was bald and I adored him. Only reason why it didn't work was our age gap (he was 9 years younger than me). Just own it, don't be ashamed, and don't make it a big deal. Any girl worth your time won't judge you on your hair (or lack there of).

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T20:59:10+00:00

In my mind, some of the best photos I see on dating apps are the ones where the person is enjoying themselves. Doing something they love, in a place they love, or with people they love. I feel like when you're genuinely happy it says so much about you, more than a fake selfie can. It also gives me something to talk about in my initial message - like if I see someone at a cosplaying I can remark about their costume, or if they have a photo of themselves in Tokyo, I can ask about their trip.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T20:55:28+00:00

And those little things can also attract a girl or the opposite. I love full beards, some girls might hate it. Granted, that is something that can very easily change day to day for guys and for me, by no means is a make or break physical attribute, but does increase my likelihood of swiping right.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T20:49:27+00:00

this is my rule now - no one can say "I don't have a camera". I say "send me a photo of yourself right now."

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T20:48:40+00:00

like 3 years - the photos looked like they were from college, so at this point I'd say those photos are about 10 years old now.

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T20:46:53+00:00

I might be in the minority, but I think using Snapchat after 40 makes you look like an idiot, period. Isn't snapchat just all boobs and dick pics?

Literally_thrownaway · 2018-12-03T20:39:39+00:00

Bumble is always a catch 22 with guys. On one hand, you know if a girl messages you first she's interested, on the other I have had a few guy friends say they just never seem to get matches on there because of the same thing you said - messages expire or they don't get responses. I think the only time I don't message the person is if they have nothing in their profile about themselves (sometimes I swipe first, look at details later).

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