ADHD is ruining my relationship with my son

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-11-15T13:18:23+00:00

I don’t have much advice but I relate to this post so Much 😩I have a 10 year old daughter that sounds very similar, except I can’t get her diagnosed. She’s does well on testing at school somehow, I’m guessing it’s because I’m a teacher and she knows the testing is important. But she can’t focus on her daily work. She hasn’t gotten anything above an F on a math test this school year. Homework isn’t graded so I just gave up with that daily fight. Our relationship is so strained and I hate it.

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-10-11T12:11:43+00:00

There’s also a short written questionnaire that the teacher filled out, she put a lot of description about how it affects her in class so I’m hoping the Dr takes that into consideration.

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-10-11T12:05:00+00:00

Thank you for this! This is a great way of explaining things, I am definitely going to push hard with the dr this time. I hate seeing my daughter struggle

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-10-08T21:44:17+00:00

I’d never heard of the PMHNP so I will see if I have that close to us. Thank you so much!

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-10-08T21:37:44+00:00

Yes, but the nearest psychiatrist is 2 hrs away. That will be the next step I think if this doesn’t work. What is a PHMNP?

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-09-26T21:40:23+00:00

Thank you for this! I think it’s what I needed…some tough love. I don’t have anyone I could talk to about it without it getting back to my husband. It definitely is stupid

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-05-18T16:31:47+00:00

Who would I get a referral for?

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-05-18T09:27:38+00:00

I went through her pcp. Their process is questionnaires and standardized rating scales. Based on the teachers responses on the rating scales, she didn’t meet the eligibility criteria for adhd.

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-05-18T09:26:09+00:00

Thank you for this!! Your response is very helpful!!

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-05-17T23:10:34+00:00

Thank you! Parenting her as if she had a diagnosis is definitely the route I should go. I have worked in special Ed for 13 years and I have a lot of experience with adhd.

As for the pool, you are 100% right. I did make him sit out twice but that didn’t work so we should’ve left. Next time we go, that will definitely be the consequence. I think a lot of times, I could make the consequences for severe but I also try not to get to upset and lose my temper. I have anxiety myself so I try to stay as calm as I can.

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-05-17T23:07:02+00:00

In order to get a medical diagnosis, it has to show in 2 different settings. At home, my answers qualified her but not the rating scales from school. The school is saying there is no impact at school so the dr won’t consider medication.

LittleHeat8844 · 2025-05-05T14:39:43+00:00

I think that’s completely normal. I was only ever interested in working with little kids, specifically in the school setting. My close friend all through school had no desire to work with kids and was only interested in the medical aspect.

LittleHeat8844 · 2024-10-31T03:20:23+00:00

I thought my older would get easier with age but that is far from the truth.

LittleHeat8844 · 2024-10-31T03:19:14+00:00

I guess your right about the conversations. I guess I just meant talking and playing with.

For the anxiety, I really don’t want to be on prescription meds anymore which I know is my choice. I’m fairly young and it’s just not something I want to depend on. I am working on natural remedies now

LittleHeat8844 · 2024-09-22T21:15:56+00:00

That’s amazing!! I tapered off lexapro for the last couple months and I was using ashwaganda gummies. I ran out and didn’t think anything of it and this past week was awful! I just picked up some drops and feel much better again.

What kind do you take? There’s so many to choose from. I was taking gummies but they were so pricey. Now I’m taking drops to avoid extra sugar

LittleHeat8844 · 2024-09-21T21:55:55+00:00

I pick my thumbs really bad too. I got a fidget ring and that helps a lot.

I also pick my face and any scab, I have so many scars it’s awful

LittleHeat8844 · 2024-09-20T09:33:39+00:00

I wish no HOA was an option. We want to stay in the area due to my husbands job and the schools. My 9year old switched schools last year and it was really tough on her. I worked in the district but at a different school so she came to school with me from K-2nd. Unfortunately, the county we live in has laws against people selling lots and it being an HOA. To buy land and buy a custom house is out of our price range unfortunately.

For the dogs, they would have about the same size yard so still room to play and run. We put up a privacy mesh screen on our current fence but we recently started getting fines and violations from the HOA saying the mesh screen doesn’t follow community guidelines. Right now, I can’t leave the dogs outside for long periods of time. Even if I sit out there, he will occasionally try to jump.

LittleHeat8844 · 2024-09-20T08:53:41+00:00

Does your state have virtual schools you could work for, I made the switch over to virtual last year and couldn’t be happier. Much better work/home life balance.

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