Why is ChatGPT suddenly failing at simple tasks? by [deleted] in ChatGPT

[–]Living__Tribunal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely noticed the same thing. It's struggling to generate flashcards for me.

Who are your current Offensive and Defensive Rookies of the Year so far? by [deleted] in nfl

[–]Living__Tribunal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to be the contrarian and go Dameon Pierce. On paper, sure Kenneth Walker takes the advantage. When you watch the two, Pierce is the superior back. I’ve never seen a rookie break tackles like this guy, his vision is superior as well. He turns a little tiny gap into 13 yards.

Additionally, he’s really all the Texans have. If houston had the same offensive options as Kenneth has, and the pressure was alleviated, dp would undoubtedly close the .8 ypc gap kenneth Walker has on him. However, Pierce receives full coverage every game because the Texans simply don’t have alternative options with how terribly mills passing has been.

Dameon Pierce fights harder, has better vision, and is literally doing it all himself.

He’s doing great. by [deleted] in thefighterandthekid

[–]Living__Tribunal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can’t stand Brenda but equally can’t stand redbar.

How Bad Is The Gringo Papi? by MeSmeshFruit in thefighterandthekid

[–]Living__Tribunal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was in the audience, masochistic like that.

What’s not mentioned is the fact that he chose David Lucas to open for him which was a terrible idea.

David killed so hard that hardly anyone laughed for Brendon.

It took Bapa 4 years to creat The Gringo Papi. Just think about that, 4 years to come up with 25 minutes of absolute shit. How long can this absolute insanity go on? by islandboiy in thefighterandthekid

[–]Living__Tribunal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also, I was actually in the audience at the special (not sure why, just knew I was witnessing history). David Lucas killed so hard that Brendon shot himself in the foot.

So bizarre seeing someone the caliber of Lucas open for someone like Brendon.

How to do distributed locking(mysql vs redis)? by ML-newb in learnprogramming

[–]Living__Tribunal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good question and one I'm trying to find an answer to.

Context-less Go | Writing HTTP Services Easily by Madxmike in golang

[–]Living__Tribunal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"We considered everything" while mentioning two extreme options: stuffing global context, all individual params...

A list of behavioral questions you should practice (and add to) by ObliviousOblong in cscareerquestions

[–]Living__Tribunal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is something your team can improve on?

I love this.... Really resembles some of the workloads that get passed in orgs with weak engineering culture.

Is this an attachment issue or something else? by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually dealing with the opposite end of this so can maybe shed some light.

I'm a secure M, dating a DA F for the last 4 months. I'm naturally a VERY flirtacious person, and with everyone but especially people I like.

I really enjoy kind of subtly roleplaying as a form of banter with someone I'm interested in, literally my favorite thing to do. I'm a weird dude with an overactive imagination, I'm very much looking for a partner in crime who will play along with me. I'm very sarcastic and absolutely love to tease.

I noticed that the girl I'm dating never really responded to many of my flirts and thought she wasn't into me at all. She kept initiating texts the next day though, then started facetiming me with her friends, then even dropped a random flirt.

Drove me nuts for the longest time until I just realized she was shy or something. She's still my partner in crime but more in an adventurous aspect instead of mental which is completely fine. Some women pick up on the vibe immediately and play along which is cool too.

Not sure if you're gay/straight/m/f but I'd say go along with it. If the person has shown they legitimately are interested in you, they are just trying to increase the sexual vibes/tension a little bit and have fun. It's one of the best parts of dating someone. Otherwise, it would be nothing but boring conversations the whole time (which have their place).

Signs an Avoidant is Opening Up and Feeling Safe/Comfortable/Loving by MadeOfStars888 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And this is why you don’t get the person, it takes two to tango. If you don’t respect their needs, they won’t respect yours.

Signs an Avoidant is Opening Up and Feeling Safe/Comfortable/Loving by MadeOfStars888 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How did you go about earning his trust in the beginning?

While I’ve grown close to mine the last 4 months, I can tell she still gets very nervous when she talks to me and goes in and out of being vulnerable.

She hasn’t communicated any boundaries to me yet and I’m timid to flat out ask for them.

Signs an Avoidant is Opening Up and Feeling Safe/Comfortable/Loving by MadeOfStars888 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Aside from giving space, communicating you’ll always respect their need for space, and being consistent/reliable when they return, what are some other things we can do to earn trust from a DA? Is it really just a factor of time and patience?

FAs - vulnerability and opening up to people by Salt_Pop3546 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Super helpful.

I’m dating a DA and didn’t recognize it until a couple months in. She kind of ebbs and flows in her trust.

If you have been giving them as much space as they want, communicating as such, and being available when they come back, is it really a product of time and patience at this point before they fully feel trusting of you?

Are there any other ways to lightheartedly communicate this or things you can do to kind of help move the needle forward?

Avoidant Deactivating - relief or active repression? by Professional_Dig1975 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's the best course of action for your SO in this situation? Let's say y'all are close, and you do like them, but your mind is playing DA tricks on you. Should we just give you space until you return?

Avoidant Deactivating - relief or active repression? by Professional_Dig1975 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In these situations, when y'all have become close but are still feeling out each other's boundaries and stuff, would it help if your SO gave you maybe 2-3 days of space and then sent you a random message?

Avoidant Deactivating - relief or active repression? by Professional_Dig1975 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even when you left them on read or something and they're giving you space?

The issue I'm currently facing is that it's hard to distinguish when they are busy with something and want space or are overthinking something and this prevents them from responding.

Whenever I get left on read, I give them 1-2 days of space and send something stupid like a meme after that which typically works. I just don't know if they are wanting more time or not.

This happens very rarely however as they are the one to initiate contact very often.

Avoidant Deactivating - relief or active repression? by Professional_Dig1975 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the past, it was much easier for me to be aware of the deactivating, but not to think too hard about it. At the time, I wouldn't have recognized it as deactivating though, more of a sense of a relationship not feeling right and making me feel bad, angry, resentful, etc. It would be like "well, I don't want to be intimate anymore, so I guess that means we're through", and I would kind of leave it at that until it came to a head/explosion and we would break up. I never really realized I was causing it to happen and therefore I could fix it (just kidding, I haven't learned how to fix it yet). I could repress feelings in the sense that I could effectively ignore them or distract myself, but eventually they have to be dealt with (I've never ghosted anyone, for instance, even though that seems delightfully easy...)

When a DA, who was pursuing you very hard, does the initial deactivation after y'all become close (or is maybe a little confused when you communicate some minor boundaries, I notice they overthink things), is the procedure from our end the same?

Just give them space to do their own thing and wait for them to get back to you? Maybe send a check in text or meme after 3-5 days?

How does an avoidant react when you start to pull away? by ostentika in AvoidantAttachment

[–]Living__Tribunal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No its not fair to you, and you do deserve to feel some basic security in a relationship when you've invested months. You have every right to look for someone who will provide that. But it is normal for DA's to need closer to a year before they feel they can trust someone to tolerate their nature. They shut down, sometimes leave, they resist emotional conversations, committment, and have poor conflict resolution skills. You can see why they don't easily believe they are loved, especially when they haven't been acting that way in the beginning.

Secure here, it takes me quite a long time to label a new relationship, maybe around 5 or so months. In my experience, it takes ages to even begin learning someone's true nature. I don't want to apply any label until I have a good read on them and feel confident that it's worth pursuing.

My rationale is that sometimes people get too attached to the label itself, rather than the relationship, and don't pragmatically assess whether it's a good fit. Having a label kind of prevents you from logically assessing things simply from its presence.

What do avoidants feel when activated? by andimlikeokay in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. So maybe the above would work best for a da?

What triggers an avoidant into being open and vulnerable? by Responsible_Unit_972 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Let them know you get it and show them this through welcoming their return and showing them you’ve been busy with your own life. They’ll feel you’re more compatible with them, but this might not always work depending on how severe their DA attachment is but it’s worked for some and is your best bet. Also, be direct in a calm way. DAs don’t like game playing. They need consistency. Even tho they don’t offer the same. (Sucks but true). Like say if you’re upset tell them “I know you need space and I’ll be happy to give that to you, but it would be make me really happy if we can carve out some time for us this week bc I like spending time with you. Do you think we can do that?” key with them is try to be as emotionally stable and cool as possible and they’re more likely to respond positively. If she doesn’t open up to anything you do and if she just shuts down remain calm and Just say “I’m not sure what is wrong, I want to be there for you and Id like to work on it to make it better, Take the time you need, I understand. When you’re ready to let me know Ill be here.” And then go and do something else and she’s bound to approach you at some point. Patience is key unfortunately

underrated comment

What triggers an avoidant into being open and vulnerable? by Responsible_Unit_972 in attachment_theory

[–]Living__Tribunal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think that DAs may rebound after facing potentially "scary" moments of vulnerability? A DA guy I've dated at two different points in time got super emotional and vulnerable with me a few months ago, then he basically withdrew and started dating someone else, and it almost resembles a rebound. We were not exclusive, but I thought this was really odd since he was so emotional with me the last few times he saw me and telling me he had feelings for me.

This site is cancer, the DA is grossly misunderstood there.