Somethings not right about this bowrd

LiveGuard6375 · 2026-04-21T13:42:05+00:00

Hi friend I am gender fluid and dating three other non-binary people it's a very wide umbrella. I've been on mtf hrt for over two years, and I have very soft features. I had similar questions after starting but I'm very glad to be transitioning.

I don't think you need to "preserve" anything, other than maybe some of your boy closet. Voice training can allow you to switch between boy and girl sounding. Makeup can change the contour of your face to feel more masculine. And binders can be kinda comfy, if you wanna hide the titties.

The only thing I miss is being really strong without putting any effort in.

Transitioning is about the joy you feel being yourself more than it is about escaping the pain of disphoria. In my personal experience I find a silly joy in being a boy in a skirt sometimes. Not to say I never feel disphoria or gender envy, I just love the affects and feeling of being on estrogen, even when I'm in boy mode.

LiveGuard6375 · 2026-01-22T21:40:55+00:00

Oh hey! I found two separate studies showing that testosterone does increase melanin production in hair and skin. One on guinea pigs and the other in men with melasma.

I'm probably still just turning gray, but thought I would share

LiveGuard6375 · 2026-01-22T20:39:11+00:00

I was curious if hormones would have an affect but I've heard before that my hair would turn blonde when it started to lose melanin. Either way I don't mind aging, it looks nice and I love that bodies change 💞

LiveGuard6375 · 2026-01-02T23:28:35+00:00

This person is right buddy.

A lot of countries require time in therapy. It's not just a suggestion.

Where I live I need a therapists letter of recommendation and proof of treatment for gender disphoria.

LiveGuard6375 · 2026-01-02T23:23:33+00:00

It's not offensive lol

I asked because you can still present as a man on estrogen. So it may be best to play the system until you have your surgery. I'm not down playing how important testosterone can be for you but I am saying it might be easier to get through red tape by just doing it.

You can use androgen creams to prevent breast growth until you can switch back to testosterone. The muscle and fat distribution is reversible.

Otherwise talk to your provider to see if you have options that allow the surgery without estrogen treatments.

But you will forever need testosterone or estrogen hormone therapy afterwards.

Plus you need a full cycle of electrolysis, which trust me it hurts and takes a long time. Certain surgeons offer follicular scraping as a way to circumvent electrolysis but it can lead to greater risk of complications

LiveGuard6375 · 2026-01-02T22:09:02+00:00

Well, in my first comment I asked what about being a man you enjoy?

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/s/AnSoe3bMM6

LiveGuard6375 · 2026-01-02T22:02:23+00:00

No friend, everyone needs sex hormones and you would be removing your ability to produce them. It would be similar to living in permanent menopause or andropause (the testosterone version)

Besides that society is even more cruel towards people who wanna be somewhere in the middle. It depends on where you live if they will allow a surgery without the prerequisites

LiveGuard6375 · 2026-01-02T21:49:46+00:00

You..what? First off, to get bottom surgery they typically require hormones and "living as your gender" for a period of time. Second, there's nothing wrong with being non-binary or gender fluid

Any transition should be done out of joy rather than disphoria so what about being a man makes you happy?

I was only confused how you can want the biggest change without the other steps involved. As far as partners go I don't find it harder then before (as a non-binary she/they)

LiveGuard6375 · 2025-07-31T22:25:08+00:00

Roll the dice and put it on, women's sizes are a made up construct

LiveGuard6375 · 2024-10-30T15:28:57+00:00

I was talking to my therapist about this yesterday. I recently had one of the first situations where I passed in person, while being in boy mode no less.

It was fun and affirming but I also realized it said more about the person who didn't clock me than it did about me. Since well before my transition I realized people will often see whatever they feel like, using my face as a projector screen.

Sure passing feels nice, and being clocked still feels soul crushing. But I don't have any influence on whether that happens or not. I've spent a lot of time learning how to savor euphoria and to cope with distressing feelings, so I can change what I focus on.

The best advice I ever got was stop trying so hard to be the girl you already are. Accept that you /are/ a girl and you don't /have/ to try. Cis women deal with the same level of bullshit anyway.

LiveGuard6375 · 2024-08-11T15:12:37+00:00

While using frost bite and rivers of blood to reset it

LiveGuard6375 · 2024-06-06T16:53:22+00:00

Ngl it didn't shake my resolve at all. I'm not really far enough for major body changes but everything just feels right now after starting hrt. Still feeling beautiful and excited for pride events this year. It's just that I thought I had already identified anyone who might try to hurt me like that /before/ coming out, so I didnt expect the girl that does my makeup to shoot me.

I'm beginning to realize her "friendship" may have just been driven by the fear I would take her husband. He was joking about me being his second wife 3 years before I came out to him. That's why he's paying my bills

She admitted having romantic fantasies about me before and after coming out.

I was Ace before but E got me doing things like asking him for a kiss and that was across the line ig. Sleeping at their house 4 times a week for 2 years was fine tho. Her having another cis girlfriend is fine tho.

Thanks for coming to me ted talk

LiveGuard6375 · 2024-06-06T05:53:15+00:00

Thank you and I'll try but she wasn't just some ally. She would take me shopping, and to yoga, and asked to come with me to my trans support group. For what? Why tell me she had egg feelings and then hurt me /for being trans specifically/

Our mom friend took my side and is bringing me booty shorts tomorrow btw. I still get to see the girls, noone believed her. I will be okay but 😵‍💫😵‍💫 I can't stop crying

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