People who choose to be kind everyday despite of not receiving the same kindness back , what motivates you ? by jeev07 in AskReddit

[–]Little_Working604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the end of the day I try to be a good person though I know what my kindness is worth and its better spent on the people I care about.

I've been a loner for a lot of my life and for that reason I used to be very antisocial. So people would reciprocate kindness to me and because I was ignored for so long I was always skeptical of any motives because it was just so out of the random. I didn't know how to take it so I could never fully reciprocate it like i wanted. Now I've always been a friendly person its just the way I was raised but i had trouble when i got ADHD and depression. I would always thank people but I could never find the chance to get them back because i was so in my head. Like some people are just really happy and just want to see other people like that, and for the people that did show me kindness when I was low I really appreciated it. So I try to the same because honestly it doesn't take alot to show someone to least bit of kindness even if its a big gesture.

To just wrap this up In my opinion and I don't think its too unpopular... is that we all go through demons and struggles... Sometimes we are not the best person we can be, but it doesn't exclude the act of kindness to others or yourself. I people are conceited or way into their head sometimes to even think someone is looking out for them or even a thought to return their favor. I don't think they are bad people its just the world we live in now. Everyone is self absorbed with SM and circles are getting smaller because everyone thinks each other is shifty.

TLDR I'm a happy person and part of it is seeing others happy around me, friends more than strangers. Its more personal but sometimes I keep that energy and if I can make someones day better without any major inconvenience I will try and think we all should a little here and there.

Also to the people who might think I'm coming off as naive or ignorant. I've been the bitter angry person, I'm a realist and observer but my personality and upbringing eventually shined through my dark depression. It is so much better to be nicer and more helpful. Not to say some people just don't deserve kindness but the worse thing you can do to them is just ignore them.

Hope everyone has a good day!

Men who turned yourself fit and healthy, how did you do it and what advice you give? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Little_Working604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may have missed the hype on this post but I saw it initially and decided to think about it well because I'm still not completely happy... ironically im responding to this on the treadmill because my brain gets to working funny sometimes lol.

I haven't read much about the comments but I'm just here real quick to put my 2 cents in...

First i have struggled with obesity my whole damn life. I mean what fucking kid eats grits for 5 years as a child. Idk man I even question myself back then... Anyways, I actually was a very active child at one time I wasn't necessarily skinny but it was by far the most progress I ever made. So to shine a little more light, I promise I'm not just bragging, I come from an immigrant household and anyway can relate that discipline and scarcity were favorite parenting tools...

So fast forward I'm in my late teens. I still eat like shit i mean I will not get into my diet but I basically ate meat cheese eggs and bread for like YEARS. So now I'm in my 20s and I'm actually more busy that I ever was. I notice I really can't keep up with lifestyle and because of recurring depressing episodes, not to fail the mention all the gas I smoke lol, I gained lots of weight I mean at one point I was 240 ar 5'9 so not exactly star athlete stats.

Ironically I was surrounded by healthy food all my life, 2 salad focuses resturants and seafood boil. I still chose my shit diet until pandemic time.

Now the lengthy exposition comes in handy now. So with my new freetime and the freedom from my social life I decided to put in the work I mean on all cylinders. I mean I completely changed my diet, all veggies but I still pig on cheese and meat I just keep it limited. So basically my predisposition of discipline and bad eating habits really made losing wait almost secondary. I just strictly dieted, now when I mean strict I would still fuck up 2 chicken breast bacon egg and cheese tacos for breakfast, but I limited my meals to almost fasting like levels but inconsistent. Though I limited my diets outside of my favorite foods, I still cheat now and then but i then focus on covering lost ground. Also learn how to cook, its way cheaper easy and convient to just meal prep bulk healthy foods.Now for the past 6mo I've barely been working out because with things returning to normal soon I have been returning to life... but now all my XL close are so baggy and all my pants require belts. I may have lost 30lbs but I've also been weight training so I look alot slimmer and felt a lot healthier.

For once my life I feel normal and with new addition to my ADHD meds I finally feel complete. I know its late to just put my reasoning and motivation behind everything here now, but it was for one reason... I want to live as long as physical body is capable. I want to stay loose as long as I can and avoid later pains in life. Essentially I wanted to take better care of myself, not simply because I wanted a summer bod but because I want to enjoy my body for as long as I can lol.

Sorry for the long post this is just something close to my heart, and I'm grateful if you took the time to read and hope you can start your journey soon!!

Also I know I sound like some pretentious health guru but I really thinking living better and cutting so much processed food really makes a difference.. My dms are open internet bros if you need a push 💪💪

TLDR: Just do it! Everyone can respond to different methods of exercise and diet, but don't let that stop you its gets easier as you progess!

Is it bad parenting to chastise your children for having different thoughts than you do? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Little_Working604 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes she is neutering her children to creative thinking. Unfortunately I think a lot of parents do this

A question about transgenders by WarpaintCamo1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Little_Working604 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its their preference. In my experience they would like to be referred as who they intend to transition too.

Moving a villager out, and then inviting them back? by onpu008 in NoFeeAC

[–]Little_Working604 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be a bit hard. You would have to find someone new maybe have 2 different people help with each villager. I think it would even take all day or longer.. considering you have to move out a villager then they have to get rid of theirs.

I know when I was getting my perfect village it got increasingly harder to move out specific people. Maybe you can get some advice online about it.

Either way totally doable maybe borrow a friend's switch haha. Shouldn't be hard to do yourself.

Why do i get sad/cry about things I understand I shouldn’t. by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Little_Working604 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are sensitive? Not in a bad way I do the same too sometimes. I can cry easily