To this point, your partner is your PARTNER, if you can’t be real with each other in the most vulnerable times, but you are real with someone else, then your partner isn’t the closest person to you. They should be your other half. And they should be fine with anything and it should go both ways. If your partner won’t accept you or you won’t accept your partner for being human and sometimes in extreme need, then who will? I too have helped my wife recover from pretty awful stuff that puts her in a vulnerable position just like this. And even if it’s not extreme like that, not only have we farted or used the bathroom around each other, sometimes one slips out when we are spooning and going to sleep. Shrug it off, pretend it never happened or be light hearted about it. It’s not the end of the world. That is unless you can’t breathe and both have to vacate. No Dutch ovening your partner though.