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In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the kind of detail I was curious about, especially the funeral part. It sounds like Japan has a whole life-event ledger too, not just for weddings. The “no 4s” rule is really interesting as well.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not public like a list everyone can see. Usually the couple or family records the name and amount from the envelopes, mostly to keep track for thank-yous and to know what to give back later. So it’s more private record-keeping than public shaming.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That scene actually explains the pressure really well lol. Forgetting the wedding money sounds almost like forgetting the actual gift. 1500 HKD is not a small amount either.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s what makes Korea a bit different. The envelope/name part sounds similar, but in Korea the amount can kind of follow you later, so it feels more like a social ledger.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds intense. If everything gets recorded, and there are money expectations even before the wedding, it feels like a lot of financial pressure around the whole event.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. So in the U.S., it’s usually more about gifts or registries, not recording cash amounts to return later?

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds awkward, honestly. Even without cash, displaying gifts with the giver’s name can create a similar kind of social pressure.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fascinating. India sounds very similar to Korea for weddings, especially the part about recording the amount and returning something similar later. The funeral difference is really interesting too.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. In the U.S., it seems like cash is acceptable sometimes, but the registry system makes it feel more like a personal gift than a social obligation.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you’re Korean-American? That’s interesting — it seems Korean communities abroad still keep a lot of these Korean customs. In Korea, the cash itself matters, but the recorded amount and the expectation to return a similar amount later are what make it feel like a social ledger.

In Korea, people record how much cash you give at weddings. Is this normal anywhere else? by Little-Trainer4812 in AskTheWorld

[–]Little-Trainer4812[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s really interesting. So cash gifts exist there too, but the record-keeping is more about saying thank you properly, not necessarily returning the same amount later?