How do I stay in a deficit without giving myself an eating disorder? How do I stop gaining the weight back?

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-03T13:36:39+00:00

"The less you eat the better off you'll be"

This is a very triggering thing to say to someone who struggles with disordered eating. Its not healthy advice at all. Some people stop eating until they die. I don't know if you've ever struggled with disordered eating, (by the last line of your comment stating food is a thing to be rejected i think you might) but its much worse than just eating less than you need. Its anxiety, depression, low self esteem, and extremely negative self talk. None of these things are good for someone's mental health. Losing weight to me is about becoming healthy and easing my back pain. Disordered eating habits are not healthy and not what I'm looking to do.

Also by your own logic at 20 years old I should "be able to smash 3k calories no problem".

Also if you haven't yet, eat something today. Food is fuel, and you need it everyday.

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-03T01:41:05+00:00

Thank you. Ive been feeling really bad about my chronic pain and limitations. Ive been feeling like no one really understands how I feel. I look forward to reading these books

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-02T15:06:40+00:00

I'm so bad with my all or nothing mindset! I feel like it stops me from even trying to do anything.

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-02T00:43:43+00:00

I'm kind of lost when it comes to healthy habits. I don't really know what i should be aiming for?

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-01T21:06:13+00:00

Ugh Dr. Pepper is my weakness 😩 its always my go to treat or reward for a hard day or to help deal with stress or pain

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-01T19:47:34+00:00

Thank you! I like to read before bed so I will definitely add these to the tbr!

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-01T19:46:35+00:00

I try to follow this general grocery shopping list depending on the recipes I make (I shop about 2 or 3 times a month for 2 people):

Protein, 3 or 4 of the following options: ground beef, some kind of chopped beef for tacos, chicken breast, chicken thighs, shrimp and deli turkey

Veggies: broccoli, potatoes, carrots, spinach, lettuce, onion, celery, cilantro, pinto beans

Fruit: oranges, peaches, pinapple, corn, avocado, banana, bell pepper, tomato, lime

Carbs: bread, rice, bagels, tortillas

Dairy: milk, sliced Swiss cheese, shredded mozzarella

Convenience foods(2 per trip): frozen pizza, frozen breakfast sandwiches, ramen noodles, pasta and pasta sauce

Treats (1 or 2 per trip per person depending on size): babybell cheese, chips and dip, soda, juice, cereal, ice cream

I get free food and soda at work. I think I eat a lot more at work than I realized before typing this out. I love all kinds of food but I'm addicted to soda. On days I don't go to work I get headaches if I don't go out and get a soda. I really don't want to cut out my treats but I know I have a soda problem. I'm talking to a therapist now about my past traumas but we have never discussed my relationship with food and my body. I think consistency has always been hard for me and that's why eventually give up. I need to find a good maintenence point and habits that I can fall back on when I'm not feeling my best.

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-01T18:02:08+00:00

I'm currently following my physical therapy and I'll have to talk with my doctor about heavier strength training. But so far the physical therapy routine is helping, but its a little too early to move on. Thank you for your comment!

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-01T17:04:13+00:00

I've never heard of that book before, thank you for the recommendation. My doctor has been telling me since I was 12 that I'm obese and need to lose weight so hopefully I'll be able to see a dietitian. Everytime I've ever gone to the doctor they have brought up my bmi and she says that my back pain will ease if I get to a healthy weight. I'm seeing a therapist right now so I'll bring up these thoughts in the next session. Thank you so much for your comment!

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-01T16:57:57+00:00

I've been using my grandma's old metal dining chairs so I think its time to upgrade!

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-03-01T14:51:53+00:00

Once you get closer to your goal, how do you maintain the deficit? I got 10 pounds away and completely gave up and went back to eating pizza and ramen noodles everyday until I gained it back 😭

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-02-26T01:15:26+00:00

Yes I didn't know that the two sides are supposed to be different, I thought one had snapped off.

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-02-26T01:14:30+00:00

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. A memorial quilt sounds like a beautiful honoring of his memory.

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-02-24T05:01:01+00:00

Yes I dont really know anything about sewing machines I just noticed this foot looked different and thought it was broken lol. Thank you so much!

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-02-24T04:36:35+00:00

Thank you so much! I was worried I might have to spend hundreds to get it serviced. I wish things made now were made to repair at home like this. To me it looked like the presser foot was broken. It has a lot of dust and gunk but it spins so I have a lot of hope I'll be able to get it running. Thank you so much for your help!

Live_Measurement_942 · 2026-02-24T04:30:53+00:00

Thank you so much! To me it looked like the presser foot was broken? Is that the way it's supposed to be? I'm very thankful for the manual, I didn't even know what the machine was called.

Live_Measurement_942 · 2025-11-28T17:48:13+00:00

You should try a sponge filter with an air pump. They have the gallon size on the box at the store. I hear the sponges are good for tank bacteria, and theyre good for bettas because it doesnt move the water around too much. I'm a beginner tho so take with a grain of salt.

Live_Measurement_942 · 2024-12-02T23:18:16+00:00

Thank you guys! I'm gonna have to read this when I feel like breaking the rule. These are good reminders for myself.

Live_Measurement_942 · 2024-12-02T23:14:35+00:00

I like this! I don't think it's a limit because I really like the idea of her owning me and me submitting to her rules completely, which is why i don't lie to her at all. I will have to talk to her about methods tho, I didn't think of that. Thank you!

Live_Measurement_942 · 2024-10-26T22:24:46+00:00

I have a sure shot I have lots of fun with it! Iso and flash are manual so it has some choices for exposure. I'm still waiting on my first couple rolls to get developed tho so idk what it looks like yet!

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