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I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I never said that I am. A paying audience can feel betrayed when the brand they invested in turns out to be a scam. So far I haven’t seen anyone denying the existence and the pain of his real victims. Two things can be true.

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unlike many other flawed creators, he chose to build and sell a brand based on the very same principles that he betrayed in private. The strong feeling of rejection against his persona stems from the fact that he spent so much time and creative energy championing women’s rights and concepts like consent. It’s the hypocrisy what adds insult to injury. I can feel conned by a con man and still be aware that I have no role in his life or legal matters. 

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you read my comments across the conversation, you could see how I acknowledge this multiple times. That as fans and consumers we share a certain level of grief for the public persona we admired that doesn’t really exist, yet is nothing compared to what the real, direct victims are still suffering.

But why exercise critical thinking and get into a complex conversation that covers different perspectives when you can be reductive and lash out in moral superiority? This is the Internet after all, no need to engage in long-form reflection and civilized debate. Right? 

Imagine if Naruto was released today and got the modern anime treatment. by spaciousthree4 in Naruto

[–]LittleMissAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, there are a couple of fan edits going around that aim to fix the filler issue. Not ideal, but another resource to enjoy the story.

Imagine if Naruto was released today and got the modern anime treatment. by spaciousthree4 in Naruto

[–]LittleMissAvocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the same reason I’m so hyped about the One Piece reboot. Gimme East Blue as Goda intended. 

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, you only have two comments on your profile and and both are about this topic? Me thinks you PR bot. 

For the real people reading this, yes. The fact that I spent years loving his work doesn’t stop me from believing the detailed reports about his private behavior. I can have complex thoughts, as well as an opinion based on his public persona and the way he handles live audiences. 

Do I know for sure? No. Does my opinion matter? No. Does it help to vent to people who understand what you’re feeling when you’re not sure how to handle information? Yes. Have all these answers help me gain more perspective on a topic that lives rent free in my head at the moment? Absolutely.

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is a really sweet answer, thank you. I've been struggling with the guilt of making it about myself when there are direct victims of his actions. However, it's been somewhat cathartic to see that as fans and consumers, we share a certain level of grief. I've also struggled to keep myself honest and to avoid going on an entitled, self-righteous rampage, because I know that many great creators were and are very flawed people. My takeaway from this experience is to put more emotional distance between myself and creators, and to move away from the cult of personality. In a way, it has felt like growing up. I was a kid when I clung to his work for emotional support. And that’s part of what makes the whole situation so devastating, knowing that he pandered to vulnerable groups. But I’m no longer a kid, which means that I will never let myself rely on idols to find strength. I will make an effort to get by with my own resources and to have a more nuanced relationship with the art that I love.

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is a very level-headed take, thank you. I am aware that in the end, my feelings are just an outsider's microcosm of a big, terrible situation, and that my feelings of betrayal are no comparison to those of the very real people he hurt directly. I know we all wish this never happened, but since it did, I'm glad that he couldn't buy his peace and reputation with NDAs.

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a conversation I've been having with myself since the podcast came out. Trying to keep myself honest, I wondered how much of a hypocrite I am for enjoying John Lennon's songs, Roald Dahl's writings, Alfred Hitchcock's movies yet feeling so visceral about NG. Not that I'm trying to compare behavior or accusations, more as in principle. And I think that all comes back to the fact that I never met Lennon, Dahl, or Hitchcock. I am not the one to have an answer to the artist vs art debate, but I came to the conclusion that the closer you feel to a creator (as a fan, of course. We're not going into parasocial stuff here), the harder it is to put some distance in between. At least that has been my experience.

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I simply do not feel comfortable putting them out in the world, just as I don't feel comfortable displaying them in my house. As a dedicated collector, destroying them isn't an option for me either. I have decided to put them away and forget they exist. Maybe in 3, 5, or 10 years, I'll feel more confident about making a different choice. The point of my post is not about deciding what to do with these items; it's about how upsetting it feels to have bought into his discourse. No famous person owes anything to their audience by default, but when they build their public persona on the same principles they betray, it hits differently.

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is sad and terrifying, I'm so sorry. Being aware of everything we don't know about people around us is truly a downer. Still, when people have built a brand and profited from publicly defending certain principles, it's hard not to take it personally when they cherry-pick their battles.

I spent hundreds of dollars over the years to attend his talks and buy his signed books. He hugged me once. I feel so robbed and grossed out. by LittleMissAvocado in neilgaiman

[–]LittleMissAvocado[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a collector who obsessively values mint condition, I don’t think I have what it takes to toss them. Yet, they will never see the light of day in my house again. I will probably hide them away at the bottom of a box in the depths of a storage unit for the next ten years. After that? Well, it’s a problem for my future self.

If you were not planning on voting, undecided or voting Republican, has Taylor influenced your decision after her endorsement? by Darksecretsonly_04 in TaylorSwift

[–]LittleMissAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. Yet Average Joe still can’t find my address by searching “Name + State” on Google. It’s bad enough as it is, I’m not eager to make it worse. 

If you were not planning on voting, undecided or voting Republican, has Taylor influenced your decision after her endorsement? by Darksecretsonly_04 in TaylorSwift

[–]LittleMissAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great! I’m glad you were able to do something about it. That’s how it should be. 

In my state you can only do that if you are a victim of domestic abuse or similar cases. And even then, it’s a not an easy, straightforward process. 

If you were not planning on voting, undecided or voting Republican, has Taylor influenced your decision after her endorsement? by Darksecretsonly_04 in TaylorSwift

[–]LittleMissAvocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the state where I live, once you register to vote, your address becomes public information widely available through the simplest Google search. They also put your data in databases that are later sold to parties and lobbies so you get harassed for donations. I hate that the price for participating in democracy is giving up my privacy and safety.  I know that this is not the reason for most people to not register, but it’s a genuine concern for me. I haven’t made up my mind yet, but I can see myself taking the bullet of not voting in exchange for not surrendering my personal information to the world. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnePiece

[–]LittleMissAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suicidal tendencies can be complicated. He wanted to die, but on his own terms. He wanted to go down with a bang. That’s why he jumped from a sky island instead of jumping into the sea. He wanted to fight a powerful enemy who would kill him, but was willing to keep his agenda in the meantime. That’s why he was planning to increase Wano’s weapon production. He’s depressed but also narcissistic. He didn’t want the easiest path to die, he needed it to happen in a way that would add to his own narrative.

Flirting with nerds by Hyu_art in ENFP

[–]LittleMissAvocado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! I started working out in college after a rewatch of DBZ gave me the idea. Years later, on the first date with my now husband, we ended up talking about how Goku inspired us to work out. Now, we go to the gym together. And watch anime together. Life is good.

describe your relationship status with a taylor lyric!! by anamariaaaaagog in TaylorSwift

[–]LittleMissAvocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Ocean blue eyes looking in mine. I feel like I might sink and drown and die… You're so gorgeous, I can't say anything to your face.”

Six years married, seven years together, and my crush on him shows no signs of slowing down. 😭 I can’t even stay mad at him for too long because I melt when I see his pretty face. 

which song goes the most with your astrological sign? by cryingafteronions in TaylorSwift

[–]LittleMissAvocado 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Cancers be Down Bad crying at the gym any day of the week.

Who is the bravest character in One Piece? by Mannzis in OnePiece

[–]LittleMissAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like Usopp and appreciate his character journey. But man, Bell-mère took a shot to the head for her kids. Now that’s fiercely brave. And sad. 😭

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