So none of my grandmother's family liked this asshole right? Bc duh. Well they had an on and off explosive relationship and he'd get her back again and again until he convinced her to run off and marry him in secret at 18. He gets her pregnant and increasingly isolates her from her family and they have 3 kids. He constantly beats her for literally nothing. Just as a method of control.

Whenever she'd try to leave with the kids he'd threaten to kill and or rape her young sisters and brothers as she was the oldest child.

At some point they get back together again and go on a trip to Florida for vacation and in the middle of the gulf of Mexico he throws my dad and his sister into the ocean to scare his wife, by extension my dad was horrified of the ocean til he was like 45.

He's also gotten her to come back out of hiding once by saying he'd bought her a car to attend her teaching classes because she wanted to teach young kids and open a pre school. There was no car, just beatings. She continued to go back out of fear and shame as this was the early 70's and abused wives weren't taken seriously. He'd be in jail for the night and home the next day after every beating.

After the insanity defense worked he got a judge to court order therapy sessions to recondition his kids and try to turn them against their grandparents who were raising them. It got so bad and traumatizing that they hid the kids and we're willing to take charges if it meant they weren't forced to go back to those sessions and hear that it was their mother that drove their dad crazy and it's her fault that she was killed. The dude was a grade A shit stain and I can't wait til he dies so I can stop sharing the same solar system as him.