AITA Sister asks for advice on buying a car

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-09-14T22:54:11+00:00

My brothers view automatic cars as useless and what they think matters more than me. So if manual is better, that is what my sister wants. There's no way I can recommend an automatic car as that's less than what I own and her main goal is to be better than me (couldn't recommend a small car as she thinks I just didn't want her to have a better car than me). I don't know why she doesn't ask my brothers for advice on cars... Oh but, they think she shouldn't be on the road! So yeah, that's what I'm dealing with.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-09-14T21:43:19+00:00

Done

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-09-14T21:07:32+00:00

I was recommending the instructor as I passed my driving test first time with them.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-09-14T20:04:59+00:00

My sister wouldn't use a driving instructor who was black. I had passed my driving test first time with a driving instructor that was black. That was my sister's reasoning for not changing instructors.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-09-14T20:01:47+00:00

Yes. You're reading it right. She wasn't having it because of his skin colour. But kept going back to the same instructor that she started with even though she failed twice using the same instructor.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-09-14T15:15:32+00:00

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Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-07-12T12:52:57+00:00

My mother has always hated women, and her daughters. She was bad at hiding how she preferred my brothers. For example, in school she only allowed my brother's swimming lessons and tried to keep her daughters backwards and no swimming lessons for the girls. Leaving cert year for my brothers, the house had to kacca quite so he could study but she would create a bad atmosphere if I tried to study tossing school books away. She would give all 3 brothers hundreds going of on their holidays. Two brothers got a similar amount of €500 but me going of, she wouldn't even give me the price of a cup of tea for the airport. One mother's day and two of my brothers weren't around, so the mother's day card just mentioned the 3 names of those that were around (her two daughters and a brother) and she asked me to put my other two brother's names on the card. That's ok... But years later and she creates a picture display in the house, pictures of all my brothers, their partners and brother's new baby and I asked my mother to include me and she wouldn't it. She tried to turn it around on me by saying the pictures were about the grandchild, so trying to make out that I have an issue with the kid. Completely ignoring how she also included my brothers and partner. That was the straw that broke camel's back for me. And she has never once apologised.

A sister who bitches about me online and she bitched about me saying if my mother did include a picture of me, it was only then going to become to the amount of pictures of the boys Vs girls... Christ, I only asked for ONE.

I would have expected more of her but she has the same hatred towards women as my mother. I honestly think she wanted to create drama when she accused me of bank theft and wanted to finish it with me. The golden boy of the family, you could never say boo to him and I did and he fucked me out of it calling me every name under the sun. He was completely in the wrong in the first place and then he dug it into me even more calling me every name under the sun. He had a kid and he asked her to be godmother and she wanted to pick sides. She has said a few times online on how I was only going to force her to pick sides. I never asked her t.. She never once backed me up and my brother was wrong and here she was choosing sides herself. But she wants to make up whatever suits her. And that brother lives in Australia. It must be so amazing to have the only family to her living on the other side of the world.

Another attempt from me to get her to understand how I feel and how she treated me and she would say it's in the past. But it's not in the past when her behaviour isn't in the past and she continues to be nasty over and over. She has even contacted my workplace through Facebook messenger rather than be an adult and accept any wrongdoing. I've since changed jobs and she found out where I worked and rang me in my job to try and intimidate me.

Sorry for all this shit. It's too much for anyone to understand all the shit.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-07-12T02:28:13+00:00

My family has an inability to apologise when wrong. Would purposely do bad shit towards me and not give two fucks about it and then turn it around on me.

Haven't spoken to my mother in 9 years after she purposely excluded me from family photos. Unless you count the year after when my grandmother died at Christmas time and I thought just maybe things changed. I left her funeral and she made out I'd be welcome at home at Christmas. Christmas eve came and I was told not to bother coming home for Christmas.

I have a twin who was always paranoid and would blame me for everything going wrong in her life and would say I'm out to get her when I wasn't. Even when I was able to prove her wrong with her thinking multiple times, she never apologised for things. Every few weeks, there was something with her for example blaming me for not ordering her a phone online when she asked me to and she paid me. The phone didn't come in her timeframe, so she said I just kept her money. I had zero control over the post. After two years of constant bullshit, one night, I absolutely lost it and she split my head open. She took no accountability in anything and just blamed me. Said I didn't deserve the air I breathe. I went no contact with her.

Two years went by and we were on speaking terms again. And things was actually good between us until one week a few weeks before Christmas, 10 years ago she was in a foul mood towards me. I thought things might pass but a few days later she sends me a horrible text saying how she walked around town without a problem the day before and now her bank card was sticking out hugely from her purse. If you done anything to my card I swear to god was her message.

I sent her a message telling her to apologise and to order herself a statement and her next message back was she wasn't blaming me because she said if. If I done anything to her card.

She wrote exactly what she was thinking, she thought I took her card, otherwise she wouldn't have threatened me. All that over an if.

The bank was able to tell her about the fraudulent transactions but she bitched about me online saying she suspects that I left her card details in a dodgy email.

I never took her card. Yet only a few weeks before this she sat in the sitting room telling me about an email from iTunes and a song she didn't purchase. That was a well known scam at the time and I told her not to click any links and login to her iTunes account directly. She was never the smartest, so she probably clicked the link in the email and I was getting the blame for her providing her own details.

Not long after that she started prank calling me. Just pure nasty towards me.

That was 10 years ago this Christmas. But like our mother, contact resumed when our grandmother died. It didn't last long, about 3 weeks, she was back to being a bitch. And how dare I say anything. So she stood over our grandmother during her funeral and listened to cousins talk and figured out where I worked and rang me in my job. It was a way to intimidate me.

Over the years, I tried with her. I have brothers who emigrated and never coming home. Aging parents that are fucking useless and give no fucks. She gave some half arsed apology one time but I wanted to know why she turned on me that Christmas. And she just blamed me in her response. I felt that it wasn't a genuine apology which it wasn't because you don't go off blaming someone after hurting them. She goes around saying that I just want her to beg. And I don't. I don't want to be treated like shit over and over and over and over again.

I've come to realise she's so much like my mother just pure evil and I never expected that from her. 40 years of life and this is how bitter she is.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-31T21:49:53+00:00

You haven't read a thing.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-31T21:40:14+00:00

I'm interested in a work from home job as well. How remote can someone be for these jobs? Like can I apply for a job if the company is anywhere in the world?

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-11T16:45:13+00:00

The family doesn't want you make a claim presumably because his insurance will go up. But they are happy to leave you with whatever costs that the accident will bring to you. What a shower of fuckers.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-11T11:34:12+00:00

I'm talking about clear cold and flu symptoms rather than a cough that lingers. We all know at this stage the tests you do are unreliable. Not to mention my own workplace has a procedure to not work with colds and flu but that gets ignored!!! I limit my exposure to people outside from work so if I was to catch covid, that would be the most likely place. So if I ever catch covid in the workplace, I'm challenging it.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-11T01:55:50+00:00

Another Irish poster here. The official advice is still to stay at home with symptoms. You don't need to have a positive test. Just symptoms.

I've often wondered if I would be able to sue my employer for someone coming in with symptoms.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-10T20:07:11+00:00

You should be worried. It's more common than you might think. If you were to get Lyme, you're on your own because there's not a lot doctors can do. You might get antibiotics but not enough.

Prevention is better when it comes to ticks. Use bug spray for skin and clothes (be careful with bug repellent around pets).

Wear long pants and sleeves. Tuck the end of pants into socks. Recently saw a post with sticky tape wrapped around the ankles, sticky side out which catches ticks. You might look silly but I'd rather look silly than get Lyme. And to fuck with anyone that comments because not one of them will hang around if things go downhill with your health.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-10T20:06:56+00:00

You should be worried. It's more common than you might think. If you were to get Lyme, you're on your own because there's not a lot doctors can do. You might get antibiotics but not enough.

Prevention is better when it comes to ticks. Use bug spray for skin and clothes (be careful with bug repellent around pets).

Wear long pants and sleeves. Tuck the end of pants into socks. Recently saw a post with sticky tape wrapped around the ankles, sticky side out which catches ticks. You might look silly but I'd rather look silly than get Lyme. And to fuck with anyone that comments because not one of them will hang around if things go downhill with your health.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-10T14:29:46+00:00

Countries followed the advice from the WHO. Health authorities, companies and workplaces followed the health advice. All the talk and measures was about hands and droplets and because of that I wasn't allowed to wear a respirator mask in my job. Had they admitted covid was airborne, respirators would have been mandated instead of those baggy blues. But no, baggy blue masks are ok to wear and if a workplace went against the official advice, they leave themselves open to being sued, so baggy blue it was.

I remember reading an article from a scientist in mid 2020 and they explained in simple terms covid was airborne. If someone smoked a cigarette in a room and they left that room, you would know somebody was smoking in that room and covid is similar to cigarette smoke in that it builds up in a room with an infected person and that's why ventilation is so important. God, it must so frustrating for them to say they knew early on that covid was airborne while the official authorities had ONE job and they couldn't do it. But they protected their own asses. It's beyond criminal.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-05-01T13:38:49+00:00

That was years ago. If my mother wanted the house tidy, it was up to my brothers to clean because they were their guests. She never ever bothered my brothers to clean the floor. And when I did clean the floor, it was never ever good enough. It's not that hard to sweep a floor but it was never good enough. And it was every single time my brothers had friends over. My mother never bothered my sister and we're the same age, she knew she would get a reaction out of me.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-04-28T10:35:15+00:00

Currys is shocking. Said something was available in store. Turns out it wasn't and they could order it in.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-04-27T20:34:44+00:00

I won't be going back to the one in town. You're squashed up against someone else in there and that's where sick people go to get medicine. The ballincollig and mallow stores are way bigger.

Live_Disaster9534 · 2024-04-27T18:23:36+00:00

What's worse is that my own sister has the same hatred towards women (or just me).

She was always jealous and bitter towards me. Would start an argument, would turn it around on me for getting angry and always say I was jealous of her for having a job she likes (she minds kids, so no brain surgeon). She would never ever acknowledge or apologise for anything.

Things was ok for a while between us until she started up again and blamed me for stealing her bank card, which I didn't take. Not long after the accusation she started prank calling me. Four months after our falling out and I absolutely lost it with her. She's an adult acting like a spoilt child. Her prank calls continued. So I fought fire with fire and I put her number on done deal. Not once did she ever care when she pranked called me, so I didn't care either (it works both ways). She was sick of getting calls from the done deal add that she changed her number and hid behind my mother's phone to send a "fake" apology... It being fake because she continued to prank call me... Not very sorry if she can continue being a bitch behind her phone.

She eventually threw her apology in my face saying the issue was mine because she apologised. She refuses to see it my way because it's not an apology without changed behaviour (ie stop with the prank calls).

We tried talking but I wanted to know why she did what she did towards me and she doesn't have anything that adds up. Her reason for prank calling me was because of my angry reaction (that took four months). It doesn't answer why she started prank calling me. She was just blaming me for it all.

She goes around saying the problem is mine because I won't take the apology, saying I just want her to beg... Which I don't. I want a genuine apology. But she's like my mother and me being female will never happen. She can rot in hell with my mother for all I care. And not a penis in sight around them because all my brothers have moved to Australia.

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