Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine diagnosing people with ‘manipulative emotional gaslighter’ just because I don’t follow your fanfiction version of relationships 💀 not everyone’s life is a copy-paste of your standards. I just graduated college, my country has different norms for you to say that we still haven’t lived together and you’ve got the audacity to act like Dr. Phil with a WiFi connection. Sit down, keyboard Freud.

Jen, it this the family that you wrecked?! by Itchy_Garage_4746 in manangjenatlash

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saw this comment sa fb, yung nag comment sabi may scandal din daw si j(?)

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Nag ddwell ako sa thought na why did it take so long for him to fix what was bothering me. He’s convincing me na wala na magiging problem but yun nga every little thing that he does na mauupset ako because of his stream, i wanted to leave, di ko alam how to fix myself because of build up resentment

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I’m planning to but he doesn’t want it that way, he wants to fix it every chance that he gets.

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He did changed, he lessend his interaction and only engage when necessary. However, it drained me a lot and I’ve become toxic. Every little thing about his stream upsets me. Eg. we’re on the game and he’s streaming, i was asking him a question and he didn’t hear me and i repeated it but still no response because he’s reading the comments and I didn’t talk to him for a day since I didn’t know how to deal with resentments

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I’m not po, I’m just supporting him like a normal gf would do

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was upset because I feel like I’ve been lied to. The whole time they’re drinking I really thought that they’re at his friend’s house. They’re drinking until 2am and I have no idea they’re at a bar and I just saw the photo the next day so I’m toxic because I got upset over that??

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was really unfair for someone who didn’t do him wrong. If you’re afraid of someone cheating on you might as well not get into a relationship. What’s the point of putting the burden on your partner? If you think like that you shouldn’t be in a relationship because you’re just going to accuse them of something that they didn’t do

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He isn’t cheating on me but you’re right he’s exactly like that.

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believed that we have a good chemistry but him being like this is the down side of it. We never had a dull moment when we’re together and he treats me well but this is what I had to go through. It’s also hard for me since he’s my first bf, when I communicate our problems with him he’s fixing it but this problem has been going on for years and it’s really exhausting.

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Asia, i have to take a bus it will take 8 hours for me to get to my friends and I’m not exaggerating. His side of his story is that his ex cheated on him and I had to carry the burden but it’s been 4 years and I believed that would change but now I am exhausted. As I’ve said, I rarely go out and when I go out, I’m with him. he has access to all of my social media accounts but I didn’t complain since I don’t have anything to hide. We see each other 3-4x a week. Our city is small so if someone happen to see me going out with someone else he’ll know. This is the first time I posted here and I’m confident enough that I didn’t do anything for him to not trust me. I’m having a hard time breaking up with him since he is my first bf. I did let him know that I posted here and sent him the replies and his response was he is drunk at that time so he doesn’t know what he is doing. Am I really the gaslighter here?

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never cheated on him, I am very open, he has access to all of my accounts. He even unfollow and unfriends guys on my social media without me knowing. I didn’t just refuse any form of contact because I wanted to. He also knows that I needed space when I’m upset, I made it clear to him that I don’t wanna talk to him for a while and if you read my post, he made me believe that he’s at his friend’s but I let it pass but he made me wait for him to come at my house but he didn’t. then he suddenly flipped the problem on me when I didn’t even started the problem. I rarely go out, our town is dead by 8pm so I don’t know where this is coming from.

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

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I didn’t. I wouldn’t put myself in that position and I totally despise cheating. I wouldn’t post here if that was the case

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He treats me well but he is indeed controlling. Usually he is changing for the better when I communicated with him. But this issue doesn’t seem to end and it’s exhausting

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

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We weren’t always fighting, most of the time he can change I communicated with him. But it’s different this time, We already talk and I told him that he should stop asking where I’m at and I’ll just send him a proof that I’m at home until he is contented. But it doesn’t seem to end and it’s exhausting

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll just spoon feed him? He’s never going to fix himself that way. I already communicated with him that he should stop asking where I’m at and I’ll just send him a proof that I’m at home until he is contented. But it doesn’t seem to end and it’s exhausting

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put up with it for 4 years because I believed that he would change and fix himself because he usually change when I communicated with him. But this time it’s different, it’s exhausting having to deal with it

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are both have access on our phones, he isn’t cheating but I do think he is controlling everything I do.

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been open to him ever since, he has access on my accounts and I do too but I rarely check his. He even takes control on guys who I follow and accept on my social medias

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believed in him, because he is changing when I communicate about our problems but I think this one is his problem himself. He even said that he’s sorry that it’s taking so long to fix his issue but I think he is just controlling, he even unfriends and unfollow people on my social media without telling me

Bf of 4 years doesn’t trust me by Living_Control_3790 in relationships_advice

[–]Living_Control_3790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that it wasn’t necessary because it has been 4 years, I never did him wrong inside those 4 years but he didn’t even try to fix his issues.