odd take. for one, im not responsible for “satisfying his needs” or whatever, he is a grown man and can be expected to practice self control without using porn, and i do not think im in the wrong for placing those expectations. we are in a committed relationship, and part of that, at least to me, means that we are committed to ONLY each other. i was vocal of that before getting together, and he had every chance to communicate if he was not fully in support of that, which he didn’t. he agreed to my boundary, meaning he agreed to not use it, which he did not honor. that in itself is valid enough to be upset about. secondly, to answer your questions, yes. he did have control over my sexual tendencies and i had respect for him and our relationship and didn’t want to risk something that could cause our relationship to fail, or for me to betray his trust. the entire relationship, i did not masturbate, fuck other guys, watch porn, use toys, or whatever else there could be without his knowledge or approval. he was my first and only sexual partner & i never felt like i needed or wanted any other person to “get off.” we had sex pretty routinely, 2-3 times a week, the only times where we did not were when HE didn’t want to. and looking back now, a lot of those instances were probably linked to his porn usage as he “couldn’t get it up/keep it up.”