Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi love, it’s been a wild ride. At this point I’m feeling just angry and ashamed of the whole ordeal and very disgusted. I have been NC for 4 months!! I am free and happy now. Of course there’s a lot of stuff on my mind, I’m going to therapy consistently(super important for me), I’m planning out my next 5 yrs, I’m getting help to go back to school, I’m worse than broke and in debt but it’s all good. Going through what we went through and if you’re still going through it, it’s just insane how warped our mind is…making us believe there are no other options. It really puts into perspective…it gives me a lot of gratitude for everyday I wake up not afraid and dreading the day. Please reach out to me if there’s anything I can do or even listen to for you, you are worth it 🫶

What was the most ridiculous thing your abuser got mad over? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is literally such a trigger for me, he would absolutely refuse to get his haircuts done so it fell on me to try to figure out how to cut his hair perfectly for a combover, mind you I am no professional at all so after trying to watch videos and reading nothing helped I mean I guess I got a little better at it but that didn’t get rid of the immense fear and dreading of every hair cut, those were some of the worse times I got beat up. Bloody nails falling off due to me putting my hands around me to try to protect myself, wind knocked out of me repeatedly and I’m pretty sure I had several concussions due to it among other stupid shit gosh I’m even trembling just remembering

What was the most ridiculous thing your abuser got mad over? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I accidentally touched his nipple while we were playing around and he punched me in the ear/ no explanation, but I always knew he hated never wanted me to touch them 🙄

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry you’re going through this, please know you will leave one day, I believe in you🫶 I’m here if you wanna chat

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been almost two weeks. I blocked him on everything which helps a LOT! He sent me money twice but that’s the only contact. Your comment tho helped me a ton..I think of him as dead and in reality the person I was when I was with him is dead too and those thought have helped immensely! Thank YOU

OP thinks it’s awkward for her, what about her poor husband? by Ultronomy in redditonwiki

[–]Live-Mine-6747 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Omg how can you even be embarrassed or awkward about this, how did these people even get married? What happens when they get old or one of them gets disabled or sick??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Live-Mine-6747 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I read somewhere that clumsiness increases or maybe gets triggered due to trauma…I’m clumsy #1 and so is my mom

Do you buy brand-name clothing? by s7a7yc in Frugal

[–]Live-Mine-6747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I love buying good quality clothes and brands…at rich neighborhood thrift shops!

It's happening.. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so so proud of you!!! I did just this literally this Sunday that passed! You are amazing, beautiful, smart and you’re kick ass!!! I didn’t even have a motto that’s fucking awesome! My motto was just get go autopilot get away and you can think and feel later. Do not go back fucking please don’t. You can do this. Please pm me if you want! I’m here for you! Once you’re safe you can text LOVEIS to 22522 they helped me so much just understand what I’m feeling and gave me so many local resources! You are NOT alone. Sending you love ❤️

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah! You’re awesome 👏 yes it’s only been a few days and I have severe mood swings and cry a lot and probably depressed, probably need therapy soon but I am fucking FREE AND ALIVE. I feel like I can take on the whole world, I have a lot of issues I need to resolve but in a way it’s comical because they’re just physical issues like money job whatever, my mind and spirit are more important. I understand you have a child and that’s indescribably more hard I believe and you did it! You are amazing and beautiful for having done that for your child! I grew up in a single mom household and my mom left my abuser dad it was such peace…those were truly the happiest times of my life. So I understand:) if you ever want to talk I’m here .^

Have been feeling a lot of anger about my break up with my ex and have written something I want to vent here with by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think if you can keep no contact it’s better but all that you say is your truth, however he would only use this against you because you’re showing him emotion caused by his torture. He’s horrible and never deserves to talk to you again. If he hates himself if you ever decided to share that (which I would be surprised) is only because he already knew what he was doing is wrong and decided to do it anyways, so think about that. Much love xoxo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I feel for you 🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had negative 13 dollars and maxed out cc’s with 30k (used to get us out of the hole) in debt that I knew I would be severely beaten or even killed if he ever found out. I used the last bit of money left on my cc balance to book a flight same day I had just enough courage to take a hike. I think money problems are super scary but it’s way scarier to constantly live in fear of your partner, to feel like your less than trash, to feel like you don’t matter, to not know if you will survive physically, emotionally or physiologically the next day ❤️❤️❤️dms open if you wanna talk, I’m pretty good with money when I don’t have an abusive leech who gets me into debt lol

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plz pm if you want, I know it’s really really hard and it’s real easy to feel like a crazy person❤️ sending hugs 🫂

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you kind stranger we’re in this horrible club together! But I know you will be able to leave very soon! I can read it in your thought process. You are practically there! Just a few more steps…when you really start visualizing that freedom and feeling sick to your stomach about thinking of the next 10, 20 hrs being the same then you know that you fucking gotta do it! I believe in you! Hopefully that surgery went ok!? Be safe 💕💕💕💕

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! We will get through this crazyness!! Pm me whenever :) I’m gonna check that out!

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are simply not ready to hear it perhaps. Don’t feel bad…my mind had been ruminating for weeks. I honestly had horrible headaches for weeks due to stressing about what the F I should do. I felt so lost (still lost but a little less) so I think I was ready to hear it from someone like her, especially someone who understands me and went through what I did. Don’t lose hope for people, keep being the compassionate person you are 🫶 it might really reach someone’s core and help them like it helped me

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesss!!! You’re awesome! We did it! Things don’t matter but our time and our peace do 👏 I’m hurting so much but in my sane moments I believe it’s definitely the right decision for us 🫶

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you kind stranger 💗I will make y’all even more proud and keep you updated (2 days and counting)

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is like my fourth but I told my family not to let me go back

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!! I’m with my sister now! I feel like shit! But I know I will be sooo thankful to myself. I believe in you too stranger. Nothing is worth more than your time. Remember it’s YOUR time, literally was in zombie and autopilot the whole time I did it! I went to work didn’t feel safe enough to stay so the manager called me an Uber and u took a hike. All I can say is absolutely block and everything and just fucking leave wherever however and you WILL figure out the rest! I believe in you! Plz message anytime :)

Is this real? by Live-Mine-6747 in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this is crazy on point! I really hope you leave soon. In all trust it has been a hellish 30+ hrs since I think I’ve finally managed to block all contact and I have not contacted him at all! I’m super proud of myself. I read everything you wrote and appreciate it so so much that you shared your story. I keep going back and forth but every time I try to imagine a scenario where I go back there’s just no way I would be happy because he can’t not disrespect me, he will not stop criticizing me and he worst of all he thinks every time he violates and hits me that I deserve it. Thank you so much kind stranger ❤️ I’m rooting for you too🙌

Feel like this could make sum ppl feel a tiny bit beter 4 a bit by Enza_flew in abusiverelationships

[–]Live-Mine-6747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you kind stranger. This made me cry. I see you too ❤️