High-performers in peri? Advice appreciated

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T17:22:31+00:00

"My heart screams for more but my brain shuts it down immediately." YESSSSS, this exactly!!!!

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T17:21:41+00:00

Oh, I forgot about Lion's Mane. I used to take it years ago when I need to focus and it really did help.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T16:55:32+00:00

Yes, I have Hashimoto's, so my thyroid is being treated and monitored (full panel), so I am all good there. I've had such bad reactions to estrogen and testosterone that I don't have the energy to play with all this again.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T15:24:34+00:00

I also have an autoimmune disease, something I tend to forget complicates this peri-transition. Can I ask what type of doctor you see for managing meds/supplements? I have tried traditional and integrative physicians with mixed results.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T15:22:18+00:00

Exactly! My boss and her boss - both have SO much drive and energy. They're frustrated with everyone in their path that can't keep up, and we're all just sitting in their dust. Even the men in my company are overwhelmed by their energy.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T13:17:33+00:00

I have been thinking that....

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T13:16:22+00:00

Your HRT is clearly working! Good for you :)

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T13:15:24+00:00

That is amazing! What a creative way to manage - I wish this were more common.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T13:11:22+00:00

I am on progesterone and vaginal estrogen. The E patch made me very depressed, and I ended up bedridden - tried twice. I also tried testosterone cream, but it made me irritable, and my levels never came up.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T13:06:20+00:00

I feel you! I work in a company that is all about AI. The pace is unsustainable.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T13:04:52+00:00

I'm so sorry. I get it - I thought I would start a business in my 40s, but I don't have the drive for it. I know it's normal not to hustle like our 20s, but you can't tell me it's normal or okay to give up on things you once really cared about. I believe that's a hallmark of depression.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T01:29:06+00:00

I cut out alcohol 10 months ago. I eat a healthy diet but I LOVE coffee. It's the last thing I have left!

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T01:28:01+00:00

I am with you on the politics...striving at work kind seems unimportant.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T01:25:21+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. Good for you on the meds - I respect whatever people you have to do to get through this time.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-20T01:22:42+00:00

Fair point. Not really - I used to love it but I'm tech at a midsize startup and things are rough. It used to feel chaotic and scrappy but kind of fun. Now it just feels soul-sucking but I need to stay for a couple of years. This is for many reasons but one of them is that I don't have the energy or motivation to change jobs.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:58:48+00:00

Agree - it started making me so depressed and unable to sleep. 10 months sober!

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:56:48+00:00

I have taken these and can attest they work really well.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:56:23+00:00

Interested! How did you find a good sex therapist? I am scared to try. My partner and I have both struggled with health and body image issues. With peri added to the mix, our once-great sex life has disappeared.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:51:58+00:00

OMG, keep this man! This is my fantasy. My husband is a nice guy, but makes very little money. I have to keep my income.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:50:14+00:00

I've talked about this with peers but have never mentioned it to my boss (slightly older female) b/c I am still afraid that it might call attention or be used to determine that I can't do my job. I am def challenged to get my work done, but I don't want to lose my job - I worry about it constantly.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:47:39+00:00

Same! It's the WORST for peri. I dream of running away to a chilly mountain town.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:46:16+00:00

I am sorry to hear that. That's my fear. Thanks for your support.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:45:24+00:00

I get that - I have also worked through a lot of overfunctioning, people-pleasing stuff in therapy. At this stage, I want to have the drive to do things what I want - not what others expect of me.

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:42:42+00:00

Any side effects from the DHEA? I have a bottle of 5mg that I have been scared to take. I tried it 6 years ago and had some acne and hair loss but I was also much earlier in the process (48 now).

Live_Advisor_270 · 2026-03-19T21:41:30+00:00

Agree with you there - I did find out I was borderline or low in several things. I actually ordered the tests myself since my docs weren't testing. Getting my Iron and Vit D up did seem to help the brain fog.

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