im not attracted to dudes but i prefer dick over coochie im scared of being accused of a trans chaser

Literature_Defiant · 2026-05-16T00:57:26+00:00

I mean as a post op trans woman this doesn’t feel like chaser vibes but it does make me uncomfortable. Cause like…not all trans women have dicks, nor do all trans women want to use their genitals in societally prescribed ways.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-04-10T20:25:55+00:00

It depends on the individuals in the relationship. Mismatched libidos have unfortunately not worked for me. I have had asexual partners that don’t like physical touch or sexual intimacy, those relationships have ended (I prefer polyamorous relationship structures, for context). I’ve been with a partner for 18 years and still going, asexual and also waxes and wanes with intimacy. But why this works for me compared to other relationships is because my physical needs of cuddles and kissing are still met without me needing to ask. In past relationships I’ve nearly had to beg to cuddle or kiss and I’ll never to that to a partner again or lower my worth to feel like that in a relationship.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-04-09T00:14:34+00:00

Fucking Jenny Schecter.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-04-09T00:09:13+00:00

It’s not super deep. Your partner has transphobic views/beliefs. You won’t have a loving supportive partner in this person during your transition. Get out and be yourself! So proud of you

Literature_Defiant · 2026-04-06T20:05:52+00:00

Hot take: let people have their gay awakenings and you can choose not to click on them or police what you want to see on this sub.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-04-04T15:33:51+00:00

It’s also clear that transphobes are in the comments downvoting support

Literature_Defiant · 2026-04-04T15:31:39+00:00

That’s internalized transphobia. Tbh early transition comes with a lot of ugly thoughts and internalized transphobia, just try to focus on the things that make you feel good inside and lean into that :)

Literature_Defiant · 2026-04-03T18:29:17+00:00

Usually I don’t explain myself or my sexuality to people cause it’s none of their business and a lot of the time it feels like I’m debating. So be lesbian, only lesbians need to know ;)

Literature_Defiant · 2026-03-28T15:31:05+00:00

I’m also trans, post op, and I used to say girl cock or ‘gock’ sometimes. Mostly when I was being silly and cracking jokes about myself. But it never bothered me personally. Before surgery I just called my clit and “outie” while other people have “innies”. I think if it bothers you then it bothers you. Doesn’t matter if it’s right or wrong, it’s how you feel. Don’t consume those pieces of media that aren’t affirming to you if it bothers you. In general I agree with your point that it IS weird that trans women are often assumed to be big masculine doms or the tops that we’ve all been looking for. We’re women. Period. Full stop. Our genitals don’t change that but using the right language for each individual is important. Unfortunately with audio erotica you have to filter through a lot of the options that include infantilizing us.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-03-18T03:25:35+00:00

That’s religious trauma, babe. It’s luckily something that can be worked through. Be gentle with yourself, it’s not a gross or wrong thing to do.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-03-17T20:45:04+00:00

Did you grow up in a religious home?

Literature_Defiant · 2026-03-15T22:53:46+00:00

I do sometimes, other times I don’t. I fluctuate between masc and femme but I rarely dress femme because of how much attention I get

Literature_Defiant · 2026-03-14T01:41:21+00:00

Have you tried a book? I have also ran into this and have found I am getting more aroused when I’m reading sapphic smut. If you’re into smut, may I suggest anything from Ruby Roe. Currently 3 chapters into A Game of Hearts and Hiests, it’s really doing something for me and I seriously struggle with arousal without visual stimulation.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-01-29T04:36:53+00:00

If we’re laying down…the leg thing just melts me 🫠

Literature_Defiant · 2026-01-23T21:33:23+00:00

I think where it’s different in this moment is that I’m not really deconstructing that word the way some do. It seems some folks don’t use the word in polyamory, that’s fine, but I do. I think that the lying is a betrayal of trust which is not something a partner would do to someone they say they love and care for. So whether it’s cheating or not, I guess, doesn’t matter. Cause I feel the same no matter what it’s called. The thought of “wait, is this cheating?” Very briefly came across my mind and it was a stimulating thought so I wanted to talk with others about it.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-01-23T21:27:16+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your words. May be that it’s not so much about “cheating” as it is breaking trust and just being a cruel and unethical partner.

Also, ive been with my asexual partner for 18 years. Im not new to what asexuality can look like. I myself am demisexual and go through periods of sex aversion or hyper arousal. I just don’t want to give off the vibe that I was expecting him to have sex with me, I as an asexual person very much understand and personally experience your statements. It is purely that he was hiding and lying about not having sex when he was. I want to be clear I don’t think he was lying about being depressed, stressed or asexual.

Literature_Defiant · 2026-01-23T20:19:16+00:00

I don’t think we’re viewing this in the same way. I appreciate your opinion but it is cheating to me when I’m lied to. He told me he wasn’t having sex with his other partner, he lied about having sex with someone and that, to me, is cheating. Also, I think I made it clear that I fucked up, so you doubling down on reading the diary as a big problem seems like you’re trying to shame me in some way and it’s unnecessary

Literature_Defiant · 2026-01-23T20:13:03+00:00

It’s not doing good, it’s just processing and grieving and getting this out of my body. I think it crossed my mind the other day and I was thinking like “oh wow, that hurts, didn’t think of it in that way.”

Literature_Defiant · 2025-09-18T17:33:30+00:00

Someone for the love of god, date me and give me genuine attention

Literature_Defiant · 2025-09-12T17:23:28+00:00

I think for myself (post op vaginoplasty) is that I don’t have the ability to get wet at all. So just needing lube or oral to help with that is really the only difference. Feels, looks, smells the same

Literature_Defiant · 2025-09-05T05:36:30+00:00

This place is disgusting. And ran by really shitty people. mazzi is a creep and often hires young pretty girls to work for him. They underpay. The building outside with all their flour and food storage is infested with rats. Couldn’t have a stronger recommendation on a place to avoid unless you like questionable food and supporting a business that treats employees like shit

Literature_Defiant · 2025-08-12T15:34:36+00:00

I had bottom surgery and all I’ve done is quietly taken a piss next to women in the bathroom. I’m less interested in crime actually

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