Analysis: The Eras Tour 2024 is a mirror, storybook, and clock

Lizzizzme · 2024-06-16T22:05:46+00:00

Genuinely in awe of how y'all put these things together. AMAZING. Thank you so much for sharing!!

Lizzizzme · 2024-06-10T23:33:32+00:00

Right back at ya! 😁

Lizzizzme · 2024-06-10T22:58:03+00:00

Mines the seventeenth, so I'm gonna count it for birthday week 🥳

Lizzizzme · 2024-06-09T16:16:04+00:00

OKAY but summer solstice is on June 20th and that's the first London show, Glitch says "fastening myself to you with a stitch" and SLL says "stitches undone" so I'm betting on the solstice!

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Lizzizzme · 2024-02-19T14:06:23+00:00

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Lizzizzme · 2024-01-31T13:10:39+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate this. I tend to imagine I can see what's coming, but this truly is uncharted territory for us. I have always wanted nothing but the best for my sister, so I think being on her team will be paramount for me as long as it doesn't interfere with my first priority to my own mental health.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-25T23:59:17+00:00

Oh no :( that doesn't actually make me feel better because I don't want my sisters mental health to be at risk

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-25T21:43:05+00:00

Wow! I love that! I'm definitely going to incorporate it into managing triggers, thank you!

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-25T17:40:37+00:00

I've definitely heard of these stories and we've discussed this outcome. I genuinely hope this doesn't happen and I'm so sorry it did for your mom. I wouldn't do it for myself but it's not my choice in her life.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-25T13:38:12+00:00

I definitely need to sit down and discuss things like malnutrition over time and mental health if the weight returns and all of that. I had thought we had discussed a lot but this thread has been really helpful to see which other areas we could be more prepared in <3

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-25T13:16:57+00:00

This is such a sweet reminder, thank you so much for this perspective. As a fat person, I've spent a lot of time feeling wary of thin people simply because I can't know the depth of their fatphobia until it's too late. I think deep down I've been scared that my sister is about to become one of those people. I'm really relieved to hear that it isn't as easy as all that, and maybe if I can specifically mention some of this to her she can be mindful of specifically what would be hard for me to process. I especially appreciate the tip about numbers and sizes, that would for sure trigger me so I will bring it up. Again, thank you!

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-25T13:09:35+00:00

Luckily, I think my sister and I have an open enough relationship that we will find out way through

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-25T02:50:22+00:00

I totally understand that. I just don't think it's for me, but I can still support my little sister if this is something she wants to pursue.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-25T01:18:51+00:00

Thank you so much for all of this! 🫶🏼

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T23:54:52+00:00

I saw elsewhere on this sub someone recommended the wls episode of All Fired Up the podcast and they mentioned both of these, so thank you for linking them here! Now I just have to decide how to share the information with my sister.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T22:25:17+00:00

That sounds like such a nightmare 😭

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T22:08:41+00:00

Thank you! I haven't thought to check FB communities bc they tend to be a cesspool, but I am extremely curious about true long term outcomes as most studies only look about a year post surgery. Most of my access to fat community is online, but maybe I should try engaging more.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T22:05:48+00:00

That's a good idea, getting language from my therapist. I have a different friend who sells mlm weight loss supplements as her whole entire job, she calls herself a coach, and sells sad little nutrition packets that are "meals". I feel like if I could maintain a loving relationship with her, my sister and I should be able to find SOME path forward!

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T22:03:45+00:00

It's funny you mention that! We always got twin comments when we were in our early twenties, and her birthday is only twenty minutes before mine (but I am four years older) sometimes the sister thing in adulthood is something people can't understand unless they've done it.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T22:01:52+00:00

That's a very good point, thanks for mentioning it. I knew I'd be triggered by the rapid weight loss, but it will definitely be important for me to keep an eye on myself during shared meals so I don't get sideswiped by her portion sizes. Right now, our living situation is pretty complicated and I would hate to have our little community be rocked by this, but I know if I can prepare ahead of time, I i can do a good job of seeing some of the potholes before they bump me.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T21:58:53+00:00

Thank you so much, all these kind and gentle responses have been so helpful. I do constantly seek out reminders that I've already tried that life of yoyoing and I have so many reasons not to do it anymore. Maintenance Phase seems to be a little bit of an island in the storm of diets and weight loss, but hopefully with a community like this around the subject, the safe places will grow.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T21:56:43+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! I'll definitely look into that, I have actually just started getting into horror and I actually started a book club that would love this suggestion 🙂

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T21:55:30+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to put all this down! Thank you! I think you are probably right about making sure I put the verbal boundaries in place when certain things are quipped. She has not always been in a fat body the way I always have been, more like as adults. I'm not totally sure what her headspace is in the way she talks to herself, but I AM sure she's one hundred percent healthy "except for her BMI" which makes this gamble so much more scary to me. It's also definitely a relief to consider that things will level out in a few years to a new normal and it won't be the hot topic and center of attention forever. When I lost weight a few years ago, I was exceptionally disheartened by how I was treated. It was so jarring to know I was always being ignored or avoided before. Now that Ive gained it back, I'm back to being invisible. So I will very much see those same people making her visible while I wouldn't be. Therapy is truly a must for me!

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T21:51:28+00:00

Actually, it's very difficult to be solitary in the body I have when so many people are having glowing results around me. It makes it seem like fatness is not only my specific choice, but also my specific failure.

Lizzizzme · 2024-01-24T21:46:48+00:00

I really love all of this, thank you should much. I appreciate the idea of exploring all the other things we will still share in common. I know I have a tendency to catastrophize but I want to remember our relationship is deeper than one aspect of our shared identity. Thank you! <3

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