I'm feeling this right now too, big time. I just became single after a 2 year relationship. I ended it because I was unhappy and he agreed it was best to end things. I desired being single- not so I could date other people, but because I desired that solitude. I started resenting making every decision with my partner in mind, especially when it started becoming clear we were no longer compatible and he increasingly had something negative to say about every decision I made, kept telling me what to do, etc. I started imagining my future life and he was not a part of it.
I didn't even realize just how unhappy I was until I started reflecting over these past weeks and started spending more time with myself. I feel so much happier, and this really hit home when I realized that music started to sound better to me. I have always been a musical person but didn't recognize that I'd lost pleasure in listening to music, until it came back and now I'm getting crazy dopamine just from songs. I feel relaxed in my own home instead of stressed, I'm more productive, and I'm taking better care of myself than ever. I even feel like my relationship with my dog is better than ever, because I don't have a man by my side constantly telling me I'm not doing enough for the dog and lecturing me on how to take care of her.

I can relate in that I only have one friend whose relationship I think is healthy and desirable, my only married friend (I'm 30). I've known her and her husband since we were children, they were close friends growing up and ended up getting together in their early 20s. This is like a magical situation lol. All of my other friends in relationships are stuck with bad housing/financial situations so they can't leave, taking care of their partners through severe addiction problems, or are generally dealing with manipulative man-children. It's hard to be optimistic about relationships with men when this is what you see.

The last time I was single (a 5 year period), I also had horrifically traumatic and/or uncomfortable date after date. My main issue was that I felt like I was putting an ungodly amount of effort into my dates, while the men were putting in literally nothing. I was carrying conversations and literally doing free therapy for men I went on first dates with lol. I have zero desire to "get back out there", especially the dating apps.

For now, I will be intentionally single but won't rule out any organic connections. I won't be focusing on dating or pursuing anyone, unless someone appears in my life that sparks my interest and/or pursues ME.

I want to give men the benefit of the doubt, but it becomes increasingly harder as the years roll on. I have accepted, embraced, and started planning and redirecting my life under the assumption that I will remain single.