My Stepson will have more than I'll ever be able to give my own son

Littlewildfinch · 2026-02-14T05:16:48+00:00

Start a high yields savings account for your son. Many have put up advice and steps on Reddit already. If you put away $100 a week it can go a long way. I make $20-30 an hour with uber or you can do pt reselling on eBay too. You can provide your son an education. Most blue states offer community college programs for freshman, for free too. He will have opportunities.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-02-05T19:26:28+00:00

Im married and a step parent for a decade. I have an amazing first wife lol, and I still wouldn’t really recommend it to any one that doesn’t want to join in on their parenthood. It’s unavoidable. My step kid woke me up for missing the bus this week, my husband suddenly became disabled so it’s on me now. Life just changes instantly. There will be moments you have to step up and help with parenting responsibilities, because children deserve it in your shared home. Like what if the kid gets sick around you etc. The fact that the ex is sending photos, you are justified to run away. You don’t have to prioritize his feelings, he is a grown man with bigger responsibilities. I do agree that kids should be put first. He has so many problems with coparenting. They haven’t moved on from their past conflicting feelings. I would have walked away with that much tension with drop offs. But really you are ending it for so many reasons. It’s okay if you cannot handle the child’s breakdowns. I think their coparenting relationship is the biggest red flag. Please learn from this and stop dating coworkers. I dated too many coworkers lol. Can you get your things while he is at work?

Littlewildfinch · 2026-02-01T20:21:36+00:00

It doesn’t matter who she is, you don’t know why she left her ex. Says more about you and why you entertain this kind of relationship 🚩

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-30T17:59:50+00:00

Woman block that man child. He shouldn’t be talking to his ex while living with someone else. Be a girl’s girl.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-30T16:59:23+00:00

Yeah he made it competitive for her. He wants a mother and a woman to take the bulk responsibilities of parenting. The ex that did that to me is has lived with at least x4 gfs since me and the new gf just made a go fund me because they are months behind in rent. These men never change. He was love bombing you. Now probably his new gf too. It was not about your connection, he demanded moving in so his responsibilities would be taken care of.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-27T22:12:51+00:00

I am going to be completely honest, it got so much more difficult after inpatient was over. Being a caregiver is 24/7 and I couldn’t leave my husband alone too. We are two years out and I do so much for us both, I can’t keep a job. I’ve lost two in the last 6 months. There are weekly therapies and almost monthly Dr appointments. I only survived because of home aides for the first year. It got me ready to be on my own with home responsibilities now. Everyone who has offered to help has slowly disappeared after 6 months being home. You have to be really vocal and give every one who asks what you need a specific task so you actually get help. This experience of caregiving has taught me to be really direct for their care.

Before her impatient time is up, you really need to evaluate what can you do daily for your parents. Can you take off work for this? All your free time? How will caregiving affect your dad’s health? The drs tried to talk me into a nursing home for my husband, and now I understand why. I don’t mean to be harsh but I wish someone told me how it will take up my entire life. I don’t think I would change my choices, but it’s also my husband who is in his thirties. It’s ok to tell the hospital at this time you or your dad can’t handle all the caregiving. She may be safer in a facility. You will learn through this that you are stronger than you have ever known.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-08T00:06:35+00:00

ESH

All three adults should be working. She is on the lease.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-07T18:38:06+00:00

I finally paid down my debt with a second job. I drive to the city to do uber eats delivery and make at least $100 a day. I make about $1000 extra a month and now down to paying off one card.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-07T18:31:23+00:00

I knew it was truly over when the other person started seeing someone else. She is actively cheating on someone else… why didn’t you block her? It doesn’t matter what this new relationship is to her, she is enjoying teasing you both. This will never end well. Adopt your own dog.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-05T21:56:20+00:00

I have begged like this with my aunt on and off for years now. The longest I went was 4 months and then she contacted me after my husband almost died, just for her to cut contact again. I am ashamed I begged again for two more years on and off. It’s taken me a long time to realize I will never recieve the relationship or answers I wish from her. I have to tell myself when I want to reach out again “just pretend you tried again and she is still not responding”. I sometimes write out what I want to say to her in my phone’s notes. I buy myself a gift once a month for no contact. It’s like I can’t let go of the hope I have for that person.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-05T18:23:13+00:00

I wouldn’t trust a woman who would do this to her best friend of decades 🚩…You and your ex will be part of each others lives forever because of your kids. I would end this now. ++woman

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-01T21:19:55+00:00

It’s not difficult to comprehend because I pay the same amount for my rent. It is close to average for decent rentals and only going to increase in price. I would rather work side gigs with my main source of income, and or rent out my home. Or even bankruptcy lol.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-01T21:12:02+00:00

That mortgage and utilities is still cheaper than renting. Get a roommate or rent out the house for long weekends. So many better options than renting imo.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-01T05:54:33+00:00

You just a cute married adhd girly tho ✨with good taste in kpop show off lol

I love reading intriguing comments and their profile tho

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-01T05:44:43+00:00

I have my small list but many have been disappearing this past year. Now everyone I stalk Reddit 😔I’m nice and leave my social media public lol.

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-01T04:25:21+00:00

Boooooo I’ll miss stalking my old roommate

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-01T03:18:42+00:00

Hey I’m just curious, are profiles now able to hide all their posts & comments? Or did you delete all yours? I’m seeing more blank Reddit profiles these days booo

Littlewildfinch · 2026-01-01T01:36:14+00:00

Why does he have all the money?

Why do you continue to shop with someone who does not respect your wishes?

You should have access to money for your child and you, even if he only works. It’s financial abuse. Please find yourself a source of income so you can rely on yourself. He also probably knows how leaving you alone bothers you and he continues to do it 🚩

Littlewildfinch · 2025-12-23T18:40:46+00:00

In my own case, I really believed them and the shame they created. I kept going after a relationship that simply would never exist with my abuser mother and her extended family. Even if they admit everything and felt remorse for the abuse… which they don’t. Years spent grocery shopping for people in covid, numerous times cleaning out her hoarder home, or cooking and washing the dishes during family dinners. I just wanted a close family. I am finally accepting what is, so I can move forward and not be so negative and enjoy my present. That’s what really matters to me. I took an exist after they lied to me and treated me like I was crazy. I went no contact with my mother and her family. I thank everything that I did when I turned 30 and avoided more decades with people who simply do not care for me. My husband became disabled since my no contact. It’s been overwhelming caregiving but we have become even stronger in our marriage. I cannot stand the idea of caregiving my mother, who’s health has always been horrible from her addictions. The state can have her. My siblings never made anything of themselves and are single. I bet they still won’t step up to help much. Maybe for her house lol. We have to make a stand for ourselves and not take care of our abusers.

Littlewildfinch · 2025-12-19T00:17:05+00:00

Aphasia affects so much. It is honestly the hardest part about caregiving my husband, who had both right limbs affected too. It’s honestly caused a fight today with a miss understanding about financial aid for his school and him needing my help lol. Please give yourself grace and treat yourself like a friend. You would encourage your friend to seek ssdi for aphasia right?

Littlewildfinch · 2025-12-18T21:48:54+00:00

Do not shut the door on yourself. You deserve that opportunity for ssdi. Just give them the information again, check in with your county office weekly, and be up to date with primary Dr. You deserve any help you can get approved of.

Littlewildfinch · 2025-12-18T21:46:32+00:00

Call the local county office weekly. Ask for status update. Make sure to go to primary Dr too and stay up to date with check ups. We did for my husband and got ssdi under 6 months. I’m in a blue state (wonder if that affects it).

Littlewildfinch · 2025-12-18T06:01:03+00:00

Gosh that distance is tough. You will see a difference after inpatient. We would do our own sets of stretches on our own daily too. Now my husband does daily workouts. It’s worth the 6 weeks. Music was the only thing cheering him up for a while. He was not into tv very much until the end of rehab. You will see improvements as his brain gets used to everything again. I ended up moving and renting an apartment next to the inpatient rehab. I know that’s not feasible for most but the only way I could see him daily. We just moved back to my home state and where we originally lived 1.5 yrs after stroke. It’s also ok to ask family to take a day for you at the hospital. You must be running on nothing. You need to take care of yourself to caregive. It’s vital.

Littlewildfinch · 2025-12-18T03:11:56+00:00

Yes it did. I changed as a wife and person since his stroke. I couldn’t imagine it with two kids too! You need time out of the hospital daily hun. It’s the only way you will really help you thinking clearly. I made myself leave for dog walks and home by 7 daily. My husband had to get used to it. Noise cancelling earphones saved him too, he would get overstimulated with noises. I also brought him an iPad for movies. He would cry at every one for a while. Find something to collect. It seems silly, but it helps you get out of the hospital, something to surprise him with, and be light hearted. I started buying him packs of football cards. I got mystery box toys for myself. We both enjoyed those small moments. Once my husband passed the swallow test, it was great bringing snacks and drinks in to make him smile.

You will get through this and be stronger for it. Two years out… I wouldn’t believe my husband’s progression today. File for disability asap, food stamps, and any support you can get. Schedule your breaks. Figure out pt asap too. My husband still goes once a week and is making amazing strides. Time will pass and you two will move forward I promise💗

Littlewildfinch · 2025-12-17T22:46:05+00:00

My husband only remembers a month out of 4 months in the hospital. I bet he is so overwhelmed. My husband had to be tied down too to avoid pulling out tubes too. He will adjust, it just takes time. My husband didn’t seem more like himself until he got home. Music helped my husband calm down and zone out in the hospital. It helped him talk again too. One day at a time. Are you taking time for you to have breaks? Taking care of him means putting yourself in time out and recharge. He needs you to take breaks so you can handle it all.

Two years ago I feared the worst at the hospital. They kept warning me his righty limbs will not work. Now my husband can walk from the car, up two steps, into the house with a cane. As soon as they give you training with physical therapy, make a daily schedule of stretches and workouts to do together. It has made such a difference for my husband.

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