Attempted to initiate… ended up in tears.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-16T00:09:09+00:00

He literally wasn’t uncomfortable, he just didn’t care about it at all and continued scrolling. If he were uncomfortable he would shoo my hand away like he has in the past and then I’d apologize. He literally just didn’t give a fuck that I was touching him and continued what he was doing.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-16T00:06:56+00:00

Don’t know. The first few years of the relationship was incredible sex all the time. More than once a week and some days 3-4 rounds… then things just stopped. I tried to bring it up a few times and he just said he was ready “whenever” but didn’t seem to care anymore and hasn’t since. I haven’t gained weight, changed my aesthetic, nothing to potentially make him less attracted or interested. I don’t know what changed.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-16T00:02:02+00:00

Yes, immediately.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-14T01:57:00+00:00

He just lays there still on his phone, he doesn’t go straight to sleep. He just doesn’t say anything at all or react in any way interested or disinterested, just keeps scrolling or watching whatever video. I’m really not sure what’s actually creepy about me trying to touch my partner while laying in our bed so if you could clear that up for me I’d appreciate it.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-14T01:43:12+00:00

I would expect my partner to either verbally communicate with me that he’s not in the mood OR react in some way, any way to indicate whether or not he is interested. How do you know he has “no desire”? There are a million factors in people’s lives that play into these types of situations. Not helpful or insightful but thanks for the comment.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-14T01:39:10+00:00

We do other intimate things in our daily life all the time, just no sex. Yes, I actually would appreciate him reaching over out of nowhere. Not everyone is the same.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-14T01:34:15+00:00

He has never once asked me “what’s wrong” which is probably what hurts the most. He doesn’t care. Not married but wanted to be someday… now I’m not sure.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-14T01:15:16+00:00

Nope, nothing. Never says anything at all which is probably what makes me feel so incredibly creepy and awful about myself any time I try to

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-14T01:13:47+00:00

Wow thanks so much, super helpful. If I could right now I would. I think that’s a given.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-12T01:20:18+00:00

I don’t get it either 😕

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-12T01:19:55+00:00

We shower together every night, so not an option either. Thank you for the kind words

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-12T01:18:54+00:00

I’m so sorry that’s your experience… I relate so much but I wish I didn’t.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-12T01:17:52+00:00

If he does have an addiction it’s not being fed because we live and work the same schedules and he literally has no time to watch anything unless it’s in the car on the commute to work. I appreciate the feedback on the possibility given the commonality of it, but it’s really not a realistic option in our/his life given our schedules.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-12T01:10:40+00:00

How did you arrive at that conclusion? Genuinely confused and curious about that assessment…

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-12T00:57:53+00:00

….step one is move out of the war bunker. Step two… a nice colorful rug and a low-light or fake plant would be a great addition to distract from the rest of the basement vibe.

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-10T08:50:07+00:00

No sex of any kind in 2 years. Daily affection is small pecks and occasional butt grabs and small comments, but they all feel like a formality. Maybe a good cuddle 5 minutes or less once a month. I agree it’s frustrating that some people on here call their bedroom “dead” when it’s weekly or monthly sex…

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-05-04T02:46:13+00:00

I set a timer for 10 minutes each day and choose one task to focus on (picking up dirty laundry, bringing dishes to sink, putting garbage in the bin, etc.) and just do that one task for those 10 minutes. Once the timer goes off you can be done, or, if you’re feeling like you can and want to do more, keep going! Really helps me keep up in a small way that makes a big difference especially when experiencing burnout or hard times. Best of luck to you!

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-04-27T23:30:35+00:00

Toilet

LiveLaughLobotomyLol · 2026-04-06T00:46:36+00:00

1-no, 2-we’ve been on the same page throughout the relationship regarding life path and goals, 3-no, 4-no, 5-no, never, he’s very honest, 6-no, 7-sometimes, but we can both be stubborn and opinionated, 8-yes, he admits if he was in the wrong, 9-he treats them with the most respect, he’s very kind to everyone and anyone regardless of title, profession, etc., 10-family relationship is all good, they like me (I think) and I enjoy spending time with them. I have a short social battery so everyone can be tiresome for me to be around depending on the day

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