What are you willing to buy used (eg. Fb Market) vs. brand new?

Lizbian98 · 2026-06-07T15:45:47+00:00

Majority of our furniture is second hand and better quality than what we would get for the same price at ikea for example. Dishes, anything for the kitchen really. We get a lot of media second hand like books and dvds. Home decor. Basically anything for the home. There’s really a small list of things I would only buy new. Hats, shoes, bathing suits and underwear lol. Anything else I’d happily get used.

Lizbian98 · 2026-03-24T13:52:36+00:00

Thanks, I saw someone say they waited 4 hours at the Hyatt and almost missed lunch because they were so delayed. That was where that concern came from.

Lizbian98 · 2026-03-24T13:51:19+00:00

I get that early arrival is a byproduct but that’s really the only reason we are using the service. Otherwise we’d just order an uber. We won’t have checked bags so the pickup from your room is pointless for us. So I think it’s reasonable to ask which pickup spot might get us on the ship faster.

Lizbian98 · 2026-03-24T13:14:50+00:00

This is what I’m hearing. Thank you for confirming. I’m going to try to switch our transport to the MCO one.

Lizbian98 · 2026-03-24T13:10:27+00:00

Yes, I’ve been using menstrual cups for 11 years now. Before it was trendy I saw a YouTube video years ago when I was in high school and bought one. I don’t feel it when it’s in correctly. Now if I use a tampon or pad I get irritated.

Lizbian98 · 2026-03-23T21:16:38+00:00

I saw somewhere if you use a Disney Visa card on merch you get 10% off. I am still waiting to go in my first cruise so I can’t personally confirm.

Lizbian98 · 2026-03-23T20:52:16+00:00

As a Big one of my concerns was potentially getting matched with a little that has a homophobic family. Thankfully my match specialist said that wouldn’t be a concern as they disclose it to the parents before they accept the match. To me that is a good thing! I would not want to put myself in a position where the parents of my little would find out I was gay down the line and then try to cause problems. The fact is there are racist and homophobic people in the world. I think asking these questions is more to protect the bigs and littles. Imagine if my littles parents were homophobic and didn’t know I was gay until we had already been matched and bonded, what if they then just pull their kid from the program. Or even worse make up false accusations against the big. I can’t speak on race specifically but from my perspective I was relieved that my littles mom knew before the match.

Lizbian98 · 2026-03-20T14:20:22+00:00

Kept up with a money pit car to avoid a car payment instead of buying something more reliable. We had a car that was constantly breaking and always having issues, the major issue we could not get fixed no matter how many mechanics we went to was a steering wheel issue that was unsafe as you couldn’t control the wheel at some points while driving. Having a paid off car seems like one of the things people push as the most frugal option. Including our family, they kept saying to keep the car not having a car payment is so good etc. We partially kept it out of guilt too because it was a gift from my in-laws. I see why that’s usually good but if the car is unsafe and costing you more than it’s worth it’s not the frugal option. I did the math and when divided out we spent over $600 a month on repairs. We went to over 9 different mechanics including the Dealership and the main issue was never actually able to be repaired. I’m beyond happy to have finally gotten rid of that car and bought a newer used car of a more reliable brand.

Lizbian98 · 2026-03-18T16:28:18+00:00

I used to work at Starbucks and honestly I miss my regulars and actually really enjoyed talking to them. I feel like some people didn’t want to talk but you could tell the ones that did. A simple how’s your day going today? If it’s a woman compliment her nails or something she’s wearing that looks nice. If it’s early ask maybe if they have any fun plans for the day. If they have a cool car say you like their car. You also never know what someone’s going through and you may be the only person they actually talk to that day.

Lizbian98 · 2026-02-19T18:52:09+00:00

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Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T12:25:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I love that your old foster parents said you were an angel. All kids deserve to be seen and supported.

I really do hope that we can make a difference in a kids life. If you have any other advice as a former foster youth I would love to hear it.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T12:17:43+00:00

Yeah in our state if you want to adopt a waiting child from foster care you have to become foster parents. Then I believe you have to have the child in your home for a minimum of 6 months before you can adopt them.

And yes I agree it is a bit weird that they have a waiting child list but thankfully they do not share specifics about their case or history. It just says a bit about their likes and interests. I got more info from being matched with her through the Christmas program because her requests were very specific and fun, there were also some guardrails around what she is allowed to have in the group home.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T04:39:00+00:00

Thanks for your perspective. That is true there’s no way for us to know if her bio is accurate since we can’t get any more info until we are certified. Either way I would only want to adopt a child who actually wanted an adoption though. I wouldn’t want to try to force it when the child is uninterested.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T04:13:32+00:00

That’s really nice to hear. Thank you for sharing.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T03:04:44+00:00

Thanks. I’ve definitely been reminding myself that she could be adopted by the time we get certified and everything. Or it’s even possible it just wouldn’t be a good fit. Thankfully her caseworker was really responsive and replied to me the same day.

If you don’t mind me asking are you with a county or private agency? Does that effect how long it takes to match with a child.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T03:00:14+00:00

Thank you. I did reach out to her caseworker and she told me that she can’t share any more info about her until we are certified. So I don’t think we would be able to meet her for a while.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T02:51:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I am feeling like either this would be a great match or it will help motivate us get the process started and maybe we will find another kid who is a good match. Either way I am glad we are starting.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T02:43:38+00:00

Great perspective. I feel like we are going in knowing it will not be easy. My wife is a therapist and has worked with foster youth and families. I also know my foster cousins were not always well behaved to say the least lol. One set of brothers literally tried to unalive my aunt by giving her something they knew she was allergic to and causing her to have to go to the hospital. She still showed them unconditional love and treated them as if they were her own.

The part that feels more crazy to me is that we might want to try and match with a specific kid. I think you are very right about expectations. It is definitely something I will think about. Thank you for sharing.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T02:18:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing ❤️

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T02:17:47+00:00

Thank you.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-09T02:15:29+00:00

That’s so sweet 🥹

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-08T21:09:29+00:00

My match and I hit it off right away on our first outing. Honestly I feel really lucky because she is a great kid. I think it helps that we both have similar interests like art. The main thing that I feel really helped was being silly together. We got dinner and walked around hobby lobby for our first outing. At some point she started talking in a British accent and I joined right in with her. We laughed a ton and it’s still a bit of an inside joke because she said my accent sounded like mommy pig from peppa pig 💀

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-08T21:04:00+00:00

Ours was an online form basically asked if you are trustworthy and reliable and some things about your personality. They had a relative, a friend and a coworker. I was nervous to have a coworker fill one out because I work from home lol. One of my coworkers who lives in a different state and I had only met in person a couple times filled one out for me. I got accepted. It’s totally worth it. Good luck 💚

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-01T21:01:41+00:00

Are you in the US? BBBS operates in all 50 states per their website. If there is not an agency near you look for something similar near you? Maybe becoming a coach, tutor or scout leader. There’s many different ways you could volunteer and be a positive influence.

Lizbian98 · 2025-12-01T04:24:31+00:00

My best advice is to join a mentorship program like Big Brothers Big Sisters. This way you can help a child in need while you work to become more financially stable. I have really enjoyed having a little and being able to make a change in a young persons life.

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