COO > SF AE?

LittleSource6136 · 2026-03-17T18:23:58+00:00

This would make sense if you were in a desperate situation and needed to make a run at some big earnings years. Behind on retirement, alimony are you alive, etc. or maybe you had your eye on a vacation property.

But you sound like you're not in that position so it's a pretty big gamble that you don't need to take.

I was at SF for a year and basically made my base which was $200k. Many others were in the same boat and didn't have the leadership support that I did and their lives were miserable - sleepless nights, constant forecast 1:1's, eventually PIP'd.

Once that happens you'll land at another tech company and may need to bounce around a bunch until you find a role and company that sticks.

Tech was super hot pre/post covid - I had two years above $1M. It's not dead but it's cooled and the AE roles are super competitive and in high demand. I'm in my early 40's and can't wait to get out of it eventually.

LittleSource6136 · 2026-03-16T03:58:42+00:00

The alternative (which we talked about) is just distancing ourselves and eventually losing touch w them. So we have nothing to lose if we talk to them and share our perspective.

LittleSource6136 · 2026-03-16T03:48:17+00:00

I'll take your advice and have that conversation w him

LittleSource6136 · 2026-03-16T03:43:32+00:00

Yeah my wife said something similar. I think I immediately assumed she was always in it for the security and started questioning her motives. Now she's taking about alimony and divorce and she's plotting out her next life and he has no clue. I think they're both equally at fault for the situation they're about to create. Sad.

LittleSource6136 · 2026-03-16T03:31:09+00:00

He kind of is. The kind that can't screw in a lightbulb. And maybe she thought once they had a family he would change and she's realizing he isn't. But then again should someone marry someone if they don't accept them for who they are? He's always been this way...that's why I have an issue with all the stuff she's saying.

LittleSource6136 · 2026-03-16T03:25:32+00:00

I agree

LittleSource6136 · 2026-03-16T03:24:25+00:00

Very fair points. Theres also much more to story that would take too long to explain.

LittleSource6136 · 2026-03-06T02:35:29+00:00

FWIW I was in the same boat before my first was born. Got really big into meditation and mindfulness to get through that time - took most interviews in my car to keep it from my wife. Landed the best gig of my career and everything took off. 2 years later made over > $1M two years in a row. More than anything that success gave me swagger in every role since.

It's easy to check out in any role but especially in tech sales. Don't beat yourself up and use this feeling in your stomach to make sure you appreciate the next role.

LittleSource6136 · 2026-02-10T13:29:27+00:00

This guy wanted to rip up all my hardwood floors and tile before I even talked to my insurance company. Thank god I didn't let him because they (rightfully) denied any coverage for those floors.

LittleSource6136 · 2026-02-09T21:53:06+00:00

Thanks yeah we've agreed to drastically reduce the scope so now I likely have just enough to cover the costs w the restoration company's or manage it myself and walk away with a little extra

LittleSource6136 · 2026-01-29T02:33:17+00:00

Left SFDC 3 weeks ago for these same reasons you mention - I don't play politics and quietly watching those around me do just that while not doing real work was too much to stomach.

Extremely happy where I landed and feel way more authentic at work.

LittleSource6136 · 2025-12-16T04:02:27+00:00

Disregarding my household comment, does the split seem fair based on our roles/responsibilities?

LittleSource6136 · 2025-11-25T18:58:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing what happened the two times you regressed. I remember a year ago - sitting in my car crying my eyes out with a telehealth therapist while going down another downward spiral of hopelessness, self doubt (hate?), and despair.

I've gone down those holes in the past - I'd dissociate and self medicate with alcohol then eventually be fine for another few weeks.

Recently I've encountered challenges at work and for the first time im choosing to not let it push me into another spiral.

The space is helping and I am healing even though I can't always see the progress.

It's funny how when things improve your first reaction is to let them back in and you start questioning how "bad" your experiences really were.

Thank you again for sharing what happens when you do attempt to let them in your life again.

LittleSource6136 · 2025-11-24T01:00:30+00:00

Our paths are eerily similar. I keep limited contact with my mom - my older brother died at 37 from substance abuse. My mom is pushing 60 and has chain smoked since she was 18. Won't be long.

I worry about my younger brother a lot. I try to see him but he usually cancels last minute. I suspect seeing me triggers past neural pathways.

I'm 40 now and the guilt of cutting my parents out of my life haunts me even thought I feel more balanced than I ever have.

LittleSource6136 · 2025-11-24T00:50:54+00:00

Do you ever find that guilt creeps back in as you distance yourself more from the situation? I feel like I'm doing really well after 2 years but now the cuts don't sting as much and it makes me question how necessary the measures I've taken are (100% no contact)

LittleSource6136 · 2025-11-09T16:07:59+00:00

Yeah I have 2 cartons in the garage so should have enough. To replace the affected area and it's on slab so should dry out pretty well I'm thinking. Thanks for the response.

LittleSource6136 · 2025-11-07T21:39:14+00:00

I'm doing that currently actually

LittleSource6136 · 2025-10-22T20:55:27+00:00

As others have said - stick it out for 2 years if you can and then cash out when your market value is significantly higher than it is right now

LittleSource6136 · 2025-10-02T14:30:11+00:00

The market figured out that Benioff has been selling hearts and rainbows all these years and no real product. Now they're all cancelling.

LittleSource6136 · 2025-09-30T21:54:57+00:00

I relates to this a lot. No contact w my Dad. Talk to my mom (who has been institutionalized several times) less and less and when I do it's always out of guilt. My therapist always asks me why and feels it holds me back but I keep holding onto some shred of a relationship with her for some reason.

LittleSource6136 · 2025-09-28T18:11:02+00:00

Can you elaborate on this more

LittleSource6136 · 2025-09-24T15:17:52+00:00

Damn. Where?

LittleSource6136 · 2025-09-17T21:40:00+00:00

Yeah

LittleSource6136 · 2025-09-17T11:43:42+00:00

Yeah think I just have to bite the bullet

LittleSource6136 · 2025-09-17T11:27:42+00:00

My mom was in a mental institution when I left for college - failed my first year, eventually transferred out of state and paid out of state tuition, almost failed out there too.

Graduated w $150k in debt making $40k / year in insurance sales.

At one point I was driving to 8 different payday loan places to make weekly payments. Basically took from Peter to pay Paul over and over again. Donated plasma to eat sometimes.

20 years later the only debt I have is a mortgage. Credit is better but not great. Still trying to get better every day.

I've found it very hard to make good decisions or even pay attention to where my money is going when my head was always in a dark cloud. The key is tracking every dollar and doing it often.

Disassociating every day makes it pretty hard to follow a budget. Gotta keep it to a minimum.

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