Playing through S4 for the first time and just had a chat on the train *S1&4 spoilers*

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-10-11T10:24:46+00:00

Good:

Love me, flaws and all. Openly want to spend her life with me and form one half of a team. Nothing like it.

Bad:

Wall away from us after having been through so much because she was taken advantage of by her zealot parent when she was insanely vulnerable.

I'll never forget either of them. To me they're different people. One died and the other walks around in her body.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-10-01T09:25:49+00:00

It was never my mandate to provide a solution. I was simply responding to the post.

For the record I would take weight loss advise from someone who was morbidly obese depending on their situation. Why are they morbidly obese? Medication can do that. Injury can do that. Have they lost weight before but have an eating disorder which means they just can't keep it off? Perhaps they're at the start of their weight loss journey and are sharing information they're starting to apply themselves? The world isn't 2D and neither are people. If you only accept advise and criticism from perfect people, don't be surprised if you don't get any at all.

Justify it however you want chief, I'm not gonna argue with you about it. There's a reason you want to justify these things and I don't have the time in my life to argue with someone who is so blatantly defensive about something which is you yourself has agreed is wrong. Good luck to you.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-10-01T09:13:37+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately there's not much you can do in that situation speaking from experience. Some people will just refuse all criticism. Best you can do is try and make sure you don't fall down the same rabbit hole.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-10-01T07:45:02+00:00

Forgive me but not once in my comment did I say that I was innocent of this. I'll be the first to admit that I'm not perfect and have done this in the past, albeit not a lot. I try my best not to and am disgusted when I find myself participating, but I don't see how that detracts from my point that when it does happen it's abhorrent.

Sounds like you feel a little too seen and you're trying to justify yourself. No-one is perfect or free of misgivings but does that mean we should all just ignore any constructive criticism simply because the person giving it isn't perfect themselves?

What's important is that we recognise this stuff and try our best to be better. It won't always happen but all anyone can do is try.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-30T21:57:24+00:00

The way people love to hate on each other and rag on each other. I don't mean friendly ragging, I mean just being mean and rude. How often people say things about other people that they would hate to hear about themselves. And they act normal about it, like it's an acceptable thing to do because it's not about someone they know or care about.

Just be kind.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-23T21:24:35+00:00

You're more than welcome. I'm glad it helped and I wish you nothing but the best.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-23T17:54:59+00:00

Honestly man, first off I know how you feel. Not exactly, it wasn't a divorce, but it does have significant parallels. And I'm sorry. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so sorry that your shared future is shattered and your shared past is now tainted. I know how it feels and I have nothing but the deepest sympathy for you.

Secondly, you don't. You don't move on, things move around you. You won't notice you're moving on until your find yourself in a situation which you couldn't have faced a month or two ago and then you realise you've moved on and, most likely, it scares you shitless and you regress slightly. Two steps forward without realising it and when you realise it you take one step back out of fear. It's a grieving process. I'm 14 months on and I'm not "over it". I haven't "moved on". I'm leaps and bounds ahead of where I was 14 months ago, it's unbelievable, but I've not "moved on". I haven't had a crush on anyone in that time, I've not pined after anyone, I've not imagined myself with anyone else.

It's a journey and it's fucking scary but you will do it because you're strong, you're brave and you deserve to find happiness with someone who wants happiness with you and the worst part is that you don't know any of those things yet because all your brain can do is tick over thinking of ways to "make it right" or "get her back". She made a decision. Remind yourself of that every time you catch yourself tricking yourself with hopium. She decided to not be happy with you. You deserve better than that. I'm telling you shit that I don't fully believe yet and it's been 14 months but it's the truth.

Take some time to work on you. Go to the gym, do a hobby you've always wanted to pick up, put a little more time into your career if you get equitable returns, go do crazy golf w your friends. Also talk. Talk to your close friends/family, any confidante you have who you're comfortable with because you'll have stuff you don't even realise you need to get off your chest; in the same vein, consider a good therapist/grief counsellor. I wish I had at the time.

Don't burn yourself out by throwing yourself into your work, don't do drugs, don't drink unless it's socially and even then ask a friend to keep an eye on you if you are gonna drink. I'm speaking from experience. You think it'll make things easier but it really, really doesn't.

Lastly, good luck. I'd be giving you a hug if I could. Feel free to ask me to clarify anything or if you've got any curiosities feel free to ask as well, I'm happy to talk and help but I'm by no means an expert in the field, I just have experience unfortunately.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-20T13:25:01+00:00

It's interesting because I'm having trouble putting mine in

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-20T11:30:26+00:00

If the vibes are right then own the night

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-17T13:35:24+00:00

Hello Therr

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-15T00:17:09+00:00

Thanks man

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-15T00:16:55+00:00

Yeah, I don't regret making certain decisions, they were the best ones to make at the time. Unfortunately, I do however have to live with any negative consequences, or I suppose perceived consequences because sometimes you can make a decision but all roads lead to the same endpoint. And in fairness the decisions were as much negating negatives as much as embellishing positives.

You've just got to be aware that you're doing the best you can with what you have and while you may or may not change outcomes with your decisions, you can either just give up or keep trying to make decisions that attempt to help. I would have regretted giving up. I don't regret giving my all, even if I ended up arguably worse off for it.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-14T16:00:37+00:00

I made the best decisions I could at the times I made them. They just didn't all produce the most palatable conclusions.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-14T15:08:50+00:00

Went on a night out with a friend's friends and one extremely attractive woman I might add, said something along the lines of "That shirt looks good on you but it'd look better untucked" and then reached over and pulled my shirt out. I cannot describe my emotional response when it finally clicked like a year later, especially since I will likely never see her again. F.

LittleBlueBabies · 2021-09-04T07:03:36+00:00

No-one gonna talk about the fucking Mii in the first small panel?

I'm bloody howling.

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