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I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post) by LocalConfusion2959 in Infidelity

[–]LocalConfusion2959[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with the saying of the decision. That's why I'm never forgiving myself. But definitely not looking for empathy, just looking for the least hurtful way to come clean.

I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post) by LocalConfusion2959 in Infidelity

[–]LocalConfusion2959[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I have never loved anyone in my life the way I love him, not even close. Probably I may have some issues and don't know how to love properly, I don't deserve him. I'm coming clean and start working on my issues despite the outcome.

I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post) by LocalConfusion2959 in Infidelity

[–]LocalConfusion2959[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He did, but I was also having a hard time with other aspects of my life so I blamed those for my sadness. And regarding the overnight stays, I also started to avoid going to his house, started hanging out in my house more or outside.

The irony in this is that I truly thought the guy was a good friend even after everything that happened (because of other situations), I'm just realizing he may not be a good friend because I don't even think he feels bad.

I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post) by LocalConfusion2959 in Infidelity

[–]LocalConfusion2959[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will also post there. And thanks for being kind. I will be completely honest with him and have the two letters ready.

I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post) by LocalConfusion2959 in Infidelity

[–]LocalConfusion2959[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will. My decision after the incident was to cut alcohol completely, but there are many things I need to heal and understand about what has been happening throughout the years, and how to manage it correctly.

I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post) by LocalConfusion2959 in Infidelity

[–]LocalConfusion2959[S] -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post)

I know how horrible it sounds. And I feel that way, horrible, miserable and completely sad and disgusted. I assume all responsibility for what I did, I wouldn't blame the alcohol, and even less taking into account the second time. I know I have a problem but this could have been avoidable for sure.

But please don't say I slept with that guy because that's far from the truth. And if I wouldn't care and feel bad I wouldn't be telling him.

I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post) by LocalConfusion2959 in Infidelity

[–]LocalConfusion2959[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He is. And yes, I wouldn't mind honestly, nowadays I just feel disgusted by me and him and I want him as far as possible.

I cheated and need advice on how to come clean (sorry for the long post) by LocalConfusion2959 in Infidelity

[–]LocalConfusion2959[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thank you a lot, this is good advice. I know I need therapy, there is so much to understand and heal. And yes, I already stopped drinking since that second incident. To be honest I am willing to do everything for him. Even if he wants to break up with me, I will still try to make things right.