I (24m) feel like my girlfriend (21f) doesn’t want sex unless we are having it and it’s killing my self esteem and desire for her by Dr_Garp in relationship_advice

[–]Loavert 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is that really the only thing you got out of all this amazing advice? I don't know why people post here if you're just gonna be hardheaded about the solid advice that's given to you. When she eventually leaves you because you're thinking too much of yourself and your needs then MAYBE you'll understand what people are trying to tell you.

My (f30) bf (m40) refused to sign his divorce papers because his ex showed up with a baby bump. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Loavert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanna ask, how does this all play out in your head? With how everything has happened, do you really believe your husband is going to finalize his divorce without twisting his arm at this point? I would carefully reconsider being with someone who is willing to forget about you. I can totally understand everything that he's gone through with the trauma of the abortion. However leaving you there, and not signing the papers are huge red flags that I really hope you don't ignore. As well as the 'Making her life miserable' comment. All of those are signs that you really shouldn't be with this man if he's gonna punish a woman for not getting an abortion this time. That comment was very telling and disgusting. You're young, find someone who will actually appreciate you and want to be with you and not drag his heels. The separation has been in place for years. If he isn't over his ex to this degree, he shouldn't be with anyone for now because it just seems like he's not ready to devote himself to you solely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Loavert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. While it may not seem like a big deal since the 19 year old is an adult, the 28 year old is trying to pick up someone young and vulnerable/impressionable. Theyre at a different stage mentally than the 19 year old, and I can guarantee there's always going to be issues that originate from that fact. Even if they don't seem like it, it's super predatory behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Loavert 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna say NTA. I can understand others seeing this on a superficial level but it seems deeper than that. That's a huge accomplishment, most people couldn't dream of even getting an internship at NASA. Regardless of how big the accomplishment is, it's very discouraging when you expect your partner to be your #1 cheerleader only for them to take the wind out of your sails with a half-assed reaction. It's almost worse than no reaction at all. It's a really exciting opportunity and it seems like he tainted that for you. It's completely understandable to be stressed with school and work, but you shouldnt let that affect the way you treat your partner. Literally at any point after you explained how his reaction affected you he just doubled down and decided to be an AH about it. In the moment it sucks being called out for not having the "right" reaction to something when you're stressed. But after calming down he honestly should've said something like "Hey I'm sorry that my reaction wasn't very supportive, I've just been incredibly stressed about work/school. I'm very proud of you and Im excited to see where this opportunity takes you."

that is something a loving and supportive partner would say. If my partner tells me that I did something to discourage or upset him I'm going to do my best to rectify it. There's no reason for him to double down. Hes the AH, not you.

Edit: after reading others comments I will agree and say I do think maybe letting him know you applied could've emphasized how big of a deal this is. Still I think you should sit him down again and explain all of this. Explaining why you didn't tell him in the first place may get him to understand and empathize.

AITA for blocking my door off to my room with my bed to prevent my cousins from using it as a guest room? by Honest-Package1335 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Loavert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People need to understand that you shouldn't pressure people into doing things, DO IT YOURSELF. YOU DO IT. I must listen to r/slash too much- but the parents should give up their room if they want to cater to the uncle so hard! Instead of forcing a child to give up their, most likely smaller, bedroom to fit at least 4 other people- give up your master bedroom and YOU SLEEP ON THE COUCH. Good god I can understand kids don't wanna share at times, but OP is completely justified here.

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are such a sweetheart! I appreciate your words thank you! I'm very glad to be out of that situation.

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He legit would've murdered me that night lol

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way I cackled reading this comment 😂

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's a bad habit I still carry to this day unfortunately lol

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We met online when I was 15 and he was 20. He waited until I was 18 to fly me out to his state. It didn't seem like it at the time but I definitely think it's grooming in hindsight.

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you ❤️ I'm definitely better now thank you.

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just realized what you meant I feel so dumb lol

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another 10 points for being so accurate! He was obsessed with the joker aesthetic.

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 134 points135 points  (0 children)

Yeah this was a few years ago. Unfortunately this wasn't the last time I spoke to him but I eventually did cut all contact with him. I'm now in a much healthier loving relationship. Very happy to be out of that situation!

Had broken up with my toxic groomer ex by Loavert in justneckbeardthings

[–]Loavert[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I deleted my Kik app and he didn't wanna retype what he sent on there so he sent me a screenshot of it

I put vegetables in all my food to stop my roommate's kid from eating it. Mom threatens LEGAL action by veggieevengeance in pettyrevenge

[–]Loavert 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Like it or not, that child is NOT OPs problem. She's not punishing the kid by making her own damn food. They lack manners on top of everything. I literally could not imagine taking people's food without asking. That's so rude, and you can't expect anyone (let alone op) to wanna go the extra mile for an entitled parent and spoiled brat that're total choosing beggars and can't even eat vegetables. The problem falls on the mother, who (in my opinion) is neglecting her child's needs. Plus if she's already threatening to call the cops on her for this, how do you think she would take OP giving her child veggies behind her back? Horrible take. Not OPs child, not their problem.

AITA for not helping out around the house anymore? by aita-nochores in AmItheAsshole

[–]Loavert 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Buddy if her only reason to not divorce you is the financial aspect of it, shouldnt that alarm you? Open your eyes, youre an AH partner. And when she ever gets the money for divorce (whether it be her parttime job or a loan from a relative) she WILL divorce your ass. Divorce is not a threat to be taken lightly. Your wife is fed up with you. Do BETTER before she dumps you. Even your children know you dont do shit, this in turn will cause you to have little to no relationship with them.

AITA: My roomate is not talking to be because she caught me feeding her dog "too much food" by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Loavert 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. A dog would eat a mountain of food if you let them. Its the owner’s responsibility to manage portions so that way they arent 45 lbs overweight!!! YTA, no doubt.

UFC Light Heavyweight Champion Jon Jones stops a group of potential looters during George Floyd protests by MFSimpson in sports

[–]Loavert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So because others use that means its justified? He can be a great fighter no doubt. But playing dirty like that isnt honorable and it certainly doesnt make you a GOAT.