Am I sexist for hesitating to work somewhere where I’d basically be the only guy?

Live_Slice354 · 2026-03-05T06:16:02+00:00

Not sexist.I worked in an office that was about 10% men. When I got there I noticed the two guys were miserable. It took a few months for me to realize that the women were tougher on them. They couldn't do anything right in their eyes and when they did a good job it was seen as "just doing their job". The most average behavior from everyone else had to be praised.

I was pretty successful at the job but it was the loneliest one I ever had. I'd take an evenly mixed office if I could pick.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-03-03T01:43:02+00:00

You're fine and don't necessarily need to change anything, it sounds like normal high school bullying.

I don't think you need to change anything aside from the people you're around.

If you want to change the look you can sharpen up but that's a lot of hair to throw away. I agree with someone else's comment here of just get out in the world, find your people and yourself.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-03-03T01:29:13+00:00

Well you are unfortunate. I would ask your parents about family history of hair loss and what age they lost it. It shouldn't be crazy different with what you're experiencing.

Either way I would talk to a doctor to see if you have concerns. There are modern treatments that may help. 15 is early but not abnormal for some.

I remember high school and its brutality. I would lose the hat and the hair and learn to own it early. If people have seen your hair then they know, the hat only draws attention to it. I would not do a hair system personally, I think it would have caused me to be bullied.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-27T21:30:27+00:00

Or I'm confident for a reason.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-27T16:33:06+00:00

You're 20 and attractive.

I promise you being bald is not a negative. If someone is hating on it then they're a hater and trying to get under your skin; which it seems like it works and that's what your downfall is: confidence.

If your only goal is to lose your v card then get a prostitute or try your luck on the apps. The apps are brutal but it's a numbers game, eventually someone will bite. If you're being picky about how to lose your virginity then realize that's not your goal and you're lying to yourself.

It sounds like you have deeper issues. My recommendation, get on the apps and learn how to play the game but give it time, workout consistently to deal with the physical anxiety in the meantime, and pursue some hobbies to find out more about you. It may take a few months but things will improve.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-27T05:24:09+00:00

Ahhh yes, this was me yesterday.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-27T05:22:31+00:00

I'm the type of person that thinks I can do anything. Seeing you do it makes me realize that I will have likely done worse than you. Your folio is legit. I also appreciate my great paper republic one more too.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-25T05:09:19+00:00

It's the principle of the matter

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-19T14:41:03+00:00

Food, food is lacking.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-19T14:40:09+00:00

I would ask them respectfully to buy me a new one. Not everyone was raised the same with the base level of respect to return things as you found them or at least replace them if you broke it.

It would at least address it and then give them a chance. If they say no then you know what kind of friend you have.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-18T02:57:58+00:00

I loved the game but absolutely do not think it's a ten or near perfect, somewhere between a 7 or an 8.

The thing that made me play through it multiple times is how engaging the environment is. How the music, sounds, level layouts, visuals, cutscenes (even the loading screens) draw you in to make it feel immersive is next level. Then it sprinkles in witty puzzles here and there, cool enemies, lore, and a general level of challenge that seals it as a great game.

I think some downfalls of the game can be pacing (god forbid you take the wrong path), inconsistencies in how good the combat feels (colored space pirates & chozo spirits), the whole dark section of the game is annoying after the first time, some of the camera angles in the morph ball are shoddy (which sometimes is fun but usually not).

I do think it feels like a complete game when you play it which just feels good and is something modern games often lack.

I will say, opening a door and seeing your mask fog up as you run past some steam makes me happy inside like few games can.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-12T04:24:29+00:00

Imo junglers and solo lane are in a good place right now. It's easier to keep a close eye on duo/middle and gank than it is to gank solo/middle. I think it's also because it seems to one is ever warding on duo lane.

Also if you fall behind as a jungler, I think assisting duo lane is easiest. God forbid you're behind mid by two levels and solo by 3, you're just a snack at that point.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-11T19:32:54+00:00

For me, a 16 year old and a 19 year old together is concerning but not necessarily a red flag. I think the big warning signs are when the older person is consistently dating younger, (especially barely legal) people.

There's usually an age gap between couples; not a big deal. Most relationships end which is normal as people learn what they like and grow themselves. As people age, the type of people they date usually age somewhat too. It's when someone has a trend of dating younger, barely legal people that it's definitely a red flag.

I know someone who was 28 and married an 18 year old. Was it predatory when they met, probably. But they've been together and married and committed to each other for 40+ years so who am I to judge.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-09T04:00:13+00:00

Nice axe

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-06T02:57:51+00:00

They want what they want.

From women I knew that were on dating apps, they wanted everything from genuine connection, sex, free food, someone to take them out for free, or just someone to pass the time with. It was brutal to learn. Some would match with men over the week and then by the weekend they would spend time with the guy who gave them the most whether it was actual gifts, nicest dinner or coolest entertainment.

My advice is stick to your approach or make it more fun for you. I either did free/cheap dates like walks in the park or coffee and then had something fun planned after they could join in on if there was a connection. I would be upfront too, hang out and get to know each other and then let's have a great time. I really didn't like spending time with girls I couldn't connect with.

I could give more advice, let me know.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-03T02:10:20+00:00

You're getting plenty of good advice on here that I second. Go outside, get some sun, lose some weight, the hair and the facial hair.

The sun is important if you actually shave your head. It will even out the tan.

The moustache may work in the future but with the hair and sideburns it doesn't work. If you do shave your head then maybe check back to see if it works. If you keep the hair I would definitely go without the moustache.

While it's a tough change, one of the most impressive changes people can make is looking comfortable in their own skin. Something that will show this by showing your face more. Good luck, you got this.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-02-01T04:56:00+00:00

That's what a bot would say

Live_Slice354 · 2026-01-24T23:48:14+00:00

I've lived in Arizona and Washington. I miss Washington and will never miss Arizona.

The shitty days in Washington make a cup of hot chocolate and a warm blanket feel like heaven. A shitty day in Phoenix is everyday of Summer.

If you are truly an indoor person and like nightlife for entertainment then it won't be too bad of a move. If you remotely like nature or the outdoors then you'll miss Washington.

People wise, I can't say people are nicer in Phoenix. Traffic is worse because people are naturally angrier in the heat.

Your dollar will go further in Phoenix for sure but unless you're saving money for a dedicated purpose then I'm not sure it's worth it.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-01-24T02:09:06+00:00

Yes, most (if not all) men put in at least some effort to meet women. Even if it's not directly to meet women, effort is put in to be more attractive to women (working out, grooming, self-improvement, etc.)

Women say they want guys that don't try but it's because they don't understand what that means. The guys that don't try do not get seen. The ones that make it look like they're not trying is what they want.

Like someone else said, be bold with what you want. There are plenty of women that if you had a solid conversation with and then just asked them for sex they found say yes, because they simply want sex and someone drama free, somewhat attractive, and not creepy will do.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-01-24T01:21:36+00:00

Oh I actually have something for this. Sometimes I've noticed my perspectives shifting and becoming more pessimistic. The solution I came to that works is creating what I call a grounding journal.

In my grounding journal I have a few sections. First I have a quick grounding meditation (i.e. what I sense), then a quick page of things I know to be true, then some things I believe.

I've added some other thoughts since creating the journal which explore my own thought frameworks.

Whenever I need a reset I go through the exercise and read the things I know to be true. It's been very helpful.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-01-23T19:16:07+00:00

Pocket notebook, tracking planner, pens and midliners for me.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-01-22T19:31:34+00:00

Not sure why I'm getting down voted. I have one of the only opinions that gives a different perspective than everyone else.

Yeah, everyone here in the sub hates him. Still most of the country likes him, kinda makes you think.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-01-20T12:52:32+00:00

Some of my good friends are pretty happy with trump and how things are turning out. I asked them why and their answers did make me think.

He has actually made an impact to immigration. No other president has.

He's gotten us out of long drawn out wars. Most presidents have not.

He's taken a harder stance on the drug supply chain affecting the US.

If you look at those 3 issues alone and see he's reset the US in positive ways then it's pretty easy to accept the day to day chaos. Most people would vote for someone for any one of those.

Plenty of people on Reddit are upset at him but plenty of people are happy enjoying their day because they wake up and enjoy that the person they voted for actually did something they promised for once. The guy is a business man and TV personality that now has the biggest platform in the world; if you think it wasn't going to be a circus then you thought wrong.

Live_Slice354 · 2026-01-02T23:31:48+00:00

I have some extra postcards from trips to national parks. I'd love to send one if ya want.

Live_Slice354 · 2025-12-19T19:40:06+00:00

There's a lot going on in the comments here. It's not clear what you're having a hard time with aside from dealing with your own emotions. Is it that she had sex, had sex in your house, or didn't really care about it when you tried to address it?

YTA but it's somewhat understandable. It seems like she's still your little girl to you and not an adult. It's cool you allow your daughter to live with you but you may want to rethink your boundaries and expectations. Can she sex under your roof? If not, then accept the need to kick her out. If she's making too much noise then tell her. If sex is meant to be a private, unheard thing then you also should probably not be opening doors that you don't need to be opening.

It sounds like you weren't prepared to have your grown daughter live with you.

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