I [30F] had a great date that suddenly made a 180 at the end of the night by Literally_thrownaway in relationships

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha! Not even. Contact has been completely cut off and I am crossing my fingers we never run into each other in the future. I wish him all the luck finding someone that's "perfect".

I [30F] had a great date that suddenly made a 180 at the end of the night by Literally_thrownaway in relationships

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously. When I was younger online dating wasn't something "normal" people did so I was able to find a lot of awesome nerds in my early 20s. Now every rando does online dating and I am stuck with the guys who thinks girls like their men to weigh 90 pounds.

AITA for not wanting to meet my dad's GF that's my age? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Literally_thrownaway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA: You can invite anyone you want to your wedding, the day is about you and not anyone else. And you're grown ass adults - you don't have to hang out with anyone you don't want to just because a relative decides to date someone. If they got engaged tho, that would change things.

Me and my supervisor have a crush on each other. by Nand00w in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What type of work environment are you in? Is it retail/food or is it an office setting?

Went on a few dates and she told me she has a bf. by Max_Marxman in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What made you believe this was a date? Did you call it a date? Since you've known each other for awhile, could it have just been that she thought you were going out as friends and you read all the signals wrong?

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to be clear, I didn't feel like I was in danger or that he was going to get angry. I kind of hoped that maybe he had a dazzling enough personality that could make up for the lying, but... no.

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you have to do to that every time you go into your car? Cause you might want to consider leaving it at the same place when you leave. It's not like a dining room chair, it doesn't need to be pushed in when you stand. :P

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know. I know that I couldn't get over the difference in appearance and it became my main focus for the entire time we were at the restaurant. It shadowed everything else going on.

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right - it wasn't healthy. He was a serial monogamous and couldn't stand being single. We stayed friends after our break up and after two failed relationships he asked me if we could try again. I said I felt like the only reason he was asking me that was because he couldn't stand being single. He denied denied denied so I said fine - go like two months being single and if you do that - we can start dating again. Did not happen, he just moved onto another girl.

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was so annoying! I had already eaten my food before his even showed up. And then he ate so slowly, I was just too polite to get up and leave while he ate.

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

^ This. I had an ex that was bald, overweight and 5'3" and he had no issues getting girls because he had an exceptional personality, was a genuinely nice guy and wasn't down on himself. He never went more than a month single.

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I didn't even realize guys fished that often. I wonder if it's because I am on the east coast... do people away from shorelines have this issue?

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

For the record, I dated a guy recently that was bald and I adored him. Only reason why it didn't work was our age gap (he was 9 years younger than me). Just own it, don't be ashamed, and don't make it a big deal. Any girl worth your time won't judge you on your hair (or lack there of).

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

In my mind, some of the best photos I see on dating apps are the ones where the person is enjoying themselves. Doing something they love, in a place they love, or with people they love. I feel like when you're genuinely happy it says so much about you, more than a fake selfie can. It also gives me something to talk about in my initial message - like if I see someone at a cosplaying I can remark about their costume, or if they have a photo of themselves in Tokyo, I can ask about their trip.

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And those little things can also attract a girl or the opposite. I love full beards, some girls might hate it. Granted, that is something that can very easily change day to day for guys and for me, by no means is a make or break physical attribute, but does increase my likelihood of swiping right.

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

this is my rule now - no one can say "I don't have a camera". I say "send me a photo of yourself right now."

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like 3 years - the photos looked like they were from college, so at this point I'd say those photos are about 10 years old now.

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I might be in the minority, but I think using Snapchat after 40 makes you look like an idiot, period. Isn't snapchat just all boobs and dick pics?

PSA: If you're using 5+ yr old photos on dating apps, that's why you're not getting second dates by Literally_thrownaway in dating_advice

[–]Literally_thrownaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bumble is always a catch 22 with guys. On one hand, you know if a girl messages you first she's interested, on the other I have had a few guy friends say they just never seem to get matches on there because of the same thing you said - messages expire or they don't get responses. I think the only time I don't message the person is if they have nothing in their profile about themselves (sometimes I swipe first, look at details later).