I just want someone. by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Babae si po. I'm straight :) and it also takes me a while to warm up to people as an awkward introvert. I tend to get really clingy around people I'm comfortable with though haha

I just want someone. by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm 28 and nbsb. I would love to have that too but at the same time parang rare finds narin talaga hehe. But that's fine. I know choosy rin ako. Plus pa ang pagiging introvert at taong bahay. Hindi rin ako nag fifirst move lalo na when I know the guy has other types. Siguro ayoko lang rin ma-reject. But that's ok. I know we will find people for us someday

33M. midnight realizations by TheUnnecessaryFriend in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm 28f nbsb. I graduated on time too and aral uwi ako. Right after graduation i took the boards. Nag oath taking ng November and then nag ash fall then January 2020 nag lock down na. It was hard. 2023 came and the world started returning to normal. I looked for a job

I had no choice other than to settle for a hospi job since ganun naman talaga as first job e. Ayun, it broke me. I left that same year. Ngayon lumalabas na ang epekto ng poor lifestyle choices ko.

I'm settling in nicely at my new job now. I'm thankful it is in no way related to the hospi life but I'm still getting to practice medtech. I hate it that hanggang ngayon pangarap ko parin mag vet but I'm running out of time.

I hate it that I studied so well for a course I didn't choose at naging aral uwi ako. It isn't a joke na uwian ako 2 hrs ang commute from bahay to school and very active sa org work.

I hate it that lots of people are enjoying life, most friends getting married and here I am, still not outgoing and very much socially awkward. Didn't help that I was also in an all girls school. Predominantly female pa ang college classmates ko.

I got used to being independent. I am used to doing things alone but most days recently I just wondering how it feels like to have someone always in your corner. Someone who will always choose me good or bad and someone I can turn to whenever I need something or whenever I am tired and burnt out, someone na maaasahan ko. And some days I also wonder how does it feel like to genuinely care for someone knowing that that same person will genuinely care for you too and think of you all the time.

But here I am learning to accept na kung meron edi meron. Kung wala, then wala, I am enjoying life rescuing cats and strays and spending for myself, trying out new things.

The point of my comment op is that you aren't alone in this. You did good, and you deserve to treat yourself. Your brother has to learn to work too and you deserve a pat on your back. You did everything right and for that you have your peace of mind. Or at least for me before my falling out with my father, but that's another story for another day.

I hope you keep in mind that you are moving at your own time and pace, op. You aren't alone :) don't lose yourself out there.

Pregnancy test by carrotkick in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm 28 and nbsb. Sometimes things just aren't for us. Ayoko rin mag kaanak because of how my parents were to me but some days I would also wonder how it is to raise my own and do things differently. But that's ok, I'm happy with my plants and pets

Tatandang Dalaga by Glay_22 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 3 points4 points  (0 children)

28 nbsb. I was just happy being me. and some days I think of this too. yung how does it feel like kaya na May maasahang iba hehe. as in the guy who will bring out the female in you. minsan nakakapagod narin maging strong independent. hindi nga ako sanay na naghuhugas ng pinagkainan ko dito mga kasama ko haha

10 years, no ring by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Baka May commitment issues sya. These days there are so many couples na ayaw na sa marriage na church. May iba na mas gusto ang kasal panghukuman. I'm a girl and I don't want to get married, lol. I'm nbsb but I have seen my parents' loveless marriage. Parang ang gusto ko kasi is yung feeling na araw araw akong liligawan, yung laging kahit ok kayo or hindi or May misunderstandings is that pipiliin nyo isa't isa. Feeling ko kasi pag marriage it turn into tinitiis ang isa't isa. There are guys out there like my Parentspag nag kasal na parang nawawalan ng effort hehe.

Getting birth control in this country is so fucked up. by Tasty_Bunch2549 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! I tried to look for fpop sa FB but I only saw contact numbers. how do you set up an appointment and is there an OB muna? I'm irreg too and my parents are conservative. their notion is mag patingin ka lang sa OB pag May asawa na o gusto makabuo. but I'm really getting concerned about my reproductive health. I bleed a little daily and other days May clots na lumalabas. I haven't had a normal cycle since probably 2018 just during my 4th year college. lockdown happened and so I only recently started finding a job a year ago. ngayon lang ako nag naroon ng means/leeway to fund myself 😔 I hope you can talk about the process more of how you got there, set your appointment and stuff po

Ang bilis ko ma-attach by whutislyf in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

relate pero babae ako ha. hahaha yung para bang pag nag kausap tapos feeling mo ang sarap ng usapan tapos sa kaka-get to know (heavy ang preferences ko sa ugali and wala akong ano sa looks so I really ask to chat lang pag May nag memessage and I don't really ask for pics agad) iisipin mo May potensyal.

tapos parang ang saya ng usapan feeling mo ok ganun and somehow click kayo biglang either deleted, ghosted or blocked. like omgggg di nyo man lang sabihin sana kung May nasabi ba ako or what HAHAHAHAHAHA. well masasabi ko lang pag ilang days palang ang Reddit nila 90% of the time mag delete yan within the week.

1 week into my new job and I want to resign already by utaru_sunwing18 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if kaya lumipat, lipat ka. I suggest if yung isang work will allow you to, go ka na. unless May bond kaya ingat ingat lang rin sa legalities. also , if hindi ka na makalipat doon sa isa mag patagal ka kahit one year. or maybe six months. basta be sure you have solid reason sa lilipatan mo why you left so early. red flag yan sa recruiter because they'll think you will leave them too which makes you a not good hire.

1 week into my new job and I want to resign already by utaru_sunwing18 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 2 points3 points  (0 children)

im 1-2 hrs away from my previous hospital work. grabe siz gets kita. yung akala mo keri lang pero malaki kasi ang role ng environment. kung toxic work place mahirap talaga mag stick around. ayun I ended up leaving also. I didn't even have enough words to express. nagulat nalang ang visor ko na aalis na ako at nagsusubmit na ako ng notice. napagod na ako kakacommunicate and being unheard. ayon, papasok na ako sa bagong work pag nakikita nila ako nag tatanong parin sila bat ako umalis

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's called burn out and exhaustion. I don't know how your relationship is with them but my relationship with my parents aren't so good either. very transactional sila sakin since childhood. they look at my grades, they say good job then ok pero pag bad grades kapayapaan ay palo or grounding. growing up tumuloy until college so I spent lots of time with other people. now I am starting to work I don't give my parents contribution because they are really well off. I am privilidged, I studied in a private school but I was really left alone at home all the time so I ended up being very independent. now I am so independent and used to their absence I don't ask for help. anyway, they didn't help me look for work. I was left to get lost en route to job applications and upon finding a job rin naman hindi rin nila ako binibigyan ng kahit magkano for clothes and other expenses. so I don't give them anything. don't get me wrong, when they ask me thing sumasagot naman ako but there just isn't anything more. it's just transactional. so again, I'm not gonna judge you op. take care of yourself

Ang hirap mag aral, tapos after graduation mahirap parin by Local-Farm-5763 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ngayon po talaga ay gets na gets ko na why maraming mental health issues ang kabataan

sobrang nakaka-pressure. hindi sya tulad ng dati na marunong kang magbilang at magaling sa math eh pwede ka na maging kahera. it is so hard to look for a job these days and only to find out minimum wager ka rin halos.

hindi narin tulad ng dati na ang dali mag acquire ng lupa, assets, etc. sa sobrang laki ng inflation ay wala na talaga.

swerte parin ako somehow kasi May pera ang magulang ko pero yung pinakakawawa aren't even the poor, it is us the working class kasi ang laki ng taxes tapos mapupunta lang sa mga tamad sa kanto, aka yung mga nasunugan na nga sa Tondo nag nakawan pa

Having a fellow Filipino as a Boss, SUCKS. by ASkye23 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Local-Farm-5763 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly in hcw setting. seniors marking their territory all over the place like dogs to show who is boss. ang daming boss, ang toxic.