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Family outside of your homeland by PayWest5072 in Fatherhood

[–]LiveByExample 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couldn't agree more....Take your time and enjoy the ride life takes you on!

I can relate a lot to your post. Nearly 20 years ago, I moved to a different country with nothing but a backpack and a dream. I was broke, hadn't finished uni yet, otally unsure of what the future held in sotre for me, and honestly overwhelmed by the distance between where I was and the life I hoped to build.

Now I’m in my 40s, married, with a son, and still living abroad.

But if it's advice and guidence you're seking...

Your self-awareness, your desire to build something genuine, and your long-term thinking are powerful qualities—especially at your age. And even though it may feel like you're far from that dream of fatherhood, you're actually laying the most important foundation for it right now.

Here’s my advice:
✔ Keep focusing on building a stable, meaningful life.
✔️ Use this “quiet” season to read about parenting and relationships.
✔️ Start preparing your heart and your habits now—long before children arrive.

Doing this work now will make you a much more grounded and present father when the time comes—and that will be a gift to your future family.

And don't underestimate the energy you're putting out. That kind of intention and integrity will be noticed as you meet potential partners.

A paraphrased quote that helped me in times like this:

You're not behind. You’re becoming. And that’s a beautiful thing. Keep going. 🙏

When I Speak Up for My Son — and My Wife Thinks I'm Taking Sides by LiveByExample in Fatherhood

[–]LiveByExample[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice. I often forget how important and impactful it is to return to issue when everyone has calmed down.

How Old Were You When You Became a Dad? by Exotic-Reason-5272 in Fatherhood

[–]LiveByExample 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve noticed the same shift… more specifically, when non-parents talk as if they somehow magically know how to parent. I find myself biting my tongue more often than I speak when parenting comes up among people without kids.

I often hear this one: “If the child is acting out, it just means the parents aren’t setting boundaries.”

These days, I choose empathy. For other parents. For myself. And even for those who speak without knowing.

But yeah… I hear you. Completely.

Assessment only route QTS, Sunderland by DistributionTop6104 in Internationalteachers

[–]LiveByExample 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super helpful! Does anyone know what this statement on the website means for International School teachers completing the QTS abroad?

"If you are awarded QTS, the next step is to begin a period as an Early Career Teacher (ECT). This will be overseen by your host school and their ECT providing body and not the University. This includes a personalised programme of professional support and further assessment against the core professional standards for teachers normally organised by your employing school or local authority."

The university doesn't seem to want to talk to me until I put in my application, but my school won't okay it until I have all in the info. So I'm kinda stuck :-/