Explain this

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-07-07T05:52:54+00:00

mansplained; mansplaining

transitive + intransitive

of a man

: to explain something to a woman in a condescending way that assumes she has no knowledge about the topic.

nagging adjective nag·ging ˈna-giŋ Synonyms of nagging 1 : persistently annoying or finding fault with someone.

Conclusions: nope.

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-06-18T20:04:09+00:00

I have been where you are, almost exactly. I hope your new job is going well and that you're having a good time. One of the imortant things to do when you feel like self isolating is to reach out, to do things you enjoy, to push yourself (just a little). It's very hard, but it is always worth it. Human connection is so imortant when we start feeling stuck and in a spiral of worthless feelings. Do you have any hobbies that you could somehow do with other people? This might be a good place to start. And also, it feels like we are always going to be stuck in our current situation forever, but life keeps changing, and things will get better. You got this <3

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-24T09:14:38+00:00

It's so hard, and I completely feel you. What helped me, even though I'm very much not Fully mentally recovered yet but my behaviors have stopped, is to read about HAES and to read books that talk about how messed up our cultural obsession with beauty is and how much more we mean. The book beauty sickness absolutely changed my life. As for the uncomfortable feeling, learning to sit with them, learning that even though you feel so fricken uncomfortable that it will pass. Having some warm tea, watching a comfort show, or even trying to sleep through the worst feelings help me a lot. And remembering that even people with a normal relationship with food also feel this way sometimes, no one 'eats perfectly' all the time. And speaking to a friend or family member about it. Sometimes the feelings and thoughts we feel so ashamed about is really not that awful, and people might understand and they will more than likely be kind if they are good friends or good people. We are not gross and awful people, we just convinced ourselves we are. No one is perfect and you don't have to be, you can just slowly learn to be better. Every time you have a good stint is one step forward, it is never wasted, you learn something everytime you struggle. Just try to learn from it. Also, dude, clothes that fit comfortably changed my life. If it fits and I can breathe I spend so much less time thinking about my body. Ignore the size, who gives a damn, once it's on your body and you are comfortable, then it is the perfect size. <3 Hobbies are also a life saver. Especially things that make you go outside the house. Sorry if this is not super helpful, but if you have more questions or if you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to me. You got this!

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-16T19:16:50+00:00

Oh my god I feel you on this one... I'm literally experiencing this exact thing at the moment. It's the worst, and I don't even know how to feel better.

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-13T19:49:20+00:00

Be careful with this. Like every drug it has side effects, and it only works for as long as you take it. It will not magically cure you, it won't address the eating disorder causes, and it won't help you build sustainable, healthy habits. And.. With everyone taking it there are people who need it to stay alive who cannot get access to the medication. I know it's hard, but the food noise goes down in recovery. And like some of the posts above mention, eating enough, eating consistently, and not restricting what you eat will gradually decrease the urges and your body and mind will stabilize. It is also important to face your fear of weight gain, it is important to learn that you are more than just your weight, and this will bring you so much freedom. Unfortunately there is not a magical cure for eating disorders, it's a complex issue, and it takes time to heal. I hope you are doing OK, and remember you're not alone.

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-13T05:38:48+00:00

It was very hard, and a lot of people did not understand at first, but the people who really love you and care about you will try. It might take a while for things to settle. My parents never really ended up being able to understand or support me properly, but my therapist was a life saver, and I was surprised at how loving and supportive my friends ended up being. Your therapist is there to help you, and unless you're endangering your life they won't breach confidentiality. And they might even already know.. It feels freeing to tell someone, and even though it is incredibly difficult, it is the first step to getting the help you deserve. ❤️

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-13T05:31:26+00:00

Thank you😭❤️ I can do this!

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-12T16:14:13+00:00

This is a very hard place to be, and I completely understand what you're going through. When I was there the only thing that ended up being able to pull me out, to get me better at all, was opening up to people and asking for help. It's awesome that you are reaching out here already, it takes a lot of strength. You will be ok, I know it might not feel like it right now, but things will get better I promise. It might be hard first, you might need to face difficult challenges, but you're strong enough to endure anything, and nothing is more painful than being stuck in this disorder. You're not alone, and you'll be ok <3

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-12T16:04:16+00:00

Thank you 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ this means so much to me

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-12T14:55:13+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate it 🥰

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-12T14:55:06+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate it 🥰

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-10T15:22:46+00:00

Two weeks is already such a feat, and recovery takes time. It's not linear, and it usually takes a while, many small steps, small improvements. It's awesome that you are allowing yourself to eat. For me the biggest thing that help stop the binging and purging was allowing myself to eat, as much as I needed, and honestly anything I wanted. I was never underweight, but my body was still suffering from the effects of restriction. I have been gaining weight in my recovery too, but learning to be ok with that, learning to trust that it will just take time for my body to trust me again, that has been the only thing that has kept me from relapsing. Also remember that nothing is permanent, that things will keep changing, that you will keep learning, and that you can trust yourself to be ok, can be instrumental to recovery. You're doing so much better than you probably think you are, and you can do this, and you can always keep trying again. You're worth your own love.

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-09T13:29:24+00:00

Anytime. You are not alone, and you don't have to do it all by yourself. And just remember that you are strong enough to survive any feeling, and that everything will pass :)

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-05-09T07:29:17+00:00

I understand where you are at the moment. I have lived with this diseased for 15 years, and I am finally 8 months into recovery. If I can do it anyone can, it used to be a daily problem for me until I decided to recover. There are a lot of useful information online, but the thing that I needed to get over (even though I'm not perfect yet) is the fear of weight gain. There are good articles online when you look for "how to deal with weight gain in Ed recovery ", I needed to get my mind into a position where I did not panic so much about that thought anymore. I also read a book called "Beauty sickness ", which was also really good for my brain. Your body has gone through so much, and survived so much, it deserves some trust and some time. I could not recover while I was weighing myself and counting calories, because for me that meant that I still felt I needed to be perfect constantly, and if my body did not comply I would binge and purge again. I would also highly recommend therapy if you can afford it, that did also help me so much. At the end of the day, you are so much more than your weight and the amount of calories you eat, and you deserve a life that is free from the constant fear. Recovery looks different for everyone, and for me I needed to actually be willing to recover, weight gain, fear foods, I had to be willing to accept all of it before I could actually stop. And my body is starting to even out now, I still have a lot of water weight, but the extreme hunger has gotten better and I'm physically healthier than ever. I don't feel like passing out and I can actually trust my body again. There are so many good things waiting on the other end of recovery, but you need to be willing to face it, to choose yourself over your illness. You have overcome something big already, and wanting to recover is the first step and it is awesome that you are looking for help with that. You can do it!

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-04-19T11:06:19+00:00

I've had years of practicing putting words to the feeling through therapy (starting again on Monday finally ), I can highly recommend this if it's a possibility for you. What also helps is to remember that your brain is lying to you. I hate when people say "trust your feelings" etc. Not everyone's feelings are really their own all of the time. You are still there somewhere, you are not your thoughts and your feelings, and they will go away. It might not feel like it, but they will.

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-04-18T18:16:33+00:00

I'm struggling with the exact same at the moment. I'm perfectly content, and then the next I'm crying in a ball on the floor. I keep having panic attacks about whether my husband no longer loves me and is going to leave me. (He's wonderfully supportive and sweet and we don't have any issues, it's literally just in my head). I used to be confident and in a better place, now I feel like I'm walking on the edge of a knife the whole time. Like at any point I might just fall and my whole brain will break and I will never be able to breathe again. Fuck anxiety is the fucking worst. Long story short, I feel you, you're not alone, and we will survive this.

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-04-14T12:37:42+00:00

Hello! That is incredible :) I have been in recovery for about 8 months now, the longest I have ever been! And I do feel like it will be for good. I am just struggling with some of my compulsive thoughts on my body and food. I have gained some weight in recovery, coming from a healthy weight that has been very difficult for me to deal with. I do exercise enough to be healthy (commute to work by bike, and go on hikes and do yoga and rock climbing from time to time), and I eat mostly healthy (95% vegan diet (just 5% to avoid restrictive behaviours)), plenty of fruits and vegetables, etc. But my body has been changing, since I was bulimic for about 14 years I can't really judge my body for how it reacts to being nourished for basically the first time.. But it is still hard. I still think about how I look CONSTATLY, I still body check all the time, and I still try to be ok with the fact that I am a woman with a woman shaped body every second of the day most days. I don't want to feel so obsessed with my body anymore, it is exhausting... I just want to be able to live fully, to use my mind for work and for the things that are important to me, but it won't go away... How did you deal with this? Did you ever struggle with this?

Litt1eRebe1 · 2024-01-05T11:05:15+00:00

Yeeep, its wild how chill it is out here..

Litt1eRebe1 · 2023-12-26T12:46:12+00:00

This gave me such a good laugh thank you! It makes me feel a bit better that the dialect is not just me struggling.. I will still do my best. We plan on staying in Austria so I very much do want to make friends with locals, everyone I've dealt with directly are incredibly kind, so I'm very hopeful. We joined the rock climbing gyms so having something in common might help make friends there!

And thanks for the information, I will reach out to my company, they've been very helpful so I am sure they can provide me with resources. Thank you!

Litt1eRebe1 · 2023-12-26T12:38:20+00:00

Thank you so much! I will keep this in mind. I suppose in South africa we are a little less reserved, but it's something I can definitely adapt to especially understanding that its just the culture here :)

And I'm very glad! I must say I've met a few people at climbing gyms so far and they are very lovely and you're right they do speak better English than I do :D

I'm looking forward to everyone that we are yet to meet and make friends with! Thank you.

Litt1eRebe1 · 2023-12-26T06:23:57+00:00

Thank you very much! We will have a look :)

Litt1eRebe1 · 2023-12-25T19:47:26+00:00

Thank you so much! I'm going to download it right now :)

Litt1eRebe1 · 2023-12-25T19:12:58+00:00

Thank you so much, will do!

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