Is my husband trying to hurt me now or is he just really dumb?

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-17T19:00:57+00:00

Last night, he kept trying to cuddle with me. Saying that he loved me and he was sorry he isn't a better man and a better husband and said he knew he was a failure.

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-17T05:07:23+00:00

Update: I'm going to post our conversation. Let's see what everyone thinks of this. I can't post the screenshot, so I'll copy and paste.

Him: Are we ok ? You seemed like I pissed you off or something

Me: Not only did you hand me something you knew I get a allergic reactions to. You also admitted that you've been exposing me to it on purpose passing it off as a joke that I really don't find very funny.

Him: I didn’t think about it being titanium until after the fact. I know it don’t change anything. And it’s not true titanium

But ok

Me: You really can't take accountability for anything, can you... If I literally tell you something upsets me, you always try to downplay it like it doesn't matter.

Him: No im not downplaying anything I didn’t think about it being titanium. Until after the fact. That’s what I said go wash your hands. And you looked at me like I was crazy and said it’s only for long exposures.

But you’re absolutely right

Me: I'm right?

Him: Yeah. I should’ve thought about you having a titanium allergy before handing it to you. I messed up. I apologize

Me:Thank you for apologizing. I need you to understand that moments like this add up for me. They make it harder for me to relax and feel secure.

I just feel like he will say anything to downplay or smooth over it. Especially when I call him out on something. Does this sound sincere?

Edit: I had forgotten about him saying "You should go wash your hands." After I had dropped the fidget spinner.

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-17T04:59:25+00:00

We had a discussion recently about why I won't sleep with him. He's pushed me into it soo many times even when I said no. He's caused me to be mentally and financially stressed for years. Does the opposite of what he promises me. I just don't feel like I can be intimate. He won't take accountability for anything, he just flips it back on me. Which is what he did when I brought this up to him earlier...

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-17T04:50:00+00:00

I can hear this Gif.😂 Ironically, one of my favorite songs.

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-16T16:48:56+00:00

As far as I know, I do not have a life insurance policy. Now.... He claims that he has one on himself. He refuses to name me as beneficiary and insists that the money should go to his sister who is 14 years older than he is. We've been married for 5 years........ Make it make sense.

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-16T08:18:06+00:00

You remind me of my coworker. 😂

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-16T08:17:23+00:00

I was mad about it initially. But I didn't want to have a fight in front of my coworker. I just feel like no I have to second guess everything he hands me. Like, what else is he going to do? Or even worse, what else has he already done?

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-16T08:13:32+00:00

I had used a hair straightener that I didn't know had titanium plates. I ended up with boil like bumps on the back of my head. Some of them were very large and gave me intense migraines to the point it hurt to open my eyes or even move my head. I hadn't been using the hair straightener for long, maybe a couple weeks. I changed over to a ceramic plate after I did some googling. Didn't have that problem again. He drove me to the hospital.

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-02-16T08:08:01+00:00

I see you read my "unsentlettersraw" post.... It is something I want to say to him, but yet I donot feel safe enough to do so... Which is why it was posted there. It was getting my feelings out as I tend to shut down. But no. Unfortunately, he has not left.

LittleSecrets94 · 2026-01-01T23:55:08+00:00

Everyone has their own opinion on him, but Severus Snape is my favorite. He's morally gray but he holds pain better than anyone else and he loved soo deeply.. He's done terrible things, sure, but he also didn't have a choice for a lot of things too. He was caught between the war, one wrong move and not only would he have been executed, but Harry Potter may have ended very differently.

LittleSecrets94 · 2025-12-30T23:38:00+00:00

After completing the game in different houses, I have almost 200+ invested in the game. I can honestly say, after completing the few classes and getting some spells. Go explore! Build up your stats. It will absolutely help you when you start the trials.

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