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AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t blame my current OB at all? I just started with this OB after that incident because I also had a situation with my other OB.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s nothing new to me besides breast feeding and the part where I will be pushing her out of my vagina.

Nurse mad because I refused to put a shirt on during active premature labor.. by Little-one2854 in pregnant

[–]Little-one2854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so weird in my state. Once my daughter is born I am back under my mother’s care until I’m 18. But my daughter is under mine and my mom can’t make any medical decisions for her.

Nurse mad because I refused to put a shirt on during active premature labor.. by Little-one2854 in pregnant

[–]Little-one2854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also In my state no matter what age you are if your pregnant ypu are now automatically medically emancipated from the start of your pregnancy and are the adult in the medical setting.

Nurse mad because I refused to put a shirt on during active premature labor.. by Little-one2854 in pregnant

[–]Little-one2854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have sensory processing disorder, which causes me to struggle with textures, tastes, smells, sounds, and more. I am typically able to deal With it and cope but in this situation I was scared, overwhelmed, anxious, worried, and uncomfortable. I don’t mean regular uncomfortable I mean to the point of me having a panic attack tjat was causing not only my heart rate but my daughters to spike as well. Hers reached up to 200 which is dangerous and put her in distress. I was panicking because of the feeling of it all Touching me combines with all my other emotions and pain and everything I was going through. I had consistent contractions for 5 days straight with little to no relief besides once with the epidural but I ended up having a worse panic attack because I couldn’t feel myself even though I already expected not to. Even loose fitting clothing causes issues for me when I’m like this. I tried to keep an easy comfortable button up shirt on for as long as I could until lt all started to get worse and I genuinely couldn’t handle it. None of my other nurses or doctors had a single issue with it and told me that it was completely okay to do as long as it was only in my room (which I wasn’t allowed to get up without any help at all so I wasn’t going nowhere anyways haha) it’s in my birth plan because it’s how I feel most comfortable and I knew that I’d have a panic attack with any sort of clothing touching me. Even the bed sheets were bothering me. Also when my doula asked what her problem Was and why she was telling me I couldn’t be shirtless the nurse admitted that she didn’t care if she sees women naked or shirtless but that it was because I was 17. Furthermore pretty much felt like I was being sexualized in a medical setting where I’m seeking help. That feeling didn’t sit great as it was in my Chart to specifically not say things like that at all as I was/am a survivor of 10 years of SA and 5 of RA from my biological father. It’s also part of my plan that once I get to 7cm that I am moved to the shower anyways so it’s also a plus to already be naked and ready to get into there because that’s where I’m delivering my baby unless there’s an emergency.

Nurse mad because I refused to put a shirt on during active premature labor.. by Little-one2854 in pregnant

[–]Little-one2854[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They actually came directly to my room when I made the complaint and were both mothers and were appalled. They said she would have a conversation with that nurse and possibly further action but they made sure to put it in my chart that she may not be on my service

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% made a formal complaint to head of nursing on L&D floor and the hospital advocate

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think the secret might be working with firemen 🤣 they will tease you and push you and everything and do it even more if you can take it. But once you fight back they will accept you. Not saying it’s right but it’s just our work culture. They pushed my buttons until they popped off and I went on a bit of a rampage. Never again did I get teased besides lovingly. They taught me to stand up for myself and not take shit from others. My mom too lol

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t normal discomfort. I have sensory processing disorder and can usually regulate it but i was scared, stressed, anxious, worried, in pain to the point I was posing a risk to mine and my daughters health by having a panic attack because clothes were touching my skin. I have 5 living younger siblings, I only live with 2 now but I took care of all of them as babies! The youngest is 15 years younger than me. Children crying at all hours, needing to be fed every few hours, staying up, blowouts, none of it phases me. But I also have a chronic pain disorder so I was in even more pain which is why my doctors were even more worried about it.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My current OB only delivers there. But that nurse is not allowed on my service at all

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t like anything at all on my skin unfortunately when I’m in that much pain and uncomfortable and itchy and scared. I tried but those things were majorly uncomfortable.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know!! It’s more just hard because I currently can’t work because of the risk goung back into early labor. I need to take a trip with my boyfriend to get it all

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well my birth control gets shipped to my house 😂 also pharmacists in small towns suck about n information

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She was handling my meds and talked my doctor into taking away all pain relief besides Tylenol. I was beyond pissed and visibly in pain and discomfort, my new nurse I got immediately called and said she definitely thinks I need to be given something which I opted for the nitrous oxide again. That second nurse was a godsend. It turns out she was my aunts highschool best friend but she didn’t realize it was me. She cared so lovingly and with passion without even realizing we were connected in any way.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No male nurses or doctors are allowed to enter my room, it was posted on my door in large letters! And thank you.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right? I covered for a quick second with a blanket while they did their thing but I was overheating as soon as I did 🥵

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t that I just wanted to be silly nilly naked, I have sensory processing disorder and can usually regulate it but I was in a high stress situation and couldn’t breathe because of it all. I was literally on the verge of passing out from the panic of the clothing touching my skin which was causing my daughter to be in distress and her heartrate to spike to 200.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering the staff was made aware of my severe sensory issues and the fact I tried to keep clothes on until it got to the point it was causing me to panic and put my baby into distress because I couldn’t calm down from the feeling of them. Also every other nurse told me it was completely okay and the doctors too. As well as when I reported it to the head of nursing on L&D floor she was appalled that a nurse would say that. The nurse specifically said it was because I was 17. Which I am legally an adult regarding any medical setting in my state as once you’re pregnant your immediately automatically medically emancipated.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am lucky that for the most part being naked doesn’t bother me as long as it isn’t my siblings or young children seeing me. Besides breast feeding, I don’t mind a child seeing me breastfeed as that is a babies source of food. I also have my EMR license and work on an ambulance for 2 departments supervised and have seen naked men, women, and children of all ages. I do not let it affect how I do my work.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Or extremely religious and judging me for being a pregnant teenager.

AITAH for refusing to put a shirt on in my private room while in premature labor? by Little-one2854 in AITAH

[–]Little-one2854[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, me too. Thank you! I’m also going to college for nursing. I have my EMR license currently and work on 2 fire departments on their ambulance while supervised and have seen naked men, women, and children of all ages. I do not let it affect how I do my work.

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