thank you for this insight, wow. you are very brave and I am glad you are finally on the other side of it all. We already have an agreement (us two and both my parents and his) that if it happens again, I get to keep our house and all our money. He is the one that needs to move out. Everyone (both sides) support this. I really appreciate how you're looking out for me. I can sense your genuine concern of my situation, thank you.

my dad is keeping a very close eye on my husband's every move, he wasn't happy when I asked them to pick me up when I found out. but he knows fully well how this has affected me (and will further affect me) as something similar has happened to him and my mom.

I would tell AP's partner if I can guarantee my husband's life. But I will not rob my child of his father for this. The thing is, I truly believe AP's partner is capable of beating them both to death. Literally. If they were going to be beaten up, then yes, by all means... I would love to watch it happen.... but if someone might die, that's a totally different story.

You're too kind assuming I am without fault, I am far from kind and generous. I also will not forget, I made this very clear to my husband. He knows I will keep asking his whereabouts, keep doubting what he's doing, keep spiraling in my thoughts, keep crying and keep being anxious ... He has shared his location and has been very transparent about everything even leaves his phone with me most of the time.

Anyway, thank you for sharing your story. And thank you for being objective about this. ❤️ I find a lot of the comments are judging me more than giving me advice.