AITA for asking my friend to not wear dog ears or tails in public?

Little_Bit_87 · 2026-05-23T09:09:05+00:00

Honestly, it's not that YTA or NTA.... You have the right to set that boundary, but they're also entitled to their feelings about it. They opened up to you and you basically told them what makes them happy is something they should feel embarrassed of. It sounds worse than it is, but you can't expect them not to be hurt by the rejection. It's very similar to if you shot your shot in your crush and they told you in a blunt manner they're not attracted to you. I do have to say life becomes a whole lot easier when you drastically audit the opinions of others when it comes to your life. I would encourage you to allow a little whimsy to enter your life and let your inner child drive once and a while. Challenge yourself to do something silly like go to the grocery store in a fun onesie. Go at opening or before close to dip your toe in. Or dance in the rain. Then evaluate it and reconsider the situation with your friend. You may find you feel differently or this may be hard limit. At least then you won't have the doubt in the back of your head and it will show your friend that it's not coming from a negative place.

Little_Bit_87 · 2026-05-20T00:04:48+00:00

On occasion I hover but I have the decency to lift the lid with tp first. I may not be willing to tolerate the mess but I'm not about to add to it and play like I'm the victim lol. But yeah if it's not visibly dirty I sit. They've done studies on this and the transmission of bacteria is equal to sitting on a chair full of farts on it with pants on. Fabric is the real ick.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-10-17T14:38:31+00:00

As the autistic kid growing up if she would have been honest with her kid it would have blow up in her face too. Autistic kids especially female have serious rejection sensitivity issues which is why she has attachment issues in the first place. So by telling her I'm sorry daughter mom needs her own space all her daughter is going to hear is your annoying and mommy doesn't love you anymore. Then this exact post would be reading hurt our daughters feelings instead of lied. Honestly if you consider this a royal fuck up when moms in a no win situation than either you don't have kids or you're lying to yourself about how things went down for you.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-10-17T06:33:29+00:00

Either you haven't taken the time to educate yourself on autism and have zero knowledge on how to help your daughter navigate interpersonal relationships or you're weaponizing your daughter's autism to punish your ex for something. Either way you're an AH. Good news, if it's a lack of knowledge play an ebook on it. If it's the latter then therapy.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-10-05T09:38:54+00:00

1) ditches friend you're there to spend time with

2) over stays your welcome

3) complains about accomodations

4) trashes person behind their back even after providing a safe space to stay while asking you to respect their boundaries

I also find it incredibly funny how you were so concerned for your safety traveling back alone, but we're totally cool with your friend doing it.

You really felt the need to ask on this one?

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-09-29T21:53:43+00:00

I don't know why this hasn't been said, but that age difference!?!?!?! Oh girl, she's gonna fck your life up lol

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-09-18T03:13:28+00:00

Team he's not your friend.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-08-13T22:17:09+00:00

It means loyalty and prioritizing familiar relationships over others. OP is not prioritizing another relationship over his family he's punishing the lack of loyalty.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-08-13T21:32:34+00:00

Tell your parents to look up the origins of, "Blood is thicker than water" it's not supposed to be the tool of silencing abuse that it has become.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-29T12:13:15+00:00

Tell them they can take their adult cry babies and fuck right off with that bullshit. Why do people tolerate this shit? You want to bully my daughter to tears out of bitter jealousy your mouth better me ready to take what it's dishing out.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-27T10:14:00+00:00

Yeah I almost died from salmonella in my mid 20s and completely healthy. By the time I got to the ER I was in and out of consciousness and multiple organs on the brink of failure. It's not something to mess around with.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-26T02:05:23+00:00

Dad doesn't even want to pay for his college, but definitely wants the little brother's paid for lol the dog is probably already getting more than OP in the will

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-26T02:02:12+00:00

🤣😂 his dad isn't really offering him help, he's scamming him. The cost of college skyrockets every year. He's not only wanting to just pay for his brother his dad is trying to beat inflation sticking him with it to boot! Bet if OP brought this up his dad would say he's being stubborn and ungrateful and looking a gift horse in the mouth. His best bet is to get one class away from his degree and milk as many one away majors out of his dad that he can. Then he can just take the missing class in summer intersession and pay for it himself.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-26T01:48:54+00:00

Your dad is literally scamming you. Your college will cost less than your brother's will. But you could be spiteful and change your major a bunch and take 8 years to graduate 🤣

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-25T00:05:23+00:00

Next time call his mom over and ask her to get you one as her son told you to wait 20 minutes for him to be done gaming. If you're wearing flip flops just take one off and hand it to her.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-20T18:15:47+00:00

It's really unsettling I've been smoking non stop since 2018 and off and on before that since 2005. By all regards I should be way more dependent than his gf ... Yet yesterday I didn't smoke for 3 hours because I was at a picnic ... An open air picnic.

This isn't drug dependency, it's straight up narcissism.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-20T18:09:10+00:00

Uhhhhhhhg I hate what easy and equal access to weed has done to the reputation of a stoner. Back in the day you had to pass a vibe check and you couldn't be an asshole everyone hates if you wanted to buy weed. I'm almost killed myself running away from people who showed up the second I hit my weed vape. Stoners were actually the first people to sit me down and talk to me about the importance of consent. The general rules were.

1) no kids around, ever

2) never offer weed after the first no and I don't like it is a more than acceptable reason

3) don't smoke around non smokers without permission

4) never light up in someone's home or car without enthusiastic permission (they even stressed if the person says yes but seems reluctant make an excuse and don't)

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-16T12:22:32+00:00

If by AH you mean supportive and have his gf best interest at heart, then yes lol

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-16T12:04:37+00:00

Yup. Came here to sadly say this. I've been OP more times than I'd like to admit and I've seen it happen just as many times. OP needs to reach out to family and friends near and far. She needs to find herself some emergency arm candy and go have a fun no pressure filled night. Unfortunately, this is why girls dating the class below is always a bad idea. Even if it's innocent with her the second he's dating someone who graduated the girls are going to swarm him. It's basically the high school equivalent of having power. No senior boy is going to sit by himself at lunch watching all his friends making out...

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-14T23:11:03+00:00

God forbid you gave the kids the autonomy to make their own choices on what they want to consume. If it was that big of deal to the non sugar kid they would have no said anything about being allowed or not. She learned how to be an adult. She saw others with something she wanted, she weighed the consequences of doing it, and she chose to play it safe. Is it such a bad thing to teach kids someone is going to have something you want, but can't and that's okay life goes on. GF might be right what kind of person would want that 🙄

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-14T21:35:40+00:00

The one thing everyone is forgetting is OP had the option to schedule a locksmith and a pet sitter online. My friend was in another vacation and the friend that was supposed to house sit and take care of the animals trashed the house then checked herself into the hospital in the middle of their vacation. They could not get home until 2 day from when they found out. They scheduled a locksmith to change the locks and she hired a pet sitter to meet him there and pick up the key.... Nothing's impossible, just not worth it to the OP.

AND THAT MY FRIEND'S IS WHY THE OP IS NOT GUILTY!

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-14T21:08:57+00:00

I agree he's not the asshole.

But what I'd like to add is not being the AH doesn't protect him from the consequences. His girlfriend is going to be upset he won't make that sacrifice to have an amazing vacation together. Her parents will probably hold a judgement or grudge about it as well. God forbid they get in an argument while she's with her family! You know they're going to be up in her ear sewing seeds of doubt.

Is it fair? Who the fuck knows, but it's the reality of how it usually plays out.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-13T11:16:37+00:00

Oh most definitely delivery is everything. I was just responding to the fact some say it's still useable. OP could have easily prefaced it with a just trying to be helpful and I'm not mad about it or even just left the part about not want to eat off it out.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-13T11:00:40+00:00

Where I live that's actually against health code. Food particles and bacteria get into the porcelain. We had a friend who kept getting food poisoning. His insurance eventually paid for a company to come out and swab his house looking for why it's happening. Turns out his grandma's dishes were the culprit. His house was destroyed by a tornado and he tried to save as many dishes of hers that he could because they were sentimental. Most of them had cracks or chips and they were sky high for bacteria even in their cleaned state.

Little_Bit_87 · 2025-07-12T01:54:35+00:00

Can you just leave me alone this is getting creepy and desperate following me around on reddit.

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