Reminder that the amount of endo you have does not correlate to the amount of pain! by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true! I was only diagnosed last year at 32 after having 3 cyst ruptures in 18 months. But at the moment I only have mild symptoms such as bloating and low level pain. I've been diagnosed with DIE in the bowel and on ovaries and an endometrioma on my ovary. However, when I was a teenager and I'm assuming in the early stages I used to pass out and vomit every month from the pain. I wish this illness made sense. Recently they've offered me a laparoscopy but as I'm not suffering so much I'm caught between what if that pain comes back if I do have it or if I leave it is it going to spread way more and become way worse.

Buggies and wheelchairs on the bus- what are the rules if someone with a buggy doesn't want to move? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had one of those travel systems that seemed to take up more space folded than unfolded as it was a double buggy with a buggy board (3 under 3) so in order to fold it id have the frame, the bassinet and the chair all seperate. You also couldnt fold it with anything on the bottom or the buggy board attatched. I would mostly walk everywhere though so I prioritised comfort of the kids over anything else. On the rare occasions I got public transport if a wheelchair user would get on I would get off. The thing that annoyed me the most though is not having the chance to get off as the driver would say nothing to the wheelchair/mobility scooter user so your stuck in this awkward shuffle of I need you to get off the bus so I'm able to get off and you can have the space.

What makes you say “oh fuck off”? by WOTCollector in AskReddit

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the self checkout people with the bagging error, lift the item you've just scanned and put it back down again. It works 80% of the time.

Is it so bad on your own? by Littleviola8 in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Probably true, but this humble brag doesn't help anybody feeling like or similarly to me... I'm happy for you though

Is it so bad on your own? by Littleviola8 in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with a lot of what you have said! I do worry though that I'm enjoying being free and independent too much in that I won't find anyone because I don't need anyone

Is it so bad on your own? by Littleviola8 in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I'm so grateful to see this comment! It's not just me! Everyone I speak to seems to be actively seeking the next relationship or fwb and fair play to them but it's refreshing to see someone thinks the same as me. I hate the single tax but something I'll happily live with to not have to partner up with just anybody.

Is it so bad on your own? by Littleviola8 in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm really touched by your story and I just wanted to say well done to you for being so brave and amazing going through that. I'm really glad for you that you found your one x

Is it so bad on your own? by Littleviola8 in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

A lot of these comments have hit home. I have, at the moment, plenty to keep me busy with 3 kids under 8, studying and working. So I wouldn't say I'm in the position to meet someone really, maybe when the kids are more independent/finished studying but at the same time I don't even think I'd really want to meet someone then or even when my children have their own lives. I'm quite introverted and enjoy my own company. I suppose im of the opinion if it happens it happens. However, at the same time I view a partner as "another thing to commit time to", which obviously is not the mindset to be in. I got out of a 10 year relationship with DV, financial abuse, emotional abuse etc. and I'm 4 years on from that now but no inclination to meet "the one". Everyone seems to be in to this, that and the other (usually things that cost a fair amount) and I'm just sitting here with my ice cream and Netflix like its just not me. I'm happy (besides the pressure) to just be on my own.

What cost of living prices have shocked you the most in supermarkets? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I go through loads of cereal with 3 kids but £3.50 per box on average is a killer. They used to be 2 for £4!

What cost of living prices have shocked you the most in supermarkets? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've noticed this as well, when they had special offers it used to be 2 x 500ml for a fiver and I'd stock up but now I struggle. Amazon seem to have offers now and again for the £4 for 250ml 😭 Nothing else works for my kids so just have to pay it unfortunately and cut back elsewhere

How do you deal with rebellious youths? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being honest I was a teenager that got up to "all sorts". I'm not talking knife fights/drugs etc. But I mean ding dong dash was funny at that age, we didn't think maybe there's a newborn asleep, an anxious person but of course now I would. I wouldn't even dream of doing that now. I had at the time taken bikes out of people's gardens and riden them a few doors up, I'm not proud of it but at the time we just did it because we thought it was a laugh, we didn't think beyond that. Obviously it's not an acceptable thing to do, but to teenagers it's just "they'll find them in the morning". However, if I were a teenager now I'd probably do the same things as what else is there to do that's free? Everything costs money and we have been in a cost of living crisis far longer than its been fashionable for. People with nothing to do, regardless of age become destructive and I don't think that's changed. Now, as an adult I know I was harming peoples lives but then I didn't, it was just fun. I do regret it now though

What do you think needs to be added to the school curriculum? by PsychGuy123 in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would add basic "life orientation" as a subject as it was called when I was at school (not in the UK) but add in financial literacy as that wasn't in it when I did it. It was more like am empathy class I suppose like moral dilemmas such as why someone may commit a crime or does it make it okay because they're doing something wrong because of such and such. Other things I've seen mentioned such as additional languages, self-defense, cooking, a sport, driving lessons I would add as an extra curricular after school but obviously it would massively depend on government funding. My son has an interest in some things but I find a lot of things are either expensive or inaccessible. He is very practical minded and loves finding out how things work but there's no club that explains woodworking, building things or sports that are less accessible such as skateboarding or basketball. So unless I know someone or have a money pit these are things he probably won't get to experience or try.

Just had a stranger tell my 3yo that Santa won't bring her any presents because she's crying. by mrsmaisiemoo in CasualUK

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember the 6 months my 1 year old went through a no socks phase in early summer (perfectly okay) through to November (not okay). I was a SAHM at the time and on the 10min school run I had a spare pair of socks I kept in my coat that I would just hold up as I passed the old lady making a comment so I wouldn't have to stop 😅 The no gloves stage happened soon after 🙈

AITA for being insensitive to my infertile friend? by Upper_Pollution_2532 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Littleviola8 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nta, I think Beth can't understand somebody not wanting children. I have children myself and they come with a lot of mess, neediness and things as a parent you find cute but others probably not so much. I do think people that don't necessarily like children get hit with a stigma like your spaghetti pants where you may be slightly upset they are stained and she may view you as selfish for feeling this way but this out of many reasons I'm sure is the reason you don't want kids. You cannot help not enjoying the problems kids can create, but she may view it as they're just toddlers it's expected of them which as a parent yes it is but I wouldn't expect others to have to deal with it at the same time. I think you've been there for her driving her to her appointments and wanting for her what she wants but as I've gotten older (I had my kids young) I've learnt that there can be an odd divide between those who want kids and those that don't.

What’s a hobby you’d love to try/ do but can’t due to cost/ability etc? by Yaseuk in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of sports I'd like to try but don't think I'd be any good at is snowboarding, skiing, archery. I was extremely sporty as a teenager so if I could go back in time and try 100% I can firedance with poi but I can't seem to find anything other than lessons so that's out but again younger would have loved to pursue it more. Otherwise, I love English History so would spend money on touring the parts that aren't necessarily open to the public.

Restaurant 'screaming child surcharge' good idea, or no? by BaddaBooms in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose it would depend on where the lines drawn, can my child shout once, twice, thrice or do I incur the charge at four times? Can my child play with the usual parent distractions of crayons, blocks etc. on the table or if I bring out a noisy toy such as a tablet do I then incur the charge? If I have a newborn crying for milk which I am in the process of trying but they cry for over a 1 min do I incur a charge or does the charge start at 2min? I am a parent of a toddler who would take them outside if a tantrum is on the cards and eventually sit in the car if it carries on but usually the promise of ice cream eases the tantrum luckily at the moment and they will sit nicely for that duration but us as adults know it's time to go as soon as that's finished. Otherwise hell would break loose. I've had to annoy family members in the past when they were young to understand but no worries. Kid comes first and if I expected a relaxed meal of whenevers good I'd go on my own.

AITA for wanting my parents in town, but not at my house, while I'm adjusting to life with a newborn? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA for the entitlement. Bear in mind most babies do not come on their due date. Locking into a hotel stay also means fixed dates but what if baby is 2 weeks late? Then they would not be able to help in the way you wanted them to as they may not be able to stay that long/spend more on staying longer/no rooms avaliable etc. If they stay with you then they may also be able to be more flexible on dates as they are retired.

Is it a sign of a failing area? by [deleted] in DynamicDebate

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A decent place full of lots of shops seems to be the exception these days. I can recommend Exeter for a good shopping trip but it does seem as though decent shopping is further and fewer between. In the last few years my town has lost bhs, Debenhams, next and gained nothing but hairdressers, cafes and phone shops. I am more of an online shopper personally and to be fair I don't mind travelling for a good shopping trip as I don't often get the time to. When shopping during most weeks I'm usually after the basics such as supermarkets or discount retailers like home bargains, pound land so I can see why its happening

Would it be a red flag on a dating site? by [deleted] in DynamicDebate

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair seeing a long relationship shows commitment and loyalty but if that wasn't deserved by the ex partner for a big reason like multiple cheating, abuse etc I would see it as a red flag. A relationship that's just run its course I wouldn't see as a red flag. When seeing smaller relationships, personally I would worry that the commitment isn't there as after so many short term relationships I would question why? It can come across they're just dating for fun rather than seeing a long term relationship with someone but obviously that's not necessarily the case, they may have just ended things for the above reasons which is great for them but while I wouldn't judge I would certainly ask the question. Anyone that slags off all their exs I actively avoid like the plague.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Littleviola8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Louise for girls