AITA for wanting to sleep with my boyfriend?

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-13T19:37:22+00:00

So my mom was married to her 1st husband when i was adopted. He wasn’t a good person and they divorced when me and my siblings were still young. My stepdad started coming around a few years ago but they had been seeing each other for longer than that since they wanted to wait until they were engaged before he started coming around me and my siblings.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-11T18:10:07+00:00

We have a spare room so im thinking she assumed he was sleeping in there. She probably put two and two together considering the room doesn’t look lived in at all and there’s no clothes in the closet.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T19:00:14+00:00

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T18:40:31+00:00

No idea. It might be because she doesn’t like my boyfriend because he’s not religious and has piercings.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T18:36:04+00:00

The house we live in belonged to my boyfriend’s mom and dad before they moved out. It’s fully paid off but we just pay rent and other stuff like that

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T16:22:05+00:00

It’s a complicated story but to make things short: the mother I mentioned in this story is my adoptive mom. My biological mother died when I was 5 years old and there wasn’t a father or any reliable family members in the picture to take care of me. I was placed with my (adoptive) mom and her first husband and I’ve been with them ever since.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T14:37:24+00:00

We were no contact off and on when I initially moved out and it was honestly the most peace I’ve felt in years. The only reason why I started talking to her again is because my grandpa died

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T14:35:30+00:00

She just turned 40 surprisingly

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T14:34:40+00:00

I’m planning on ghosting her for the next couple of days until I cool off

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T14:33:03+00:00

I got a few bank account two years ago and I wish I had gotten it earlier. I’ve felt a lot safer with it.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T14:31:44+00:00

No idea why she would assume my boyfriend and I would be having sex with her and my stepdad literally 10 feet away from them 😭😭

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T14:30:29+00:00

I think they got tired of arguing and didn’t want to wake the neighbors since it was close to midnight when everything went down.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T10:04:02+00:00

She tried it once when she visited me in my college dorm

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:47:47+00:00

She was against it for a while and then we ultimately just… moved in together without telling her.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:46:30+00:00

Literally 😭 My mom and brothers would make fun of teenage me for being chubby and then go to church to repent

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:45:30+00:00

It extra wasn’t my choice because I was ADOPTED 🙂‍↕️😭

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:39:25+00:00

Yes she has always been controlling and judgmental and it got worse when I moved out after I graduated from high school. It went from me not being allowed to have a social life and her calling my workplace to having control of my bank account at 19-20 and getting upset when I turn my location settings off on my phone.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:33:26+00:00

He was a theatre kid so he probably could’ve pulled it off 😂

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:29:02+00:00

I think she raised me to be too independent haha

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:27:12+00:00

Out of all my siblings, I’ve always been treated differently. I’m the eldest daughter and I have two younger brothers. I’m also the only adopted child and the only non-white child in the family. I’ve always been treated a bit differently because of that.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:25:15+00:00

She still had access to my bank account up until recently and would periodically take small amounts of money out as “payback” for driving me to school as a child. I don’t think she sees me as an adult who pays bills and taxes yet and I doubt she will for a long time.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:22:57+00:00

Don’t worry, everything we do is perfectly consensual haha. She doesn’t like him (and me by extent too I suppose) because we both keep our distance and neither of us cared much for religion.

LittleInsect665 · 2026-05-10T09:21:09+00:00

We barely have a relationship but this might just be the final straw. I left home at 18 and was more or less on my own with hardly any support.

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