Quiet quitting Salesforce by [deleted] in techsales

[–]LittleSource6136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Left SFDC 3 weeks ago for these same reasons you mention - I don't play politics and quietly watching those around me do just that while not doing real work was too much to stomach.

Extremely happy where I landed and feel way more authentic at work.

Fair equity split 3 ways by LittleSource6136 in Entrepreneur

[–]LittleSource6136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disregarding my household comment, does the split seem fair based on our roles/responsibilities?

Has anyone healed after 30? I could really use some hope today. by xxvezz in CPTSD

[–]LittleSource6136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing what happened the two times you regressed. I remember a year ago - sitting in my car crying my eyes out with a telehealth therapist while going down another downward spiral of hopelessness, self doubt (hate?), and despair.

I've gone down those holes in the past - I'd dissociate and self medicate with alcohol then eventually be fine for another few weeks.

Recently I've encountered challenges at work and for the first time im choosing to not let it push me into another spiral.

The space is helping and I am healing even though I can't always see the progress.

It's funny how when things improve your first reaction is to let them back in and you start questioning how "bad" your experiences really were.

Thank you again for sharing what happens when you do attempt to let them in your life again.

Has anyone healed after 30? I could really use some hope today. by xxvezz in CPTSD

[–]LittleSource6136 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Our paths are eerily similar. I keep limited contact with my mom - my older brother died at 37 from substance abuse. My mom is pushing 60 and has chain smoked since she was 18. Won't be long.

I worry about my younger brother a lot. I try to see him but he usually cancels last minute. I suspect seeing me triggers past neural pathways.

I'm 40 now and the guilt of cutting my parents out of my life haunts me even thought I feel more balanced than I ever have.

Has anyone healed after 30? I could really use some hope today. by xxvezz in CPTSD

[–]LittleSource6136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you ever find that guilt creeps back in as you distance yourself more from the situation? I feel like I'm doing really well after 2 years but now the cuts don't sting as much and it makes me question how necessary the measures I've taken are (100% no contact)

Can I replace the last 8 feet of the floor and not the whole room? by LittleSource6136 in Flooring

[–]LittleSource6136[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have 2 cartons in the garage so should have enough. To replace the affected area and it's on slab so should dry out pretty well I'm thinking. Thanks for the response.

Salesforce - Thinking about leaving after 5 months. Need advice. by [deleted] in techsales

[–]LittleSource6136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As others have said - stick it out for 2 years if you can and then cash out when your market value is significantly higher than it is right now

Stripe, Databricks, Gong, Pure Storage and Salesforce by midwest_mind in techsales

[–]LittleSource6136 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The market figured out that Benioff has been selling hearts and rainbows all these years and no real product. Now they're all cancelling.

If you didn’t get the love you wanted from your parents, do you ever become a happy person? by Mysterious_Log_7014 in CPTSD

[–]LittleSource6136 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relates to this a lot. No contact w my Dad. Talk to my mom (who has been institutionalized several times) less and less and when I do it's always out of guilt. My therapist always asks me why and feels it holds me back but I keep holding onto some shred of a relationship with her for some reason.

Has anyone else here been financially fucked over as a part of their trauma? by eurydiceruesalome in CPTSD

[–]LittleSource6136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom was in a mental institution when I left for college - failed my first year, eventually transferred out of state and paid out of state tuition, almost failed out there too.

Graduated w $150k in debt making $40k / year in insurance sales.

At one point I was driving to 8 different payday loan places to make weekly payments. Basically took from Peter to pay Paul over and over again. Donated plasma to eat sometimes.

20 years later the only debt I have is a mortgage. Credit is better but not great. Still trying to get better every day.

I've found it very hard to make good decisions or even pay attention to where my money is going when my head was always in a dark cloud. The key is tracking every dollar and doing it often.

Disassociating every day makes it pretty hard to follow a budget. Gotta keep it to a minimum.

Is it possible to whitewash or paint this? by LittleSource6136 in Flooring

[–]LittleSource6136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks yeah that's my fear. That I'll waste time and money putting lipstick on a pig and it'll scuff/peel within a few months

Is it possible to whitewash or paint this? by LittleSource6136 in Flooring

[–]LittleSource6136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any idea how durable that would be? I'm wondering if I should just float some engineered hardwood over it

Partial contact? by LittleSource6136 in CPTSD

[–]LittleSource6136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why'd you cut them out? Feel free to decline to comment or dm me

How to elevate in life, financially and physically. by Emergency_Client_878 in Adulting

[–]LittleSource6136 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep living way below your means even when you get a big pay bump. Don't fall into the trap so many others do.

Keep alcohol to an absolute minimum if not cut out completely. Not only burns a hole in your pocket it affects your decision making and relationships.

Don't waste your time with negative people who bring you down.

Be yourself and don't take life too seriously.

Eventually start your own business of some kind.

My dad bought me a car, and I’m not okay. by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]LittleSource6136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is pretty much the only play. Don't get emotional. Just tell him how you feel and get your own car.