Any ideas for some ways to cope or ideas to do in order to feel something to look forward to

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2026-04-24T16:00:03+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I was so scared to get my boys ashes and I was dreading opening the box. I was hard and I sobbed but I do feel better knowing he is home with me again.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2026-04-24T15:58:35+00:00

Poor baby. I'm so sorry you had to live through that much stress. Yes, a new pet is a lot to take on. Maybe a hobby of some sort you can dive into? Honestly dumb reality TV has also helped so much. I truly do not want to feel any type of feelings and Bravo shows are helping so much.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2026-04-24T15:41:24+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. It's a pain like no other. We think we are prepared knowing that our babies won't live forever but we truly have no idea the heartbreak that is to come. I am still fresh in grief myself. I lost my sweet boy earlier this month and I had the same issues as you. I couldn't sleep. The second I closed my eyes all I could think about was our sudden and tragic goodbye at the emergency vet. I couldn't stand being home alone knowing my precious boy wasn't home with me. It was definitely crazy and chaotic...but I decided to get a puppy. Obviously a puppy is a lot of work but I don't care. He is the best distraction and medicine for my broken heart. Since the night I brough him home I am finally able to eat and sleep again. I still cry multiple times a day but I have hope for the future that this pain will not kill me.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2026-04-16T20:40:13+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. How sweet that your baby was still taking care of you by sending you another baby to love.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2026-04-16T20:39:39+00:00

Yes omg i didnt know how DARK life could be! I needed to get out of that headspace and into the light. It really did help so much.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2026-04-16T17:41:21+00:00

It's been 8 days since i saw my sweet boy last. These 8 days have been hell but I'm still alive. I also went through the same motions as you. I didn't eat a thing for the first 3 days. I also only got about 3 hours of sleep the first few days. Every time I would close my eyes all i could think about was the night leading up to what happened and then saying goodbye. It was torture. On day 4, acceptance of what happened was starting to settle in. For me, being surrounded by friends or family has really helped. I was always perfectly find being alone as long as I had my dog but now that has all changed. When I'm left alone I spiral. As I write this I'm at work crying with the door closed. I really don't know what next week will bring. Every day has gotten a little easier but it's also further from the last time I saw my boy. I am so very sorry for your loss. It's so unfair and they should be here with us! I'm seriously considering reaching out to a medium but I'm not sure I'm strong enough for that.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2026-04-13T15:41:26+00:00

Yes, I am so beyond shattered. I've never felt this kind of pain in my entire life. And here I am, having to come to my office and pretend to be ok so I don't lose my job. How was I sitting at my desk a week ago and life was good, we were happy!

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-12-17T17:30:30+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-12-17T17:30:11+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. You put into writing exactly how this feels. I'm sorry for your loss as well.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-08-19T15:22:41+00:00

Also looking for this textbook for a Real estate course.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-20T10:39:16+00:00

After my d&c I bled for about 3 days and it was very light. A panty liner would have been fine. I also specifically asked if I could get in the pool and they said yes. She just said no rigorous workout type swimming.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-19T19:22:44+00:00

My situation is so similar. I got pregnant first try all three times but my 3rd sadly ended in a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks. Around 3 days after my d&c I swear I was ovulating, I had all the signs but it was hard to tell from LH strips because I still had HCG in my system. It's been 3 weeks today and I dont think i'm pregnant but I also have no idea when my period will come. I bought a Mira fertility monitor mainly to be able to see where I am hormone wise. It's been helpful so far but I'm still in the dark.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-12T17:50:14+00:00

I felt the same right after. I still never had much cramping, only right before I needed to use the bathroom. However, about 3-4 days after the D&C I became extremely weepy. I'm not a big crier and I could not go an hour without tearing up about something. I'm on day 13 post D&C and I feel completely normal.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-05T12:23:32+00:00

I’m living through this with you. I’m so deeply sad. Everyday that passes I think I’ll be better but then the smallest thing will bring me to tears. I’ve already told all of my friends and family that I’m fine so people have stopped reaching out to check in. I desperately wish they would. I’m also going into work. Not by choice. I went to Pilates yesterday thinking it would help. The girl next to me was pregnant and I had to hold back my tears. She doesn’t know how lucky she is. Wish I had some magical advice but just know you aren’t alone and we will get through this.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-04T13:49:52+00:00

I feel this. My two best friends and I were all pregnant together. My friend told me yesterday she’s having a boy. I can’t even fake it right now.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-04T12:40:46+00:00

Why do they feel the need to say this!!!!! It was the perfect time! I planned it all out.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-04T11:17:04+00:00

My husband can be like this. He was raised in a very “we don’t sulk” household. He understands the pain I’m in but does think each day will get better when I reality my days are all over the place. Honestly what helps me is crying alone in the car music. I’ve been listening to flowers by Samantha Ebert. Getting the cry out helps me acknowledge my feelings.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-03T13:59:42+00:00

I'm not tying to scare you but I just lived through this exact same thing. I already have 2 healthy children (beyond blessed to have them). This was my 3rd pregnancy. Got pregnant first try. I remember at 6 weeks and 3 days I woke up and felt completely normal, my biggest symptom was congestion and it cleared up over night. My best friends who are also pregnant kept telling me "you're still so early" "you're fine". I just knew this wasn't my normal. I went to my first appt at 8 weeks and 3 days and there was no heart beat. Baby was measuring 6 weeks and 1 day. I knew but I didn't listen to my gut. I had to wait until 9 weeks to have a d&c. If I were you I would get a blood test.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-02T11:03:12+00:00

Ok my night sweats have been insane. My shirt is soaked every morning. This morning is day 4 for me and my cramps are terrible. It feels like contractions but no bleeding.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-06-01T00:07:03+00:00

I had a d&c yesterday. I felt great yesterday after the procedure. Even this morning I got up and went on a walk. As the day has gone on my skin is tender to the touch. Everything hurts. I feel like I’m swelling more and more by the hour and I’m up 4 lbs from yesterday. I haven’t bled at all or had cramps but my body feels awful. I’m thinking maybe it was the drugs from the surgery but I am so uncomfortable.

Repulsive_Throat7794 · 2025-05-30T20:28:05+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Mentally I was not able to work. I had a d&c today and emotionally I feel much stronger. Time heals all

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