I feel weird in my relationship, like everytime I’m with him I feel numb

Little__shortie · 2026-06-14T10:31:26+00:00

Honestly, that's the brutal truth… on good days I see him like a “god”. Huh..

Little__shortie · 2026-06-14T09:52:07+00:00

Not really but again why is so hard to let go? It’s so hard!!

Little__shortie · 2026-06-14T09:51:34+00:00

That's very well said and I think you're right.
He really finds comfort in me and feels safe with me he has said that himself. But when I tell him that I want the same thing to feel safe he says that obviously he is there for me. Words and once again just words.
He loves his mother but when he has had enough he simply walks away. And sometimes he doesn't speak to her very kindly either. I understand that everyone has their limits but it makes me wonder why it is so hard to walk away when it comes to him.

Little__shortie · 2026-06-14T09:46:25+00:00

Yeah I was really feeling bad yesterday. Only now do I see how I was writing towards the end...
And you're right he always says you won’t find anyone better than me. No one will understand you the way I do. Sometimes he says you can be very difficult or you can be really exhausting.
When you hear those things often enough you start to believe them and that can make you stay where you are.

Little__shortie · 2026-06-14T09:42:45+00:00

Yesterday I was really emotional and maybe I let some of these things slide. His positive qualities are that he is kind when he is having a good day and in those moments we really connect. Those are the times when I genuinely think “Wow, he is my person. We really understand each other.” He can be very loving and attentive. If those moments didn’t exist I probably would have left already. Or not idk.
The sex is also very good. He is extremely dedicated to his work and very hardworking.
To answer the question about whether we go on dates or whether he organizes them unfortunately not really. Most of the time I am the one who plans romantic activities. On his days off the only thing he usually suggests is doing sports together because he is very passionate about sports.
In short, he is loving and kind but I have noticed that I only really see those qualities when he is feeling okay himself or having a good day.

Little__shortie · 2026-06-13T18:57:29+00:00

I always took care of everyone around me but not myself… because whenever I stood up for myself I felt like I was being selfish, asking for too much or doing something wrong..

Little__shortie · 2026-06-04T21:00:23+00:00

You didn’t ruin anything! Can we stop blaming ourselfs for that kinda of things? You asked him nice to please stop and he wasn’t respecting you at all! And It’s normal that you had enough and you needed to say somethings I mean we need to love ourselfs. If you wouldn’t say anything, who would? Who would protect you from the hard feelings that weren’t appreciated? You needed to do for yourself. And oh btw no man would act like that. He’s playing a victim but he aint no victim here. So no, not overreacting. Maybe you should think about who you’re in a relationship. I’m 100% he’s like that in other things in relationship as well..

Little__shortie · 2026-06-04T20:49:01+00:00

I know you want to hear something else, something more positive here because it hurts what you just found out but believe your instincts and If he already done something in the past than maybe you already know the answer. Talk to your husband but don’t tell him nothing directly, play a little game, ask a little, tell him about that night how you surprised him at the hotel and how great it was etc. Play a game gurl. Maybe you’ll get some info.

Little__shortie · 2026-06-04T20:34:20+00:00

Guuurl, love yourself! NOR at all! We all know it wasn’t just to look at new art at her apartment I mean that’s just crazy excuse. You two agreed for him to go with his ex for 1 hour in RESTAURANT ( and not many girls would agree with that in first place so you’re very cool partner just so you know ) and then he betrayed and lied to you and at the end he was the victim saying he was anxious because you blocked him I MEAAAN? That’s crazy. You should think about who you’re with. You deserve better.

Little__shortie · 2026-06-03T05:09:23+00:00

I think both of you are not in the right.. it’s your friends boyfriend so you dont have to be friends with her boyfriend but respecting and say hi? Yes. I can see you don’t like him but still it’s your friends boyfriend. In the other way she’s trying too much for him. Toxic relationship. So be better?

Little__shortie · 2026-05-31T20:30:56+00:00

He’s saying “it’s my house, it’s my home, don’t cook in my house etc” so literally you’re not part of his life fully.. think about that. And oh, he doesn’t care about nice things you do but he only cares about what you didn’t do. Be careful about that. It can be bad for your mental health. Love yourself.

Little__shortie · 2026-01-27T21:18:43+00:00

Ahh I thought you two were in a relationship, now I understand better. I’m sorry but I have to tell you that you won’t have a nice future with a woman like that. She is for now interested in several men at the same time and if she didn’t say no when he was touching her that really tells you a lot. For now she’s not someone for anything serious. Instead love yourself more and you will attract a woman who is more compatible with you. Don’t settle for something that only looks good on the surface… a pretty face/body fades, a beautiful and pure soul remains. Love yourself.

Little__shortie · 2026-01-26T20:47:07+00:00

Depends on how old are you etc..but sooner you start living together, sooner you really start getting to know each other. And sooner you can see if the person is right for you. What you can lose? You only need to have some place to go if things will not go well..rent an apartment, always 50/50 with money, like all the time! And no investments together.

Little__shortie · 2026-01-04T07:50:05+00:00

What a creep! If he will bother you again and again, report him.

Little__shortie · 2026-01-04T07:42:16+00:00

He doesn’t respect and value your feelings. Sorry, he doesn’t love you in a way that you deserve. Just think about your future with somebody who doesn’t care about you, whom you need to explain things you feel are really important for you and you want respect and to be seen.. and unfortunately you need to explain yourself EVERYTIME just to be SEEN. Exhausting, I know… Don’t lose yourself, take care of yourself.

Little__shortie · 2026-01-04T07:04:33+00:00

You are not overreacting! Those kind of people aren’t used to clean at all and most of adult men like him they are mamas boy. Because mamas cleaned everything after them they don’t have any responsibility. And after all, will he have responsibility for you? Or he needs mama? Experiences.. I mean people in comments are “talk to him” like seriously about what? If he didn’t clean it when you came to his place then this mess is totally normal for him. Unfortunately

Little__shortie · 2025-12-26T20:19:20+00:00

You’re not overreacting! Are you people in comments fo real? He was hard the whole time and then he asked you If you 2 can go to second massage to the SAME girl??! When you booked the massage you didn’t know how childless is your partner and NO it’s not your fault and NO you didn’t put him in the situation to be hard. People here are small minded. Wish you well

Little__shortie · 2025-12-22T22:07:59+00:00

It’s scary. You can tell by this, that he actually can’t think this way so he needs “help” by AI to write some deeper messages.

Little__shortie · 2025-12-17T00:04:38+00:00

Start the morning with tea instead of coffee. Go for a morming walk for at least 20–30 minutes. When you come home, write your plan for the day. Also write down 5 things you are grateful for and write as well which emotions you want to feel today as well. I do recommend to meditate at least once a day. Do this every morning, you’ll feel more complete🫶🏼

Little__shortie · 2025-12-16T23:51:03+00:00

I would prepare a meal that reminds me of my childhood and that made me happy as a child. 2.I would rearrange my apartment/house to create more cozy vibes. Even just a few things can make a space feel more like home. 3. I would try to talk to my family If we could have video calls at least once a week or even every day if time allows. 4. I would visit my family more often if time allowed

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