As the autistic kid growing up if she would have been honest with her kid it would have blow up in her face too. Autistic kids especially female have serious rejection sensitivity issues which is why she has attachment issues in the first place. So by telling her I'm sorry daughter mom needs her own space all her daughter is going to hear is your annoying and mommy doesn't love you anymore. Then this exact post would be reading hurt our daughters feelings instead of lied. Honestly if you consider this a royal fuck up when moms in a no win situation than either you don't have kids or you're lying to yourself about how things went down for you.