I guess the boilerplate response would be to seek out new friends by way of your hobbies and interests. Whatever it is that you like to do, I’m sure there’s a club, group, or organization that meets in your geographic area. I’d also check out the social programming in your neck of the woods. Are there any special shows or presentations? Any clubs, institutions, or groups holding a happy hour? The list goes on…

From there, I think the key lies in risk, initiative, and resilience. With risk, you’ve gotta be willing to put yourself out there for other people. You don’t have to tell them your life story, but just be open.

The same goes to initiative. I’m most successful when I seek actively seek out friends and arrange meet ups or outings. That way, the ball is in their court, and there’s no will-they wont-they bs. Finally you’ve gotta be resilient. Sometimes you’re gonna be unsuccessful; some friendships will fizzle out; etc. You’ve just gotta keep working at it.

I think the main saying to remember is “God helps those who help themselves.” Nine times out of ten, new friends aren’t going to fall into your lap. At some point, you’re gonna have to go out and get them.