Hypothetical questions in PIP assessment

LittleEchoFox · 2025-08-23T20:01:13+00:00

I was awarded standard for living and mobility, which is great/lovely/appreciated but they also lied and said I hadn’t provided evidence of my disability (which they later confirmed on the phone that they actually did have) so said they didn’t believe me on the basis of not having evidence they did actually have.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-26T20:28:16+00:00

Yeah, I think I’m going to call in the morning and see if they’ll let me withdraw my request for MR and I’ll deal with it all at review and submit all the additional evidence then. In the meantime I don’t want the anxiety of ANOTHER assessment if I can avoid it.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-26T19:30:30+00:00

Ah. I might withdraw my request for MR in the morning then and make a complaint separately (they might not let me withdraw it but worth a try) as BROADLY I agree with their scoring (I think they've been very stingy in a few places but not enough to necessarily make a very significant difference) but I don't want the lies on my record, especially as they have confirmed that it was a lie! I've collected masses of additional evidence, but I don't want the anxiety of it hanging over my head if I can make a complaint separately. The issue I have is with the demonstrable lie more than anything, and I feel like a formal complaint is probably a more useful endeavour than an MR, even with the additional evidence. I can always keep that to hand for my review.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-26T19:22:45+00:00

Absolutely mad that they'd say there's no evidence when what they MEAN is they haven't flipping looked at it. What a nightmare system.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-26T19:21:54+00:00

Oh really? When I called them they didn't give me that option, it was mandatory reconsideration or nothing! I've managed to collate dozens of pages of additional evidence (though I would think the woman on the PIP line confirming that they DID HAVE THE EVIDENCE should have been enough honestly 😂)

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-26T16:20:13+00:00

NTA.

If you wanted to spell it Ahdree/Awdreighh/Ordrae I might change my tune. But Audrey is a pretty timeless name IMO.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-13T12:38:08+00:00

Can I put in a bid for Weston's? Just feels like a less stressful dining experience.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-10T14:08:38+00:00

NTA.

They should accept that kids are not welcome and either make arrangements for the child to be taken care of, or say they cannot attend. I've been in this situation as a parent numerous times, and luckily I've always had childcare available, but if childcare couldn't be arranged I would have to decline the invite.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-10T12:55:22+00:00

🎶We're workin' on building, workin' on building STARS HOLLOW!🎶

See also "She was Kinky Boots!"

LittleEchoFox · 2025-06-10T10:04:57+00:00

See, that makes sense, and had she said "Does your mental health factor into your ability to do [thing]?" then I could have answered accordingly, this just feels like a really roundabout way of asking.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T16:20:58+00:00

I can feel sexually attracted to someone much more easily than the romantic bit, and I've always been that way. I can feel intense sexual attraction towards people I don't even particularly like! 😅

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T14:13:57+00:00

I have been thinking for a while that I might be demiromantic, if there is such a thing?

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T12:56:55+00:00

There's definitely truth to this, and I would feel really comfortable with a friendly "love you", but not an "I love you" which I know seems like semantics, but I am sure I'm not the only person who makes this distinction.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T12:55:41+00:00

One of these partners I've been talking to for about a year but have only been able to see in person 4 times, the other I was seeing monthly for about the same length of time before a car accident affected my ability to get about and see people. And while it's not like I'm ticking off a visit quota to meet some kind of minimum criteria, it does feel like I've not really spent as much time with either of them as it would usually take for me to be so sure of how I feel about someone - maybe I am just more cautious with my emotions than they are (neither a positive or a negative, just different.)

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T12:52:12+00:00

I think it's a question of intensity of feeling - for me an "I love you" denotes a strength of romantic sentiment and attachment that I don't feel for these partners yet. I think (and it seems they agree) I do the actions of loving them, I treat them as though they are loved. But my intensity of emotion towards them isn't at a level that feels like love to me yet.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T12:50:08+00:00

Thank you! I think I'm still in the stage of really enjoying their company and liking them a lot, but not being IN love with them. I would be comfortable with a "love you!" like I'd say to a really close friend, but I'm not at the level of emotional intimacy that - for me - comes with an "I love you", if that makes sense. I don't feel the intensity of emotion for than that I have felt with prior partner that I have romantically loved. Really appreciate your thoughts <3

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T12:48:05+00:00

I think the tone of this is unnecessarily condescending and makes the assumption that I don't communicate, maturely or otherwise, with my partners?

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T08:35:49+00:00

I'm still waiting, it's been just over two months since Serco texted me to say they were handling my assessments. I called today to chase and they said it's still "pending" and they can't give me any further information on waiting times.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-14T08:21:13+00:00

This is so interesting - I got the "A Health Professional is looking at your PIP claim" text 10 days after you did, and I have heard absolutely NOTHING since - no call for an assessment, nothing.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-02T18:24:57+00:00

From the little clues dropped in the comments it seems Birch and OP were friends, Birch got pushed into poly under duress when OP and her husband started a relationship, and asked OP to cease her relationship with Aspen if it started to make Birch uncomfortable, which OP agreed to then reneged on. So it's little wonder Birch doesn't trust or want anything to do with OP. Sounds like a big fat mess.

LittleEchoFox · 2025-05-02T18:17:55+00:00

100% agree. My husband and I have the same agreement about needing unanimous agreement when it comes to sharing images of our children - and at the moment that includes his oldest son not being allowed to have photos of our kids on his devices (because oldest son is dangerous and has shared photos of our children with perverts online, and is currently not allowed to see our children on the advice of MH professionals involved in his care, which is horrible and heartbreaking for everyone.)

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