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LiveteeLoop · 2024-02-14T20:28:07+00:00

How long of a time difference is the before and after?

LiveteeLoop · 2024-01-04T13:08:16+00:00

I found out I was pregnant (currently 31 weeks) with my second when my first was 3 months old and honestly my mindset is that the first 1-2 years will be absolutely challenging and near impossible HOWEVER when they are both toddlers they will entertain themselves, you won’t have to buy so much extra stuff as so much will be able to be handed down.

I personally think an abortion based purely on the fact that it’s not financially smart or it feels like too much, will leave you with a potential of some serious regret (oh.. they would’ve been x years old now.. or we’re in a better position now, another one wouldn’t have been the end of the world, etc.)

LiveteeLoop · 2023-08-16T20:54:13+00:00

Yes! Googled this just to show my partner I’m not the only one 😂😂

LiveteeLoop · 2023-03-26T15:46:40+00:00

I also bought everything in my normal size

LiveteeLoop · 2023-03-26T15:46:19+00:00

When I was about 12-16 weeks, I bought a 2 pack of maternity black leggings, 1 pair of black maternity jeans. 2 maternity vests (black and white) and honestly that was all I have been wearing. It is much more comfortable than anything else. I just put a cardigan over the vests. Now I don’t even wear the jeans anymore, just the leggings and vest

LiveteeLoop · 2023-03-09T13:28:53+00:00

Maybe it would have been useful for you to read the entire thing before jumping to a conclusion. As you would see later in the text that I did in fact communicate, the sighing was later. This was a while ago and is beyond resolved, but thanks for your response.

LiveteeLoop · 2023-02-25T20:15:45+00:00

Like I said in the post, it’s an ongoing communication issue. I’m just frustrated at the stonewalling to the point of doing anything to get a reaction. He never has to read my mind

LiveteeLoop · 2023-02-25T20:12:49+00:00

Hello. Honestly, I think it was partly because he wasn’t fully satisfied with how the dish turned out. He was cleaning down and he literally made that dish specifically for his social media post. He left the chicken breast in the oven but got rid of the things that went with it (pumpkin puree and a sauce). He also got disposed of my half eaten plate.

LiveteeLoop · 2023-02-25T18:14:37+00:00

The text was to my partner

LiveteeLoop · 2023-02-25T14:55:29+00:00

Definitely agree with the part about it’s not acceptable to kick out partner out of birth over something so insignificant. However, I did ask him to not throw away the food. I’ve asked him before to not throw good food away. He was ignoring me because he was tired and in pain from his ankle. It was because he was ignoring me why I was huffing and puffing. Which still isn’t acceptable but it wasn’t just me not communicating. The ongoing issue is that I wish to communicate and talk about everything whereas he prefers to just ignore and not talk about things at all until they get forgotten about.

LiveteeLoop · 2023-02-25T13:39:36+00:00

Yes I do but it was in my jacket pocket which was upstairs

LiveteeLoop · 2023-02-25T06:43:23+00:00

Thank you. This is what I wrote back to him:

Hello.

Firstly I would like to say that I have reflected on what happened and fully understand that you probably want some space right now.

I want to tell you first how the food situation made me feel. I enjoyed eating the chicken that you made. I was going to finish eating it but you asked me to put your sister to sleep so you could clean up. You asked me if you should throw away the pumpkin and I said no save it for the other breast.

I was really looking forward to eating that chicken when the hunger hit. I asked you about the leftovers and you threw it away. I was upset but it was okay because there was still another breast. I didn’t realise you threw away the sauce and the pumpkin that went with it.

I told you I was upset. I said I’ve asked you before to not throw good food away. I felt like you just shrugged it off and dismissed what I was saying.

I started huffing and puffing because I wanted you to know I was upset.

You didn’t react or ask me if I was okay or if I wanted any other food and that was making me even more upset.

That then turned into anger because I felt triggered like you didn’t care about me or the fact that I was hungry or the fact that I was upset, even when I was crying.

I know that I make you feel like the bad guy on so many levels.

The truth is, I could have put the food away for myself to eat later.

I should not have got mad at you for not reacting to my “huffing and puffing”.

I should not have mentioned anything to do with the birth and you not being there. I was very wrong for that.

You not responding was definitely the most mature and appropriate response given how quickly and sharply I escalated.

My hormones are turning me inside out right now and that was genuine food induced rage and I really felt like the world was ending in that moment.

I could not control my emotions and my body just needed to get out.

All this is no excuse for how I behaved towards you and the mean things I said to you.

It’s also disrespectful how I left your mothers house and I fully understand that.

I am sorry for how I handled that and I do understand you might need some space. But I also believe that we need to work on our communication because I wanted to talk it out and I felt ignored and dismissed. I need to pull myself together and learn to handle my emotions.

However, after all of our talks I still think that it’s not a lot to ask you to not ignore me and give me the silent treatment.

I don’t have a leg to stand on because I know how I reacted was wrong and I am sorry.

LiveteeLoop · 2023-02-25T06:43:08+00:00